Getting emotionally dumped on by a narcissist

Written by Angela Atkinson

How many times has it happened to you? You love someone who you think loves you back. But when that person is a narcissist, all bets for a happy and emotionally safe relationship are off. So what is it that causes the narcissist to dump on you emotionally? Why are narcissists so mean to you when they’re stressed or upset about something OUTSIDE of you?

Why does the narcissist emotionally dump on you?

Are you tired of getting emotionally dumped on by a narcissist? When a narcissist is stressed about anything in their life, they take it out on their primary source of narcissistic supply – and most likely, if you’re here, watching this video, you’re it, my friend. As you might know, narcissists are secretly incredibly insecure – and that’s why they tend to “pass the hot potato” when they feel like they can’t handle their emotions.

Narcissists tend to dump their emotional garbage on you to relieve themselves of their pain and suffering.
Often when this has happened, the narcissist suddenly feels better and finds themselves feeling great – meanwhile, having served as an emotional dumpster takes its toll on you – the victim and primary source of narcissistic supply.

How does the narcissist’s emotional dumping affect you?

Life with a narcissist is already stressful, right? But when they start using you as a proverbial “emotional dumpster,” things feel so much more desperate. Not only do they use you as a way to relieve their stress and struggles, but it seems like they want to hurt you sometimes. And they do.

Worse, they can be so cruel that they cause you to live in fear, anxiety, and depression. There is no level to which the narcissist will not stoop to hurt you.

This is why they go so far as to seek out precisely the “right” buttons to push; that part of you that has been left scarred. You know – those most painful triggers that make you lose it, thanks to the most agonizing traumas in your life – before and during the relationship. As a rule – the more serious your injuries from life have been – the greater your chances are of being targeted by the narcissist.

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  • Angela Atkinson

    Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own. Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves. Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse here at and at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.

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