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As the rest of the world woke up at four am to go Black Friday shopping, I decided to skip it. I have never enjoyed it–and in fact, it causes me a significant amount of anxiety. I am not a fan of big angry crowds, and the year I took my middle child along (who was a baby at the time), I was pushed by a shopper desperate for a deal and nearly dropped him.

So, after enjoying Thanksgiving with my extended family yesterday, I decided that today, I’d stay home and get caught up on my writing, and have a slow and easy day with my family. I’m letting my husband sleep in, and the kids and I are just having a lazy, cartoon watching morning.

You’re probably wondering what this lazy day of mine has to do with personal fulfillment. Well, let me break it down for you. (Yes, I was a child of the eighties, forgive the lame terminology!)

The bottom line is that while many of my extended family members wanted me to join them in the Black Friday frenzy, I made the choice to do what works better for me and my family. Sometimes, we have to learn to say no. It is so easy to fall into the trap of doing what others want you to do, and it can be hard to learn to stand up for yourself.

And, while this will surely make other people in your life happy, you are likely to end up tired, dissatisfied, and angry. Instead, take a moment to think about what YOU want.

Understand that I am not saying you should shirk responsibilities (especially those related to your kids or family), but when possible, do what makes YOU happy, even if that means sitting on your couch and doing nothing all day. Sometimes, we all need a break.

Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t measure up to someone else’s idea of success. Instead, decide what YOU believe is success. Ask yourself a question. If you could have/be/do anything in the world, what would it be? Really think about this. What was the first thing that came to your mind?

Your answer indicates at least one way that you personally define success. So, your challenge for the day is this: take at least ten minutes (longer if you can) today to do something that makes you happy. Anything at all. Don’t worry if it doesn’t seem to move you toward your goals–because ultimately, being happy is the most important thing. So what makes you happy? How do YOU define success?

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5 Responses to Give Yourself a Break

  1. I completely agree!! You can get really worn out (especially this time of year), if you don’t stop and take the time for yourself.

  2. The perfect words for my wordless picture yesterday!I spent yesterday with my family [Thursday was with the hubby’s], we just did our thing (eat,drink, be merry :)..and shopping wasn’t anywhere in our thoughts.
    Happiness? My family, that’s what makes me happy.

  3. I already played with my baby and held my husband’s hand. Later I hope to finish my drawing for my church’s Christmas art program. Should be a great day.

  4. I have never done the Black Friday (except from the ease of the internet)… So, my hats off to you in your stance…and making true memories by staying home 🙂

  5. Hi,

    I see this post as a commendation of the virtue of believing in one’s convictions. It calls for strength & belief in individual self, to follow one’s own convictions. Not many try to be their own self and try out things differently but find it convenient to take the safe tested route every other person has taken. The other point you make on taking a break to reflect on and resolve to do things that make them happy is again a very useful insight for those that dare to be different. Well written.

    Take Care & Have a Great Day.

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