- Dress comfortably. You’ll always have a better time if you resist the impulse to wear something horribly uncomfortable just because it makes your ass look like a teenager’s. Forget about crash diets or worrying about your laugh lines. Wear something loose and flattering that won’t get in the way while you’re dancing all night.
- Dress for your body. It’s so easy to fall for fashion fads that just don’t work for your body, and I am guilty of it myself—but I’ve learned that some trends just aren’t right for my body. Take babydoll tops and empire waistlines, for example—they all make me look pregnant and/or shapeless. That’s because they actually CONCEAL my waist, which is one of my better physical qualities. So, while I’ll admit to a few faux-pas, I try to stick to outfits that flatter my body and still fall reasonably within the trends. You should too!
- Drink in moderation. There are better ways to deal with your anxiety than drinking alcohol. Stick to one or two drinks. Try relaxing beforehand by taking a long bath. Remember: over-indulging in alcohol is a primary contributor to aging your skin prematurely, as are several other recreational substances.
- Seek inspiration. If you’re uncomfortable in your own skin, it’s a good idea to seek inspiration to increase your personal confidence and self-love—because those are the two primary contributing factors to the whole hot wife thing.
- Be happy for others. Excessive competition can interfere with your enjoyment of life. If your old rival on the cheerleading squad is now a successful corporate attorney, be happy for her. Any other reaction only draws more negativity and ugliness into your life.
Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.