If you’re in a relationship with a toxic narcissist (or have ever been in one), you might have a few boundary issues, am I right? One of the hardest parts about being involved with a narcissist is learning to set firm boundaries with them. Narcissists tend to have poor boundaries themselves. Not only do they feel they need to win and to maintain power, but they most certainly do not like others setting boundaries with them.
To establish healthy boundaries, you need to be clear with your partner who you are, what you want, your beliefs and values, and specifically what your limits are. Narcissists do not allow this. They are known for pushing and stepping on boundaries in order to manipulate and control you more easily.
Some narcissists even feel that they’re not bound by the law, so they won’t even follow court orders. When you think about that, you can easily see why they find personal boundaries so easy to step all over and ignore.
That’s exactly what we’re talking about today – why it’s so hard to set boundaries with narcissists and specifically how you can overcome this and successfully do exactly that.
The Codependent’s Guide to Setting Healthy Boundaries After a Toxic Relationship
SETTING BOUNDARIES – See The Codependent’s Guide to Setting Healthy Boundaries After a Toxic Relationship video here and learn how to set boundaries with a narcissist and how to set boundaries with healthier people after a toxic relationship.
The Gray Rock/Grey Rock Method
Worth noting: If you can’t go “No Contact” with a Narcissist because you have children with them, or you are somehow unable to get them out of your life for whatever reason, you can implement a technique called “Gray Rock”. Gray Rock is where you become as exciting and interesting as, well, a gray rock.
The goal is to blend into the background, and become the most boring, unreactive person they’ve ever met. The reason being is that if you can quit being a source of supply for their drama and attention, they will eventually leave you alone. Learn everything you need to know about the gray rock method in this video playlist.