Self-confidence can often be in short supply for survivors of narcissistic abuse, but there are many ways you can get it back. When your self-confidence is lacking, take control of the situation and make yourself confident again. You can accomplish a lot more with self-confidence than you can without.
Once you know how to create confidence, you become a powerful person. Self-confidence is yours for the taking if you try these simple little life hacks.
1. Make a short to-do list and accomplish it. Many experts advocate starting with the toughest task first, but if your self-confidence is in the basement, this might not be the best option. Try doing a few of the easier tasks first. Show yourself that you can be productive and successful.
- Each time you make a plan and execute it, you have more confidence in yourself. It doesn’t matter whether it’s following through on your plan to go to the gym or to clean out your sock drawer. Make a to-do list and get it done.
2. Keep your biggest goals to yourself. Revealing your big goals to others can be enough to make you consider quitting. You’ll be on the receiving end of a lot of negative comments that will make you question yourself and your goals.
3. Improve your posture. How you use your body affects how you feel. If you sit and stand tall, you’ll feel more confident. Think about someone you know that always seems to be confident. Notice how they move. Try to mimic their movements and posture. Notice how much more confident you feel.
- Movies can be a great source of inspiration. Think of a confident movie character and watch how they use their body. Practice standing, sitting and moving the same way.
4. Remove those things from your life you’ve been tolerating. We tolerate too much. Get the riff-raff out of your life. This includes toxic people, items you no longer need, the rattling muffler on your car, and everything else that annoys you. Tell yourself that you deserve better and then make it happen.
5. Do something you’re good at. What are you good at? Whatever it is, you feel better after doing it. Try to spend time each day doing something that you know you’re great at. Your self-confidence will increase.
It’s probably not possible to feel confident 100% of the time, but you can come a lot closer than you think. Even in challenging circumstances, you are the same. Self-confidence is always right there, you just have to see it. These simple actions are an easy way to find the self-confidence you’ve temporarily misplaced.
Get Inspired: Watch this video Angie did with Spartan Life Coach Richard Grannon!
Runway to real-life fashion can be hard to achieve, especially for women who have “real” bodies.
1157627_10153265014720411_391672583_nThe “average” woman is about 163 pounds and 5’4″ tall, and she wears a size 12 to 14, according to a study published by USA Today.
That makes me below average–I’m shorter (5′ even), smaller-sized (size 6 or 8) and weigh (a little) less than the average woman. But trends don’t tend to be designed for even the average woman–or for anyone except the 5’11” models who wear them best.
But there’s good news.
Short, small, tall, big and really all of us can adapt the trends to fit our bodies–and when we can’t, we can just avoid that one.
And there’s another reason this blog exists: to show everyone how they can look their very best each season. Because when we look great, we feel great too–and when we feel good, we do good. And when we do good, more good things come back to us.