Tomorrow is Thanksgiving Day in the United States. Families travel over the river and through the woods to visit extended family and friends. It’s a time to be together, to eat turkey, to be grateful.
So often, as adults, we get lost in the chaos. We forget that Thanksgiving is a day for…well, giving thanks. We get so caught up in the cooking, the running, the stress of it all, that we just wish the day away.
I remember being a child and looking forward to Thanksgiving, starting the day after Halloween. I couldn’t wait to spend the day with my extended family and to observe all of our traditions. I couldn’t wait to have some of Grandma’s famous stuffing or some of Mom’s apple pie. (And the pumpkin pie baked just for us by Mrs. Smith. She always left them in the freezer for some reason…)
What about you? When you were a kid, did the holidays seem more fun? Do you find that the season has lost its appeal for you, that it’s all too hectic?
My challenge for you today is small. Take a step back from your “adult” self for just a moment, and close your eyes. Try to remember exactly how it felt to celebrate the holidays when you were a child. What did you look forward to? What were the traditions that “made it officially Thanksgiving” for you?
Okay, the challenge isn’t THAT small, because here’s part two. Tomorrow morning, when you wake up, before you step foot on the floor, remember that feeling. Push aside any negativity and focus on those wonderful feelings. Really FEEL them, feel GOOD.
Then, on Friday as you brave the Black Friday crowds (or hide out in your PJs), take a moment to reflect. I’ll bet you’ll find that your Thanksgiving was better than it’s been in years!
Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.