It’s All in Your Head: Why You Can’t Lose Weight (And How to Succeed)

Written by Angela Atkinson

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They say losing weight is really hard. And if you want to look at it that way, I guess “they” are right–after all, you have to change your habits, your lifestyle and your mind if you’re going to succeed. And exercise? It can suck. Plus, no one likes to be hungry, am I right?

But there’s another way you can look at it. You don’t have to fight to lose weight.

HOLD ON! Don’t click away just yet. I’m making a valid point, I promise!

This is a very basic concept.

Why you can’t lose weight: You are thinking about the fact that you “need to lose weight.”

According to the law of attraction, whatever you think about and focus on is what you’ll get more of in your life (to put it very simply).

So, if you are “fighting” to “get rid of the extra weight” or to “take off those last few pounds,” guess what? You’re attracting more of that to you.

More reasons to fight. More reasons to need to get rid of the extra weight. More taking off those last few pounds.

If you’re telling yourself that you suck and you’re beating the hell out of your psyche every time you work out–punishing yourself for letting yourself get out of shape in the first place–well, you’ll attract more reasons to suck, more reasons to be mean to yourself, more being out of shape.

So, I guess what this means is that the Universe takes you quite literally–and negatives aren’t a factor. SO, if you say something like, “I don’t want to be fat,” the Universe responds to “I want to be fat” instead.

See what I mean? Unfortunately, though, none of this actually equals to your being thinner or healthier though, which is exactly my point. You can’t lose weight and keep it off if all you’re thinking about is the fact that you are too heavy, flabby or whatever other negative qualities you’re currently focusing on (and attracting to yourself in the process).

How to succeed: Choose your own adventure

It’s as simple as “ask, believe, inspired action, receive.” You have to first decide what you want the end result to be in your process. And be as specific as possible.

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Try this exercise.

Ask: Choose your new body first. Imagine yourself at your goal weight. How does your body look? What can you do now that you couldn’t do before? How does it feel when you interact with others? Do people treat you differently than before?

Believe: you have to first believe that you will meet your goal, and you have to already be there in your head. Imagine what it feels like to be in amazing shape when you meet your ultimate goal. What does it feel like when people notice you’ve lost weight and congratulate you? How do you feel? Why can’t you start feeling it now? Just do it. Walk, talk and behave as though you have already made it to your goal. You will be surprised how quickly you can feel it if you try.

Inspired action: this is the part that some people get stuck on and that some law of attraction gurus fail to point out. But the fact of the matter is that you’ll have to eat less and move more if you want to really get healthy, so when you’re “there” in your head, ask yourself what your new, thinner, healthier self does. Do you dance? Do you workout at a gym or do Insanity in your living room? Or are you a runner, walker or biker? Does your thinner self Whatever your new, thinner self does to stay healthy–start doing that now.

Receive: meet your weight loss and fitness goals. Like I said before, once you “get there” in your head, your body will follow. You have to truly believe that it’s working, and you can’t expect it to suck (or it totally will). Instead, stay as positive as possible, keep your head away from negative, “fat” thoughts and become the person you want to be.

It really works if you work it. Are you ready? Tell me what you think in the comments section, below.





  • Angela Atkinson

    Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own. Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves. Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse here at and at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.

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