Fellow Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse
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Jenney Moore
Jenney Moore is a lifelong resident of the Pacific NW, and a survivor of a 25-year abusive marriage. She stayed as long as she did simply due to being unaware of personality disorders.
“I’d never even heard the term, and was incredibly naïve…at every promise he made to change, I tearfully bought in again and again”, she remembers.
Finally leaving in 2012, she now works giving support in multiple Facebook abuse victims’ support groups including one she and several fellow admins started at New Year of 2019, and works as a senior administrative assistant for a major utility company.
She is a singer/musician, visual artist, fitness enthusiast, and shares her home with her daughter and son-in-law.
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From Jenney Moore
Pure Empathy is Gold. Spend it wisely.
Do not misspend your empathy. Empathy is tremendously valuable, and should be treated like Krugerrands—pure gold coins. It should be given only where it will be honored, appropriately valued, and treasured. You wouldn’t take a pocketful of Krugerrands and throw them...
Toxic Narcissists: The Attacker Comparison
Think of the basic scenario of the "stranger attacker" for a moment... You're walking down the street when suddenly a stranger approaches you and violently attacks you. Not much pre-planning or strategy involved. Completely random. No association with you; you were in...
Understanding the Narcissist’s Lack of Consistency
~BUT HE WANTED ME~ Yes, abusers “want” us... ...like sharks, once they smell blood in the water, they “want” the injured, struggling fish. Our self-devaluation is the signal to the sociopath that we are the desperate, grasping-for-anything-that-looks-like-love victim...
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: The Workout Illustration
How do we get stronger as we recover from narcissistic abuse? How do we learn to deflect the manipulation and oppression tactics as we’re preparing to leave, have left, or are still sometimes dealing with contact due to underage children? Ok, let’s look at this in...
Understanding Narcissistic Abusers: The Vampire at the Window Illustration
A very precise comparison in our view of the narcissistic abuser is to compare them to vampires. These people do indeed “extract” from us our energy and emotions to the point of exhaustion, financial resources, health, and they also draw away from us our sense of...
What do you perceive? The internal narrative of a narcissistic abuse victim
The abuser has harmed you again, is perhaps gone having discarded you, or you’ve left. ...but you’re still thinking you “love” them. These are the words in your own voice echoing in your head—the soft-focus, romanticized ideation that your abuser actually deserves...
What is Self Love?
What is Self-Love? (the carpenter’s level illustration) ______________ The concept of self-love and honor is woefully undertaught, even being misunderstood as egomania. To love, care for, appropriately protect, and maintain yourself is absolutely necessary for a...
The Narcissist is Being Nice? Beware! The Fishing Lure Illustration
Video by Angie Atkinson THE FISHING LURE ILLUSTRATION By Jenney Moore “...but what about all the nice times?” These things contrived as seeming “nice” or “romantic” are purposefully just that....contrived. These are also often referred to as “hoovers” (referencing...
Narcissists don’t change for the new supply, despite what they pretend
NPD does not evaporate with a change in relationship partners, counsel, nor a job change or new home, etc. There's no new person or thing that makes the narcissist suddenly normal, rational, or better behaved. For those of us who dealt with a drug/alcohol-affected...