As I pursue my own fulfillment, I find that it’s important to maintain balance. For example, most of you are aware that I am a freelance writer. I choose to do this because I have had a lifelong love affair with words. Writing has always, always been my passion (one of them anyway) and I love it.
However, I also love my husband and my kids (and a few other people, lol).
Being the type of person I am, it’s really easy for me to get too focused on certain areas in my life. Yesterday, my husband mentioned that he was concerned that I was working too much.
Since I really work AROUND my kids–meaning that I work when they don’t need me (i.e. when they’re sleeping, at school, or otherwise engaged), I don’t have a lot of free time. But, as I explained to my husband, writing doesn’t feel like WORK to me.
Still, he’s right in that I must have downtime. So, yesterday, while I did get a few things done workwise, I spent most of my free time playing with the kids. It was wonderful and it turned out that I needed the break.
So, it occurred to me that sometimes we don’t really realize when we need a break–especially when we’re doing something we love. And, I think that sometimes the voices in our lives (whether they come from spouses, parents, kids, or friends) are what we need to recognize that we may be out of balance.
Balance feels good. 🙂
I had noticed that I was feeling very scattered for the past week or so, and often losing my train of thought. By taking the break yesterday, I think that I’m more focused today as I sit down to work.
Today, I challenge you to let ME be the voice in your life who tells you to SLOW DOWN and take a break–even if just for a few minutes. You could certainly use a bit of time for yourself or your family. Try sitting down and doing nothing for ten minutes–or take a walk around the block.
The holiday season leaves many of us frazzled and unfocused. That doesn’t feel good.
I don’t know about you, but I know that when I FEEL good, my life works better. So today, even if just for a moment, take a break and breathe. You won’t regret it.
Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.