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Nearly everyone can relate to the feeling of not being able to let go of something that is no longer useful in their lives.

Whether it’s a painful memory or a person that isn’t treating you the way you deserve to be treated, it can often be better to “let go” and allow yourself to heal.

This doesn’t mean you have to forget–just that you have to stop allowing it to color your present and future.

Fact is, we’ve all dealt with issues that have brought up negativity from the past.

Perhaps we thought we had already healed completely–but sometimes, the issues simply lie dormant until something triggers them.

This can make it feel like the proverbial wounds are reopened. Never a good thing.

At any rate, if we hope to find bliss, we must let these issues go and move forward. Letting them color our present would be cheating ourselves out of the happiness we have in our lives today.

How to let go of negativity and pain from the past

Can you simply forget these things, or to heal from them? What is the solution? Can anything be done?

  • First, simply decide to be happy. Decide to accept only the lessons and love from the past, and try to let negative emotions pass through you, noticed but not dwelled upon. Choose to stay positive and to let go of the pain from the past.
  • Second, remember that no matter what happened, there’s nothing we can do to change the past. There’s no time machine, no going back. We can only move forward. We are in control of our emotions, and we can choose to feel good. Feeling good brings more good into our lives. Negativity begets more negativity.

The choice should seem simple.

Every single one of us has experienced life changing events–both positive and negative. Even positive changes can be scary, but for those of us who have trouble overcoming negative ones, there’s hope, and it’s so easy.

Just feel good.

Take care of your body, take care of your soul. Nurture the real you, and introduce him or her to the world. Be comfortable in your skin, and in your place in the world. Take your spot, take it now, and the universe will take its cue from you.

Decide to be happy today. Decide to move forward and release all negativity. Any time you feel negativity coming on, affirm “All good things are coming to me today” or something that fits your situation specifically, and then consciously release the negativity.

I’ll leave you with a final thought, an old Sweedish Proverb:

“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours”

Will you decide to be happy today? What do you need to “let go” of right now? Share your thoughts in the comments section, below.


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12 Responses to Letting Go: Memories Don’t Have to Hurt

  1. Wow. Those are really constructive steps for letting go. And really wise! I may have to quote you in my blog today 😉

  2. Excellent advice, though sometimes tough to follow.
    I find that writing down the things that are bothering me (maybe in the form of a letter if the things center around a certain person) in detail and then burning the paper helps.

    I imagine that all the bad feelings are going into the paper and when I burn it, the bad feelings are destroyed.

    Just a thought : )

  3. Wonderful advice, they have all helped me in “letting go” in one way or another.

    Although we all realize, we certainly can’t go back in time physically, we can go back in our minds. Instead of thinking about that moment with negative thoughts, use the power of our minds, to “re-write” the actual event. Whether the event was something you wish to change or to change how someone else was at that very moment, it works exactly the same. We write the story of our lives, so we can certainly re-write our own stories.

    So instead of thinking and hurting over a past heartbreak, rewrite that event in your head with the two of you saying how much you’ve gained from your experience together, but knowing it’s time for both of you to move on, and end it with a hug and a goodbye.

    It’s really worked for me. Now, whenever something negative or hurtful creeps back from the past, I know I can rewrite it to a more positive moment. I end up smiling and feeling better than if I were to dwell on it.

    Thanks again for another incredible post!! Sending much love and positive energy your way!!

    Many Blessings….Roxanne

  4. You have no idea how much I needed to read that today … well done to you!!!!

    Love and light


  5. I think also that a person has to make the decisions you mentioned each day. It’s not enough to decide one time that “I’m gonna let go of this hurt.” Because the memoy will try to haunt, but you have to remember the decision you made yesterday and re-commit to the decision today. Nice post.

  6. I agree with each and every word of your post. You have such a positive attitude. It’s inspiring to read your words. Thanks for sharing.

  7. I agree with all your points but I find sometimes the best thing that heals better is time. With time the pain will fade and it gets easier.

  8. I couldn’t agree more. Personally, I think deciding to be happy is the first step. Because when we want to, we can do all the things to make us better, happier persons. When we watch out for our happiness everything will follow – we take care of our health, we cultivate relationships and just go on living our lives and, in time, finally move on without even knowing that we have already dropped along the way the excess baggages that have been holding us back.

  9. I learned to let go of pain by relying and trusting on God that the pain I have endured was for “refining me”—to learn to trust Him more by drawing out from His strength. Happiness is on”happenings” but “joy ” is more eternal knowing that pain and sufferings are there to “better” you and to give me more strength and wisdom and most of all, to know that God is my Hope, Comfort and Deliverer. “All things work for good to those who love Him and who are called according to His purpose” and “..we are created to be overcomers” because God does not give us anything beyond what we can endure.

  10. Holding on is easier then letting go. I hope you are able to find the answers you need.

    Thanks for stopping by my blog 🙂

  11. LOVE that quote. But really, I am terrible at letting go. I stew over events and still blame people for letting me down etc. Sometimes I will even bring them up in arguments a lot later. And it’s crazy because they aren’t usually that bad. But I am learning a bit more to make that decision to be happy, I just need to let go of that stubborn part of me that thinks there’s no justice if I just let go.

  12. I am trying to let go all my pain in the past, to let go my ex. Your article very soothing and I hope I can do it

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