Letting Go: Memories Don’t Have to Hurt

Written by Angela Atkinson

Nearly everyone can relate to the feeling of not being able to let go of something that is no longer useful in their lives.

Whether it’s a painful memory or a person that isn’t treating you the way you deserve to be treated, it can often be better to “let go” and allow yourself to heal.

This doesn’t mean you have to forget–just that you have to stop allowing it to color your present and future.

Fact is, we’ve all dealt with issues that have brought up negativity from the past.

Perhaps we thought we had already healed completely–but sometimes, the issues simply lie dormant until something triggers them.

This can make it feel like the proverbial wounds are reopened. Never a good thing.

At any rate, if we hope to find bliss, we must let these issues go and move forward. Letting them color our present would be cheating ourselves out of the happiness we have in our lives today.

How to let go of negativity and pain from the past

Can you simply forget these things, or to heal from them? What is the solution? Can anything be done?

  • First, simply decide to be happy. Decide to accept only the lessons and love from the past, and try to let negative emotions pass through you, noticed but not dwelled upon. Choose to stay positive and to let go of the pain from the past.
  • Second, remember that no matter what happened, there’s nothing we can do to change the past. There’s no time machine, no going back. We can only move forward. We are in control of our emotions, and we can choose to feel good. Feeling good brings more good into our lives. Negativity begets more negativity.

The choice should seem simple.

Every single one of us has experienced life changing events–both positive and negative. Even positive changes can be scary, but for those of us who have trouble overcoming negative ones, there’s hope, and it’s so easy.

Just feel good.

Take care of your body, take care of your soul. Nurture the real you, and introduce him or her to the world. Be comfortable in your skin, and in your place in the world. Take your spot, take it now, and the universe will take its cue from you.

Decide to be happy today. Decide to move forward and release all negativity. Any time you feel negativity coming on, affirm “All good things are coming to me today” or something that fits your situation specifically, and then consciously release the negativity.

I’ll leave you with a final thought, an old Sweedish Proverb:

“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours”

Will you decide to be happy today? What do you need to “let go” of right now? Share your thoughts in the comments section, below.


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