You might wonder why I so often write about narcissism and toxic relationships. As someone who has been involved in narcissistic relationships in my life and survived, I feel compelled to share my experiences, at least to the extent that they are valuable to my readers. I’m not going to spill my guts here, but as a journalist and a seasoned researcher, it’s in my nature to learn about things that concern me.
I’ve been working on healing myself and on detoxifying my life, and this has manifested itself in many ways–first, with the dismissal of a particularly toxic family relationship I was stuck in for way too long. While this may have been a significant change in my life, it isn’t one you can see when I walk down the street.
Just like the psychological and emotional injuries that are a result of being in a toxic relationship with a narcissist, you can’t tell that a person is stuck in a narcissistic relationship unless you happen to be a personal witness to the behavior of the narcissist.
As a result of both the shame a narcissist’s victim can feel for not standing up for herself as well as fear of the narcissist’s reaction if she does, the victim often feels like she has no one to turn to for help–she’s too embarrassed to ask and the narcissist is too concerned with appearances. And since narcissists tend to isolate their primary victims, the victims are especially unlikely to reach out for support.
That’s why I write about narcissism and toxic relationships so often. As I continue my own healing journey, I feel compelled to share what I learn with my readers. After all, the whole mission of this blog is to help you become the best possible version of yourself–to create the life you want. And in order to do that, you’ve got to heal your WHOLE self.
So no more putting band-aids on this problem, alright? Stick with me. I’ll support you, and I’m planning a new community that will also be able to help–stay tuned for details.
In the meantime, catch up on my posts about toxic relationships and narcissism.