Finding joy in our every day lives is so important to our personal fulfillment. Sometimes it feels hard to find any joy at all, but when we slow down long enough to “smell the roses” or coffee, or whatever we need to smell to feel happiness, we find little bits of it all around us.
Parents know what I’m talking about. For example, when my oldest son told me at three years old that he “loved our home,” I felt like I’d hung the moon. When my middle child learned to say “cookie” before he was a year old, I couldn’t contain my excitement. And now, at ages eleven and five, they give me little bits of joy every day.
But if you don’t have kids, or if the kids are driving you crazy that day, you can find joy elsewhere. Try doing something nice for someone else. It could be something small, like letting someone in front of you in line at the grocery store–especially if you have more items than they. Seems small, but any good deed makes you feel good about yourself.
If nothing seems to be going your way, try changing your perception. For example, awhile back I found myself grumbling about the tangle of medicines in my pantry. I had cough medicine, allergy medicine,Tylenol, and Motrin, many in three different forms (adult, kid, and baby). Then, it occurred to me that this little bit of annoying clutter was actually a blessing. Some families aren’t as lucky as we are and don’t have medicines available to them to treat what ails them.
You see, by changing our perception, we can change our minds. And by changing our minds, my friends, we can change our lives.
So today, I challenge you to do just that. When something feels upsetting or stressful to you today, take a moment to try to change your perception. Find the silver lining in your cloud. I’ll bet you go to bed feeling just a little better!
Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.