I spent a lot of years trying to figure out how to stay motivated, and eventually, I got it. I lost 100 pounds (and counting–I’ve lost about 110 now and have a few more to go!).
But here’s the good news. While my journey thus far has taken more than two years, I haven’t spent a lot of that time feeling deprived, left out or unhappy.
I’ve changed the way I perceive myself and the world around me, and as a result, I’ve been able to take my time and learn to listen to my body.
If I notice that the number goes up more than a pound or so (three during PMS week), I take notice and take action.
Over time, I’ve come up with a few weight loss motivation tips that really do work.
I stay motivated to continue my healthier lifestyle choices every day, one day at a time, thanks to my fail-safe plan that sort of developed naturally as I made the changes to both my lifestyle and my perception.
Angie’s Fail-Safe, Stay-on-Plan Weight Loss Motivation Tips
Forgive Yourself First
If you fall off-plan and find yourself backsliding into old, unhealthy habits, your first instinct might be to belittle yourself, beat yourself up, even to punish yourself.
One woman I know will literally starve herself for 24 hours for each “slip-up” she has on her plan to exercise and lose weight.
For example, at a birthday party, she indulged in a tiny piece of cake.
The next day, she worked out for 3 hours and refused to eat a thing.
The problem with this kind of behavior is twofold–besides being completely unhealthy and slowing down your metabolism, it’s not a lifestyle that can be continued forever without serious consequences.
Rather than beat yourself up, just forgive yourself, love yourself that much more, and move forward on your plan.
Remind Yourself Why
You started this journey for a reason. Whether you wanted to live longer, be hotter, get healthier, play with your kids, have better sex, wear better clothes–or all of the above and more, make a list of reasons you’re trying to get in shape.
Review the list anytime you feel yourself falling back into your old, unhealthy habits and really dig into the WHY of it all. Doing so can really renew your motivation in a big way.
Go Back to Basics
When I started this journey, I started small. I love me some baby steps! I made one change per week–first, I started tracking my food (not necessarily restricting, just becoming aware of what’s really going into my mouth).
Once I got comfortable with that, a week or two later, I started keeping track of my water consumption and making sure I was getting in at least my eight glasses per day.
I kept making one small change at a time, and before I knew it, I’d lost 100 pounds!
So, if you find yourself slipping up, go back and remind yourself how you got started and get back to basics. For me, that’s tracking my food again and drinking my water.
Look Back (at How Far You’ve Come Already)
You can do this with your own side-by-side before/during/after photos, or just look at old photos of your “old self.”
It doesn’t matter if your old self is sitting there reading this post and trying to find motivation, or if you’ve already lost a bunch of weight and are just trying to stay on track.
Anytime I see my own before/during photos, I am quickly reminded of why I need to continue on my path.
And before I had my own before and during photos, I used older pics of myself and photos of women I call “body idols”–otherwise known as women who were at my ideal weight and who also had a similar body structure and height.
MyBodyGallery.com is a great place to find your own body idols, if you haven’t already. (It’s where I found some of mine!) Visual motivation can really open your eyes (pun intended) and keep you moving in the right direction.
Try Something New
I find that using body wraps and sometimes supplements can really help me stay motivated. The body wraps help because they tighten and tone my skin, which helps me look and feel slimmer–this helps me stay motivated in a big way!
I also like to get my greens (AKA superfoods) in because they make me feel better overall and definitely reduce any bloating or swelling that might be happening. But since I don’t love all kinds of greens and since my rule is to only eat things I love–I had a conundrum, until, that is, I found The Greens.
The Greens is a powder that you can add to any liquid (I just use water, myself) and it contains more superfoods and veggie-type nutrients than I could even take in a single day–and it makes me feel fabulous–clears up my skin, keeps me regular, helps me look slimmer by reducing bloat and gives me tons of calm, productive, non-jittery energy, just to name a few benefits. Even better, it tastes mildly like an orange drink, but it’s not too sweet or sour. Just mild and relatively pleasing–and totally worth it! (Get yours here, if you want.)
So, how about you? What are your best tips to stay on track when you’re trying to lose weight and get healthy? Share your thoughts, tips and experiences in the comments section, below!
Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse here at QueenBeeing.com and at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.