Lose the flab, keep the self-worth: Required tweaks for the ‘dream dress’ method

Written by Angela Atkinson

As 2014 comes crashing to a close, a lot of us are googling our asses off, hoping for some new breakthrough in the weight loss world,but every year, we pretty much discover the same thing: if we want to drop the pounds, we’ve got to move more and eat less.

Enter the “dream dress” method of weight loss, in which you purchase a beautiful dress or other outfit that you just LOVE and cannot wait to wear. The catch? You buy it in the size you WANT to be, not the size you are now.

No matter if you’re currently sporting a 22 and looking to squeeze into a 2. 

I’m sure you’re not surprised that I have a small problem with this one, because I think that if you can’t really love yourself as you are, right now, you’ll never find real happiness anyway.

But inspration can be good for weight loss. It can literally mean the difference between success and failure.

And there’s nothing wrong with a little inspiration, obviously which is likely why so many fit pros are suggesting that we buy a “dream dress” or an outfit that is the ideal size for us.

The Dream Dress Method: How it can work in the real world for real women

Now, I can see how this could work. It HAS worked for me personally in the form of “dream jeans,” actually.

But when it did work, it was literally when. I bought a pair of jeans that was only one or two (when I was sort of “between” sizes). That’s because:

A. If you can’t even get it over your big toe, it’s going to feel like a goal you can’t meet.

B. Fashion changes so quickly. If you’re serious about wearing it this season, best to choose something that’ll only take a few pounds to fit.

C. This allows you to go out an get another little bit of inspiration when you fit into the current one. It offers an instant reward that becomes motivation for the next weight loss goal.

So, how about you? Have you ever bought a “dream dress” and if so, did you ever manage to fit into it? Share your thoughts in the comments below or join in the discussion on our Facebook page.

Author

  • Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own. Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves. Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse here at QueenBeeing.com and at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.

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