Narcissistic Relationships: One Simple Way to Stop Gaslighting

Written by Angela Atkinson

“If you have been living with a narcissist for a long time, you may feel that you have lost all ability to function as an intelligent human being. By the time I divorced, I no longer felt confident about my looks, my ability to use technology, my driving ability, or the reliability of my thoughts and emotions. It’s not an easy thing to come back from but you can do it.” ~ First Wives World

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Narcissists are infamous for their gaslighting manipulation techniques. You know, the ones they actively use in order to manipulate you into giving them what they want.

What is gaslighting?

Gaslighting is a pervasive and highly effective tactic used by narcissists and other toxic people. It’s meant to manipulate you by psychological means into questioning your own sanity. Learn more about gaslighting here. 

How does gaslighting affect you?

Gaslighting techniques can be psychologically devastating for anyone who is involved with a malignant narcissist. Quite often, narcissists have such an emotional hold over the people in their lives that they literally invade their every thought.

If someone in your life makes you feel completely worthless, or constantly questions your sanity (especially when no one else in your life sees you this way), you might be dealing with a narcissist who is actively using gaslighting against you.

How do you shut down a narcissist who is gaslighting you?

There are only a few ways to stop gaslighting. The first and most drastic is to simply cease all contact with the narcissist. This is definitely the most effective way to end the cycle of emotional manipulation that can come with a relationship with a narcissist.

But in some cases, “no contact” isn’t possible. So what can you do then?

Simple: limit contact – at least as much as you can.

It’s not always going to be possible to avoid a narcissist, so it’s better to only spend as much time as necessary with him or her. The same goes for conversation when you do spend time together. Try to avoid it when you can, and if you must engage, don’t get beyond small talk.

Stand Up and Refuse to Cower

This sounds kind of silly, but if you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist, you know what I’m talking about.

When gaslighting happens, a narcissist wants to feel in control, so they will do their best to make you feel crazy. But if you do not allow them to intimidate or upset you, then you take back your power and become the rightful mistress (or master) of your own destiny.

How do you do this? You simply REFUSE TO REACT in any negative way, other than to quietly stand up and remove yourself if necessary. Refuse to be confrontational. And watch the narcissist squirm.

By not paying attention or giving him the satisfaction of a reaction, you cause the narcissist to feel irrelevant. That deprives them of narcissistic supply. The narcissist will feel upset and off-kilter – and they might even decide to go back into “charming” mode (idealization or love-bombing) in order to get back his narcissistic supply (aka your attention). Either way, it stops the gaslighting – at least temporarily.

Shut Down a Narcissist’s Gaslighting with The Gray Rock Method

This video offers additional information on how to stop gaslighting, plus an overview of the gray rock technique and its creation story.

Want more ways to end gaslighting? Check out Take Back Your Life: 103 Highly-Effective Strategies to Snuff Out a Narcissist’s Gaslighting and Enjoy the Happy Life You Really Deserve.

How about you? Have you found a way to stop gaslighting? Share it when you hit me up on Facebook. 

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