Are You Being Gaslighted & Abused by a Pathological Narcissist, Psychopath or Sociopath? If so…
- Haven’t felt really free and happy in a long time.
- Can’t remember the last time you actually talked about yourself and aren’t sure you even remember how.
- Feel like you don’t even know who you are anymore.
- Find yourself being accused of being crazy, delusional or otherwise flawed.
- Wonder if you really are crazy.
- Feel really alone even when you’re in a room full of people.
- Feel completely physically and emotionally exhausted a lot of the time.
- Deal with sometimes shocking and often abusive behavior.
- Aren’t good at enforcing your boundaries with that person.
- Find yourself apologizing to the narcissist after arguments, even if they were the one who did something wrong.
- Have stopped trying to explain yourself to them and instead just keep your mouth shut to keep the peace.
- Might isolate yourself from people you once spent time with.
- Feel like it’s just easier to do what the narcissist wants because they will attack you if you don’t.
- Feel stressed out when things don’t go their way because you know it will come back to you later.
- Feel like you’re always walking on eggshells around this person.
- Can’t seem to relax and feel hyper-aware of their feelings and needs in order to keep yourself safe.
- Feel like you can’t live without them, like you’re almost addicted to them
- Find yourself giving them chance after chance, hoping it will get better, or that they’ll go back to who they were when you first met.
- Feel like you can’t talk to anyone about it, or if you do, they don’t seem to get what you’re dealing with and give you advice that doesn’t work.
- Don’t seem to care how you feel (they have a lack of empathy)
- Have an over-inflated sense of self-importance
- Always seem to need attention and admiration and will go to any length to secure it
- Require all of your time and energy, or expect you to be available at the very second they need you
- Almost never accept any responsibility for their mistakes, instead, blaming your or other people when something goes wrong
- Feel like they’re better than everyone else
- Have no respect for the law or any form of authority
- May have a lot of so-called friends, but few long-term friendships
- Might have swept you off your feet (in a romantic relationship) before switching to toxic, abusive behaviors (subtly or otherwise)
- Might seem to have two personalities: a charming, well-liked one for “the public,” or people outside your home, and a more abusive, toxic one behind closed doors.
- Never ask you about yourself, but talk about their interests, ideas and thoughts all the time (and expect you to listen)
- Punish you with the silent treatment or by simply leaving you if it looks like you’ll win an argument.
- Rage at any level of criticism and either go silent or go crazy on you.
- Feel the need to win everything, all the time, no matter what.
- Lie about previous relationships or exaggerate their own pain in them.
- Lie about little things that don’t seem to matter.
- Make impulsive choices without regard to how it affects them, you or their family.
- Show identifiable and repetitive patterns of abuse
- Project their own behaviors and faults on to you, often accusing you of exactly what they’re doing
Does this sound like your life?
If it does, then you may be dealing with a malignant narcissist, psychopath or sociopath in a toxic relationship.
You might be dealing with some of these typical narcissistic abuse relationship patterns.
For most narcissists, the toxic relationship and abuse cycles are the same: it begins with idealization or love bombing, continues to the devalue phase, where the narcissist begins to tear you down personally and emotionally with subtle, sneaky put-downs and blaming you. This leads to the discard phase, where they abandon you, physically or otherwise, and and may begin again with the hoovering phase, where the narcissist tries to suck you back in.
Are you struggling to come to terms with this?
It’s normal to doubt yourself and to feel like your situation may not be as “bad” as some people’s, but that doesn’t mean it’s not real. In fact, if you can identify with the behaviors listed above, you are most likely dealing with a toxic relationship with a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath. Yes, it’s really happening, and yes, there is help available for you. Are you ready to start changing your life right now?
Visit our “start here” page and see all of the free resources we have for you here. Using our narcissistic abuse recovery programs, you can heal for absolutely free if you are committed to your recovery.