Whether you’re currently involved with the narcissist or you’ve recently gone no-contact, this kind of toxic abuse can find its way into all areas of your life – and if you let it, it can destroy you.
Good news, though: with intentional focus, you can make choices that will help you become stronger and more confident – and ultimately, better capable of making your life work for you.
Start with Falling in Love (With Yourself)
Loving yourself makes you stronger and happier. You’re more likely to put forth the effort to reach your goals when you appreciate your value.
You’re bound to feel more content because you’ll treat yourself with compassion and respect, and seek out others who will do the same. Instead of making you selfish, loving yourself increases your capacity and willingness to serve others.
On the other hand, that kind of confidence can be difficult to conjure up if you’re used to self-criticism and doubts.
Whether you’re wild about the face you see in the mirror or trying to become a little more accepting, maybe it’s time to look at your relationship with yourself.
Try out these habits that are guaranteed to help you love yourself more.
Self-Love Habits for Daily Life
Self-love is a skill that grows stronger the more you practice. Incorporate these habits into your regular routine.
1. Meditate daily. Self-love begins with self-knowledge. Sit down and explore your thoughts. Figure out what’s on your mind and sort out your feelings.
2. Care for your health. Stay fit with good nutrition, exercise, and restful sleep Limit your consumption of alcohol and junk food.
3. Love your body. Appreciate your body. Be grateful if you’re free from any serious illness or disability. Be patient if you’re coping with chronic pain or other limitations.
4. Clean up your surroundings. It’s easier to feel good when your house is tidy. Break out the vacuum.
5. Monitor your self-talk. Speak kindly to yourself. Use encouraging words.
6. Clarify your purpose. Spend time thinking about your values and how to put them into action. Ask yourself what you want your legacy to look like.
7. Engage in meaningful activities. Devote your time and energy to projects that matter to you. Maybe you want to be a leader in your industry or maybe you’re more interested in your spiritual development.
8. Live authentically. Forget about comparing yourself to others. Follow your own heart.
9. Play around. Lighten up. Laugh at yourself instead of feeling embarrassed. Take a break by tossing a ball around with your dog or ice skating with your kids.
10. Look on the bright side. Search for the positive aspects of any situation. If your child wants to build furniture instead of going to medical school, you can still congratulate yourself for raising a responsible adult.
Self-Love Habits for the Tough Times
Some events can shake your belief in yourself. Consider these methods for bouncing back during your darkest times.
1. Forgive yourself. Make a new start. Pardon yourself for past mistakes and unfortunate choices. Focus on what you can learn so you’ll be more prepared the next time.
2. Recover from heartbreak. The end of a relationship can be an especially hard blow to your ego. You may feel unattractive or wonder if life is passing you by. Take time to heal and identify what you’re really looking for. Wish your former partner well and move on towards a new love.
3. Deal with unemployment. Likewise, being out of work can make you feel unwanted. Until you find your next position, fill your time with volunteer work. Join a job club where you can exchange leads and support.
4. Seek counseling or coaching. Childhood experiences may have turned into patterns that are holding you back from loving yourself. Consult a therapist for guidance in addressing such issues.
Don’t deprive your delicious self of the love you deserve. Start by giving it to YOURSELF! Generous helpings of self-love can transform your life. When you understand and cherish yourself, you can build strong relationships and rise to any challenge. Feel me?
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Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.