Narcissist Cheating: Why the Narcissist Blames You for Their Cheating and Betrayal – Here’s the truth. When a narcissist is caught cheating on you or otherwise betraying you in your relationship, they will almost never take responsibility for the betrayal. In fact, one of the most common ways they refuse responsibility is to weakly apologize (if at all) and then immediately begin to point out everything they think is wrong with YOU in the relationship.
“This is not my fault; it’s a symptom of the problems in our relationship.”
And I am here to tell you that this is NOT the truth. You are not the problem here. In fact, this is a known manipulation tactic that narcissists will sometimes employ to shift blame when they do things like cheat on you or otherwise betray you.
Things you need to understand if you are codependent with a cheater: They are not sorry they betrayed you. The only thing they MIGHT be sorry about is that you found out and now they have to deal with your feelings, which they will quickly turn back on you in order to remove blame for their behavior. (See video for full list)
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Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.