My career has always been about communication and understanding, and about making life better, in one way or another.
Since I first dipped my toe into the lovely sea of blogging back in 2003 (with my personal weight loss blog), and even before that, when I was a high school student helping to create my school yearbook (and essentially the collective memories of a cross-section of Gen Xers), I have understood that writing offers me the ability to both learn and understand, but also to teach and communicate.
The world is a funny place sometimes. After I experienced the second case of narcissistic abuse in my life, I started trying to figure out what had happened, why it happened and how I could prevent it from happening again.
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So, as always, I did what I do: I started researching, just for my own benefit. And being the nerdy writer-journalist type I am, I blogged my findings and worked on figuring out how it was all connected – why was I attracting these people into my life? Was it something I was doing wrong when I was connecting with people?
If I’m being honest with you, I never expected to become an expert on the topic of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder. But over the next few years, each time I’d publish on the topic, I’d get tons of feedback and emails and private messages from people saying that I had helped them in some way, or asking me questions on how they should or could deal with their own situations.
I wanted so desperately to help them, and I wanted to help as many people as I could.
The idea that simple INFORMATION, SUPPORT and ENCOURAGEMENT could help so many suffering people made my heart soar, and I became driven.
In fact, these amazing souls who were touched by my work and who reached out to me are the ones who inspired me to keep researching, learning and helping others to understand this toxic disease. All of this is literally what led me to become a certified life coach.
So, in my efforts to help as many people as possible, I’ve created all kinds of literature, books, videos, online courses and other material designed to help people recover from narcissistic abuse and go on to create the lives they want and deserve – as well as to become the best possible versions of themselves.
These efforts have brought forth a variety of supporters, as well as a few haters (but hey, what can you do?). But they have also connected me with some pretty amazing experts, professionals, scholars and researchers.
One of the “good ones” I’ve recently connected with is a PhD who is a former professor and researcher herself. Since she’s also a a narcissistic abuse survivor, I’m going to keep her identity under wraps – but I’m excited to share some of our recent discussion with you – and I hope you’ll consider helping me in my research.
That’s why I’m launching a new ongoing research project, and I’m starting with this study. Please take a moment to read it and take the attached one-question survey – let me know your thoughts!
One more thing: I’ve set up a private Facebook group for people who are interested in participating in the anonymous research part of it. The information you would share would remain anonymous by default – HOWEVER, if you’d like a credit in the resulting material, I’m happy to give it to you.
Join the private research group on Facebook right here. And if you’re looking for more of a support group, please join my SPAN (Support for People Affected by Narcissistic abuse in relationships) group, right here.