“Whenever you’re engaged in the business of who you’re meant to be, you’re more awake, alive, and ready to play a vital part in your world. When others see your light shining, they’ll be inspired to shine theirs, too.” ~Oprah Winfrey
Do you know who were you meant to be? Have you discovered your true calling? Yeah, I said it–your true calling. You know, the reason you are alive. Your personal mission in life–that thing you’re “meant to be.”
“When you’re honoring your calling, there’s an undeniable sense of stimulation and exhilaration. It feels like you’re giving and getting ‘juice’ from the experience. It just feels so right,” Oprah writes. “What stands out for me when I consider this question are all the years I spent as an anxious news reporter/anchorwoman.”
She goes on to tell a story about the first time she co-hosted a show on People Are Talking in Baltimore.
“It instantly felt like I’d come home to myself,” Winfrey said. “Not because the conversation was especially earth-shattering or enlightening—the first guest was the Carvel ice cream man, discoursing on his flavors—but because of the feeling that at last I was where I was meant to be.”
Have you had one of these moments before, where something you did, whether work-related or otherwise, made you feel like you’d just “found” yourself and/or your calling?
QB QUIZ: Should You Be Reading This Article Right Now?
If you think I’m a little crazy and still have no idea I’m talking about, take a couple seconds to complete this quick quiz to gauge your current situation:
1. Are you doing precisely the kind of work that makes you want to jump out of bed every morning excited to begin a new day?
2. Does your work fulfill a need deep inside to express yourself, your talents, your values, your unique and precious gifts?
3. Does your work allow a balanced life – one that leaves time for family and friends, for physical activity or hobbies, for you?
4. Are you doing what you love?
If you answered “yes” to all of these questions, congratulations! There is a good chance that you’ve achieved what the Buddhist’s call “Right Livelihood,” and honestly, you probably ought to be offering up a guest post on how you did all that.
But, if you’re not there yet; if you have not yet found the work you were meant to do, keep reading, and just go with me for a minute here.
Listen up: You are about to find your true calling – and when you find that calling that is uniquely yours, your life will be transformed. How about that?
“The way to find out about your happiness is to keep your mind on those moments when you feel most happy, when you are really happy – not excited, not just thrilled, but deeply happy.” ~Joseph Campell
Want to know how to become what you’re meant to be? Now ask yourself how you feel each day, as you get ready for work. It probably sounds something like this. Your alarm clock buzzes and you get up. You drag yourself out of bed, dreading yet another day at a job that is high on stress and short on gratification. Girl, I have BEEN there. Seriously.
Ask yourself something really important: Are you happy working in a career that is fulfilling and enjoyable?
Because when you really love your work, you greet the day like this: “Who needs an alarm clock? I can’t wait to get out of bed and get busy on (insert dream job here)! Work? I can’t believe they pay me to do this! This feels a lot more like awesome!”
Translation: you do not need an alarm because you cannot wait to get out of bed and dive into another workday where your work feels similar to play.
Maybe you think it is too late?. Maybe you believe that you have somehow missed your calling and that you are not getting any younger. However, this leads me to my next question. How do you find work? The kind that will feed your soul? When you discover your calling, you may find your life taking you in unexpected directions.
See, anyone–almost literally–can get a 9-to-5 J-O-B. A job is something that pays the bills but all too often fails to feed the spirit. And it turns out that when your spirit is starved for meaningful satisfying work, your happiness suffers.
I mean, people who love what they do for a living actually live longer, statstically. Happy equals healthier, which equals a longer life. Did you know that doing what you love for a living could actually extend your life? No joke.
So here’s your million-dollar question of the day:
Do you believe you were put on this earth to sit in commuter traffic, to suffer through the performance evaluations and reorganizations, to have to answer to a boss that is well… you know…something other than awesome?
Were you really created to spend your life having the Sunday night blues? On the other hand, do you believe, as I do, that you were put here to follow a calling that is uniquely yours?
If the idea of loving what you do appeals to you, the way I see it… here are your options: You can keep plodding along week after week hoping that inspiration will somehow, someway suddenly strike and – in a flash – your true calling will be revealed.
Listen, I’m not telling you to go out and quit your job (especially if this means it’d leave your family to starve). This is not an option for most of us. But what I’m asking you is this: Make a promise to yourself right here, right now to take the first bold step on behalf of your dreams.
So what do you say? Are you ready to take action to realize your dreams? I’m listening. Tell me all about it.
TAKE BACK YOUR LIFE!
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Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse here at QueenBeeing.com and at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.