I’ll tell you why.
It’s because they BELIEVE that they can have it all, and they believe they deserve it.
Ever wondered why you can’t get anything right? Well, here it is folks: it’s because you don’t believe you can.
Mary Kay Ash said, “If you think you can, you can. And if you think you can’t, you’re right.”
My message to you today is simple.
The power you seek to change your life is in your hands.
All you have to do is use it. The really cool part is that it’s so easy–just believe in yourself. Stop doubting yourself, and watch your thoughts.
When you notice negative thoughts, just say to yourself, “I’m now canceling this negative thought and replacing it with this more positive affirmation of my true desires.”
In fact, you don’t even need to be that formal about it–but reciting something to that effect in your head is a great way to distract yourself from the negativity you’re dealing with, and then it’s important that you actually follow through and replace the thought with a positive one.
For example, let’s say you are calling a creditor to explain why your payment will be late.
Before you call, you might worry and tell yourself that they won’t understand and that they’ll be rude or nasty to you.
When you make that call, you find that your fears come true. And here’s the interesting part…it came true because you believed it would.
Next time a situation like that presents itself, take a moment before you deal with it to get focused and calm. Try taking ten deep breaths in, blowing each one out fully before taking in the next.
Visualize yourself being clearly understood and empathized with by the person.
Visualize the situation working out to your best advantage, and really know it.
Tell yourself things will work out in your favor, and really believe it.
Then, pick up the phone and have that conversation.
I’ll bet you have a different outcome this time.
Bottom line: If you can believe it, you can achieve it. It’s a fact.
Learn it, live it, love it!
Do you believe that you can achieve anything?
Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.