Music offers a surprisingly powerful healing tool for survivors of narcissistic abuse. That’s why I’ve decided to share my personal “feel-good playlist” that helps me get moving in the right direction each day.
My “Good Morning Beautiful” playlist is available on Google Play Music.
My Good Morning Beautiful playlist is full of fun and happy (sometimes silly, sometimes empowering) songs that cheer me up and empower me. I’ve finally made it easier to find by creating a direct link to it from my site. And many survivors have since added their own power songs – so it’s most definitely an eclectic mix! Here you go!
How Music Can Help You With Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Did you know that listening to music can help you to not only have a better quality of life, but it can also help with your recovery from narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships? There are three ways you can use music to accomplish this.
Music For Motivation: Get Un-Stuck in Your Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
When you’re feeling stuck, as so often happens to those of us who deal with C-PTSD (complex post-traumatic stress disorder) as a result of narcissistic abuse, music can be just what the doctor ordered. Put on energetic music, and even doing housework seems less like work. Using music to motivate yourself or change your mood is an area where you can trust your experience and experimentation. When you find the music that energizes you, relaxes you, or makes you happy, keep it ready for when you need it.
Music For Reinvigorating Intelligence and Focus: Undoing the Damage of Narcissistic Abuse
After going through narcissistic abuse, many of us struggle with focus and we can even find ourselves feeling kind of “dumb” as we deal with memory issues and other neurological effects of narcissistic abuse. Music creates neural pathways in your brain that stimulate creativity.
Studies show that music trains the brain for higher forms of thinking. In one study, three-year-olds were split into two groups. The first had no special training in or exposure to music. The second group studied piano and sang daily in the chorus.
Eight months later the musical three-year-olds were much better at solving puzzles. They also scored 80% higher in spatial intelligence than the other group. There’s also anecdotal evidence that listening to music, especially from Mozart’s era, can help you study and learn better.
Hopefully, there will be more research. In the meantime, there’s no reason not to do your own experimentation. I’ve read that Stephen King writes with loud rock music playing, so the benefits of music may be according to your own tastes or brain-organization. Personally, I look for “happy music” that makes me smile or feel empowered – or at the very least, has a beat that gets me moving.
Music For Brain Training: Help for Re-training Your Neuroplastic Brain After Narcissistic Abuse
Want to listen to some music, and get smarter, or have instant easy meditation? There are products now that “entrain” your brainwaves, in order to put you in a meditative state. Music is embedded with beats and pulses that entrain your brain waves to a specific frequency. Put in the right CD or MP3 for your activity, and you get better brain function. Science? Partly.
Brain wave frequencies vary with mental state. Daydreaming and light meditation take place in the “Alpha” range of frequencies, for example. So if you listen to music containing beats at a frequency of 10 Hz you will generate more brainwaves at a 10 Hz frequency and enter a relaxed Alpha mental state.
Does music really help with all of these things?
Yes, in my personal experience and that of many of my narcissistic abuse recovery coaching clients. Here are some studies you can look into for additional information.
- Harvard Medical School – Music for Healing Report
- Harvard Women’s Health Report – How Music Can Help You Heal
- American Psychological Association – Music as Medicine Study
- Music, Medicine, Healing, and the Genome Project (NCBI)
- Scientists Tune Into the Brain to Uncover Music’s Healing Power