As you probably know, I write about narcissism, NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) and toxic relationships in general pretty often – but only in an effort to help people to overcome them. I also coach people who have been affected by narcissistic abuse in relationships over at Narcissism Support Coach.
Awhile back, I came across a poem one of my very creative Facebook friends had posted and it really struck a chord with me.
With her permission, I’m publishing it here today. I can’t wait to hear your thoughts!
Poor Me Syndrome
I am going to make every wrong choice humanly possible in regards to my own well being.
I am not going to listen to anyone.
I am not going to heed any warnings.
I am not going to take your advice.
I am not going to learn from my past mistakes.
I am going to defy authority.
I am going to learn the hard way.
I am going to play the blame game.
I am going to choose wrong over right.
I am going to ignore all the evidence.
I think I will beat the odds.
I think I know better.
I think I know everything and you know nothing.
I think I am invincible. Untouchable.
And then when all hell breaks loose, I get into trouble, or sick.
I am going to call you for help.
I am going to cry.
I am going to blame others for my choices.
I am going to try and hurt myself more.
I am going to repeatedly say “why me”!? or “what did I do do deserve this”!?
I am going to make everyone around me feel horrible.
You did this to yourself.
You were given all the tools in life to make sound decisions.
You were given so many chances.
You did this.
Now, you pay the consequences.
It is the “Poor Me Syndrome”.
Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.