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Overcoming Trauma Associated with Narcissistic Abuse

How to Recognize, Understand and Overcome Trauma as a Side-Effect of Narcissistic Abuse – Step by Step Guide and Resources List for Healing From the Trauma Associated with Narcissistic Abuse. Depending on what level of trauma you experienced during narcissistic abuse, the process for dealing with it varies. In cases of shorter relationships and those that aren’t as significant (such as a co-worker of a few months, versus a 20-year marriage, for example), you might feel better with time. But most of us will need to go through a whole process that will involve an extended period of self-reflection, research, learning, coping, grieving, and ultimately, and personal evolution. Here’s everything you need to know to help yourself heal trauma in narcissistic abuse recovery.

When Your Adult Child is a Narcissist

Do you have a strained relationship with your adult child? Do they seem to have an overblown sense of entitlement? Do they think the world revolves around them and get offended if you don't agree? Do they ever try to control you or your choices, either directly or...

Can You Go Back To Being The Person You Were Before Narcissistic Abuse?

Are you ready to get back to being your old self again after narcissistic abuse? Here’s what you need to know and exactly what to do. When you’ve dealt with narcissistic abuse for a long time and you finally get out, you’ll spend a lot of time first grieving and then healing. The narcissistic abuse recovery process can be long and complicated but at some point, you’re going to want to start “being your old self again.” You know, the self you used to be – before you met the narcissist.

When You Can’t Stop Obsessing Over the Narcissistic Abuse You Endured

If you’re over the narcissist who abused you, but you’re still feeling frozen or stuck in your life, you might be dealing with rumination. Here’s what you need to know to resolve it, create your own closure, and move forward with your life.

Dating After Divorcing a Narcissist?

If you’ve been through narcissistic abuse and you’re now thinking about entering the dating world again, there are some things you need to think about first. Let’s face it, a divorce can be a traumatic experience especially when you’ve dealt with narcissistic abuse, and jumping into the dating scene can be more than you might be ready to deal with. The only one who will know if you are truly ready to start dating after a divorce is you, but here are some things to consider before you go on that first date.

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Is The Narcissist Spying On You? Tips To Know For Sure

Is The Narcissist Spying On You? Tips To Know For Sure

After the narcissist discards you, you may have mixed feelings. Maybe you're feeling relieved after struggling with whether or not to leave the narcissist, but they saved you the trouble by discarding you first. Or maybe they've left you, and you're still really,...

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Divorcing a Narcissist

Divorcing a Narcissist

Divorce is always difficult and life-altering. When you're divorcing a narcissist, there's a whole other layer of manipulation and controlling behaviors involved. And, as painful as it is, it is less uncommon than you'd hope. According to the Centers for Disease...

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What Is Reactive Abuse?

What Is Reactive Abuse?

Reactive abuse is when you, as someone who is being abused, lash out toward your abuser in response to the abuse to which you’re being subjected. However, the truth is that it is a manipulation tactic that allows the user to shift the blame on to you. s shift blame from themselves onto the victim. You’ll be told that you’re overreacting or being overly dramatic and you’ll be accused of being the abuser yourself.

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How The Narcissist Sees You: Narcissistic Supply Explained

How The Narcissist Sees You: Narcissistic Supply Explained

What is Narcissistic Supply? Narcissistic supply means attention, admiration, emotional energy, and other kinds of “services” the narcissist requires in order to function and to maintain their ego. It can involve smile attention, or sex, money, caregiving (and caretaking), and more. The narcissist’s need for your emotional energy can be likened to the mythical vampire’s need for blood. They require it to survive. It nourishes them and keeps them feeling comfortable with their lives. They get their narcissistic supply from people, but in some cases, they might even get it from a pet or group of people.

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Tips For Finding A Safe Place To Live When Leaving An Abusive Relationship

Tips For Finding A Safe Place To Live When Leaving An Abusive Relationship

Where to Live When You’re Leaving an Abuser: When you’re planning to leave an abusive relationship, you’ll need a place to live. Here are five places to consider living when you’re planning to leave an abuser and/or a toxic relationship. Financial abuse might mean your options are limited. Here’s how to deal (and where to live) if you’re leaving an abuser but you don’t have any money.

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Tips For Leaving An Abusive Relationship Safely

Tips For Leaving An Abusive Relationship Safely

What can you do to prepare yourself to leave a toxic and abusive relationship? It is not as easy as picking up and going. Here are some of the most important things to consider before you leave a narcissist and an abusive relationship, compiled from the experience of thousands of survivors of narcissistic abuse.

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Codependency vs. Dependent Personality Disorder

Codependency vs. Dependent Personality Disorder

There has been a bit of confusion in the narcissistic abuse recovery community around codependency and dependent personality disorder. A question I received from one of our community members prompted me to clarify the differences and similarities between the two. The...

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5 Signs Your Mother is a Narcissist

5 Signs Your Mother is a Narcissist

Were you raised by a narcissistic mother? If you're like a lot of adult children of narcissistic mothers, you may have only recently realized that you were. See, just like you can be married to a narcissist for 20 years and not realize that you're dealing with...

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How To Make The Narcissist Respect You (The Only Way)

How To Make The Narcissist Respect You (The Only Way)

Narcissists prey on you by leaning into the trauma they’ve created in you. They’ve caused you to lose your self-confidence, thanks to years of ongoing abuse, and this has caused you to give in to their manipulative ways. They prey on you because they think they can, and because, until now, you may have tolerated it. But, guess what? You don’t have to take it anymore. You deserve to be happy, to feel peaceful, and to feel SAFE in your home. The narcissist takes all of that away from you – and my friend, you deserve better.

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40 Red-Flag Signs Your Relationship Might Be Toxic

40 Red-Flag Signs Your Relationship Might Be Toxic

Narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships is both confusing and debilitating for the victim of the narcissist. But what is interesting is that nearly everyone who has experienced it can relate to certain issues that come up. In fact, you might be surprised to learn...

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Empath and Codependent Are Not Synonyms

Empath and Codependent Are Not Synonyms

I've got two questions for you. Are all empaths codependent? Are all codependents empaths? I think it's time we clear up some confusion for our community. You often hear people in the narcissistic abuse community talking about empaths and codependents as though the...

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Making a New Year’s Resolution That Sticks

Making a New Year’s Resolution That Sticks

"Why do New Years Resolutions fail? Mainly, because they are only a statement, or what we wish for in the coming year. There are usually no action plans, no deadlines, no backup plans. Sometimes they are unrealistic resolutions, with no other thought or plans beside...

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Narcissistic Abuse Recovery on Tiktok

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery on Tiktok

I recently joined Tiktok and discovered a lot of interesting things. First, there are plenty of Gen Xers (and above) on the app. I definitely did not fully expect that. And secondly, much to my surprise, there is a beautifully connected community for narcissistic...

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The Aging Female Collapsed Narcissist

The Aging Female Collapsed Narcissist

A collapsed female narcissist feels like her world is crashing down around her, and as she desperately attempts to cling to her past, she will feel nothing but self-loathing deep down – but she will blame everyone but herself for this issue. She may not even recognize that she’s no longer the self she used to be. She may become more insecure than ever, and chances are that she will do her best to keep faking it. She might find herself competing with other women in odd and uncomfortable ways.

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How to Stop Being Miserable

How to Stop Being Miserable

Aren't you tired of being miserable yet? Don't you wish you could just be happy already? If you’ve ever been in a relationship with a narcissist, you already know that they tend to cause a great deal of misery and unhappiness in their wake. In fact, narcissists and...

Narcissists and the Karpman Drama Triangle

Narcissists and the Karpman Drama Triangle

How narcissists fit in with the Karpman Drama Triangle and use it to manipulate and control you. Plus: how you can overcome this kind of manipulation and heal yourself of codependency in the process

What is a covert narcissist?

What is a covert narcissist?

Unlike the overt narcissist, the covert narcissist will not necessarily display narcissistic behavior that is immediately recognizable. You might even think they’re an empath because they seem so modest, so sensitive and so very unsure of themselves. A covert narcissist is someone who has narcissistic personality disorder (or might, if they’d ever go see a psychologist for a diagnosis), but who doesn’t seem to have the obvious grandiosity factor. They don’t always seem to act as self-important as the more overt narcissist. They don’t appear to feel like they’re better than everyone – at least not before you know them well. They appear to be vulnerable and oversensitive, which will often manifest in their behavior as hostility and defensiveness. They will be the one who is quietly looking down their nose at you, judging you and everyone else around them harshly and often unfairly.

158 Signs You’re the Victim of Narcissistic Abuse

158 Signs You’re the Victim of Narcissistic Abuse

Could you be the victim of narcissistic abuse? If so, what can you do and how can you tell? Well, that's exactly what we're talking about today  - signs that you're the victim of narcissistic abuse (see video on YouTube).   What is narcissistic abuse? Let's begin...

Are you being catfished? Take the quiz!

Are you being catfished? Take the quiz!

After you go through narcissistic abuse and you finally get yourself free, you might find yourself looking for love through a dating app or an online dating website.  And you wouldn't be alone! In fact, according to an October 2019 study, 30 percent of US adults say...

When Narcissistic Abuse Makes You Afraid to Leave Home

When Narcissistic Abuse Makes You Afraid to Leave Home

In the depths of my toxic relationship, I found myself feeling really sort of numb. I functioned like a robot and did just the bare minimum I needed to do to get by. When I finally left, I thought everything would change - I thought my life would suddenly get better...

Re: ‘Sorry, But Your Ex Probably Isn’t a Narcissist’

Re: ‘Sorry, But Your Ex Probably Isn’t a Narcissist’

Re: "Sorry, But Your Ex Probably Isn't a Narcissist" (The Truth!)  - In this video, Dana Morningstar from Thrive After Abuse and I respond to this article on Psychology Today. From the article: "It seems there is a great hunger for info on narcissistic personality...

Challenge Your Conditioning & Take Back Your Life!

Challenge Your Conditioning & Take Back Your Life!

Challenge Your Conditioning (Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life) -Are you ready to take back your life after a toxic relationship? Learn how to challenge your conditioning so you can change your thoughts and change your life! Have a question you need me to answer?...

If you’re tired of hearing about narcissists, this is for you.

If you’re tired of hearing about narcissists, this is for you.

In this video, I'm introducing the brand new Shine Buzz Daily Show on YouTube. Tired of Binge-Watching Narcissist Videos? Watch this. Life hasn’t always been a bed of roses for you as a narcissistic abuse survivor. But you've learned your lessons, and you’ve done a...

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