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How to Support Yourself So You Can Heal Faster After Narcissistic Abuse
When you go through narcissistic abuse, a strange thing can happen: you can sort of lose yourself. You forget to do things for yourself, or you intentionally neglect them in favor of doing things for others. What's worse is that even as you go through narcissistic...
Overcoming Trauma Associated with Narcissistic Abuse
How to Recognize, Understand and Overcome Trauma as a Side-Effect of Narcissistic Abuse – Step by Step Guide and Resources List for Healing From the Trauma Associated with Narcissistic Abuse. Depending on what level of trauma you experienced during narcissistic abuse, the process for dealing with it varies. In cases of shorter relationships and those that aren’t as significant (such as a co-worker of a few months, versus a 20-year marriage, for example), you might feel better with time. But most of us will need to go through a whole process that will involve an extended period of self-reflection, research, learning, coping, grieving, and ultimately, and personal evolution. Here’s everything you need to know to help yourself heal trauma in narcissistic abuse recovery.
When Your Adult Child is a Narcissist
Do you have a strained relationship with your adult child? Do they seem to have an overblown sense of entitlement? Do they think the world revolves around them and get offended if you don't agree? Do they ever try to control you or your choices, either directly or...
Can You Go Back To Being The Person You Were Before Narcissistic Abuse?
Are you ready to get back to being your old self again after narcissistic abuse? Here’s what you need to know and exactly what to do. When you’ve dealt with narcissistic abuse for a long time and you finally get out, you’ll spend a lot of time first grieving and then healing. The narcissistic abuse recovery process can be long and complicated but at some point, you’re going to want to start “being your old self again.” You know, the self you used to be – before you met the narcissist.
When You Can’t Stop Obsessing Over the Narcissistic Abuse You Endured
If you’re over the narcissist who abused you, but you’re still feeling frozen or stuck in your life, you might be dealing with rumination. Here’s what you need to know to resolve it, create your own closure, and move forward with your life.
Dating After Divorcing a Narcissist?
If you’ve been through narcissistic abuse and you’re now thinking about entering the dating world again, there are some things you need to think about first. Let’s face it, a divorce can be a traumatic experience especially when you’ve dealt with narcissistic abuse, and jumping into the dating scene can be more than you might be ready to deal with. The only one who will know if you are truly ready to start dating after a divorce is you, but here are some things to consider before you go on that first date.
Is The Narcissist Spying On You? Tips To Know For Sure
After the narcissist discards you, you may have mixed feelings. Maybe you're feeling relieved after struggling with whether or not to leave the narcissist, but they saved you the trouble by discarding you first. Or maybe they've left you, and you're still really,...
Divorcing a Narcissist
Divorce is always difficult and life-altering. When you're divorcing a narcissist, there's a whole other layer of manipulation and controlling behaviors involved. And, as painful as it is, it is less uncommon than you'd hope. According to the Centers for Disease...
What Is Reactive Abuse?
Reactive abuse is when you, as someone who is being abused, lash out toward your abuser in response to the abuse to which you’re being subjected. However, the truth is that it is a manipulation tactic that allows the user to shift the blame on to you. s shift blame from themselves onto the victim. You’ll be told that you’re overreacting or being overly dramatic and you’ll be accused of being the abuser yourself.
How The Narcissist Sees You: Narcissistic Supply Explained
What is Narcissistic Supply? Narcissistic supply means attention, admiration, emotional energy, and other kinds of “services” the narcissist requires in order to function and to maintain their ego. It can involve smile attention, or sex, money, caregiving (and caretaking), and more. The narcissist’s need for your emotional energy can be likened to the mythical vampire’s need for blood. They require it to survive. It nourishes them and keeps them feeling comfortable with their lives. They get their narcissistic supply from people, but in some cases, they might even get it from a pet or group of people.
Financial Abuse in Toxic Relationships Quiz: Find Out If It’s Happening to You
Are you being financially abused by a toxic narcissist? Take the test now! Are you in a relationship with a malignant narcissist who controls your money or who won't give you access to your family money? Do you feel like you can't get away because you don't have the...
Tips For Finding A Safe Place To Live When Leaving An Abusive Relationship
Where to Live When You’re Leaving an Abuser: When you’re planning to leave an abusive relationship, you’ll need a place to live. Here are five places to consider living when you’re planning to leave an abuser and/or a toxic relationship. Financial abuse might mean your options are limited. Here’s how to deal (and where to live) if you’re leaving an abuser but you don’t have any money.
What Are The Pros And Cons Of Joining A Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Group?
So, you just went no contact with a narcissistic ex or narcissistic parent, and you are struggling with the trauma associated with the abuse you endured during the time you were in their presence. Maybe you've found a therapist, or you're getting weekly narcissistic...
Male Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse Should Be Recognized, Not Minimized and Invalidated.
If you are a man who has been dealing with narcissistic abuse in a toxic relationship, you are likely filled with self-doubt and you might not even know where to turn for help. Despite the popular assumption that only women are abused in relationships, the opposite is...
Tips For Leaving An Abusive Relationship Safely
What can you do to prepare yourself to leave a toxic and abusive relationship? It is not as easy as picking up and going. Here are some of the most important things to consider before you leave a narcissist and an abusive relationship, compiled from the experience of thousands of survivors of narcissistic abuse.
Codependency vs. Dependent Personality Disorder
There has been a bit of confusion in the narcissistic abuse recovery community around codependency and dependent personality disorder. A question I received from one of our community members prompted me to clarify the differences and similarities between the two. The...
5 Signs Your Mother is a Narcissist
Were you raised by a narcissistic mother? If you're like a lot of adult children of narcissistic mothers, you may have only recently realized that you were. See, just like you can be married to a narcissist for 20 years and not realize that you're dealing with...
How To Make The Narcissist Respect You (The Only Way)
Narcissists prey on you by leaning into the trauma they’ve created in you. They’ve caused you to lose your self-confidence, thanks to years of ongoing abuse, and this has caused you to give in to their manipulative ways. They prey on you because they think they can, and because, until now, you may have tolerated it. But, guess what? You don’t have to take it anymore. You deserve to be happy, to feel peaceful, and to feel SAFE in your home. The narcissist takes all of that away from you – and my friend, you deserve better.
Why ‘Fake It Til Ya Make It’ Isn’t Always Great Advice
Faking Happiness? Why You Need to Stop It, Right Now! Want to Level Up Your Life? Quit Faking Happiness! YOU really can be happy and fulfilled after a toxic relationship with a narcissist. Quit Faking Happiness and Learn How to Live Authentically Many people are...
How to Stop Being Miserable
Aren't you tired of being miserable yet? Don't you wish you could just be happy already? If you’ve ever been in a relationship with a narcissist, you already know that they tend to cause a great deal of misery and unhappiness in their wake. In fact, narcissists and...
Find Your Passion at Any Age! 11 Famous People Who Prove It’s Never Too Late
Often, my clients who are recovering from narcissistic abuse tell me that they don't even know who they are anymore - and even if they do, they all think they're too old to start something new. Still, sometimes life forces you to start over - and that's especially...
Post-Gaslighting Emergency Recovery: A ‘First Aid’ Kit for Your Aching Soul
If you've ever been in a relationship with a narcissist, you know the feeling of having your heart torn out, stomped on and then squished into tiny pieces before you can even blink. That's how you feel after you've been attacked by a narcissist who is actively...
How to Reclaim Your Feminine Power After Toxic Relationships
Are you feeling like life after a toxic relationship has noting to offer? Are you bored and feeling kinda ugly and unapproachable lately? Are you tired of feeling unattractive? Do you wanna bring out your inner goddess? Do you want to bring your sexy back, or to find...
Try This When You Can’t Stop Crying: 2-Minutes 4-Corners Technique
This morning I was just sitting down to work when I heard my daughter screaming. I ran out of my office and found her and my son standing over our cat who we'd had ten years - she had died. Now, this was my cat - and my kids can't remember life before her. In...
Peaceful Inspiration Meditation for Narcissistic Abuse Survivors (Trigger-Free)
Please enjoy this trigger-free, peaceful and positive-thinking focused meditation. Related articles Surviving Narcissistic Abuse: 65 Things You Might Say to Your Narcissist If You Could Outrage: Narcissistic Fathers Who Leave You When You Are Pregnant The Addict...
Accept and Empower Yourself with Mindful Strategies for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
The way that you conduct yourself in your personal and professional life begins with how you use your mind. You can teach your mind to accept yourself and gain empowerment - or you can stay stuck in self-defeating behaviors. You are what you think. When you want to...
Male Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse Offers Hope for Fellow Survivors
Editor's Note: Today's post comes from a member of my SPAN (Support for People Affected by Narcissism in relationships) online support group, a well-educated male who has chosen to be identified by the name Manager Poet. He also happens to be a survivor of...
Self-Proclaimed Narcissist YouTuber: My Off-the-Cuff Response
This is the first of many in a new video series I'm launching in celebration of my 2000th YouTube subscriber called "Go Ask Angie." In this series, I'll respond "off the cuff" to questions, comments and concerns sent to me by my YouTube viewers, readers from my...
New Quora Space for Narcissism and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Information, Support and Answers
The QueenBeeing Team is pleased to announce the launch of a brand new way to get support for understanding the narcissist in your life and facilitating your own recovery from narcissistic abuse. Introducing Decoding Narcissism A New Quora Space for Narcissism and...
Narcissists and the Karpman Drama Triangle
How narcissists fit in with the Karpman Drama Triangle and use it to manipulate and control you. Plus: how you can overcome this kind of manipulation and heal yourself of codependency in the process
What is a covert narcissist?
Unlike the overt narcissist, the covert narcissist will not necessarily display narcissistic behavior that is immediately recognizable. You might even think they’re an empath because they seem so modest, so sensitive and so very unsure of themselves. A covert narcissist is someone who has narcissistic personality disorder (or might, if they’d ever go see a psychologist for a diagnosis), but who doesn’t seem to have the obvious grandiosity factor. They don’t always seem to act as self-important as the more overt narcissist. They don’t appear to feel like they’re better than everyone – at least not before you know them well. They appear to be vulnerable and oversensitive, which will often manifest in their behavior as hostility and defensiveness. They will be the one who is quietly looking down their nose at you, judging you and everyone else around them harshly and often unfairly.
158 Signs You’re the Victim of Narcissistic Abuse
Could you be the victim of narcissistic abuse? If so, what can you do and how can you tell? Well, that's exactly what we're talking about today - signs that you're the victim of narcissistic abuse (see video on YouTube). What is narcissistic abuse? Let's begin...
Are you being catfished? Take the quiz!
After you go through narcissistic abuse and you finally get yourself free, you might find yourself looking for love through a dating app or an online dating website. And you wouldn't be alone! In fact, according to an October 2019 study, 30 percent of US adults say...
Coronavirus Stay-Home Order Presents Unique Challenges for Narcissistic Abuse Victims
While the idea of “sheltering in place” is meant to keep us safe and help our communities flatten the curve of the coronavirus that is threatening our population right now, there is one part of the population that may be in more danger than ever – and which continues...
When Narcissistic Abuse Makes You Afraid to Leave Home
In the depths of my toxic relationship, I found myself feeling really sort of numb. I functioned like a robot and did just the bare minimum I needed to do to get by. When I finally left, I thought everything would change - I thought my life would suddenly get better...
Re: ‘Sorry, But Your Ex Probably Isn’t a Narcissist’
Re: "Sorry, But Your Ex Probably Isn't a Narcissist" (The Truth!) - In this video, Dana Morningstar from Thrive After Abuse and I respond to this article on Psychology Today. From the article: "It seems there is a great hunger for info on narcissistic personality...
Challenge Your Conditioning & Take Back Your Life!
Challenge Your Conditioning (Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life) -Are you ready to take back your life after a toxic relationship? Learn how to challenge your conditioning so you can change your thoughts and change your life! Have a question you need me to answer?...
If you’re tired of hearing about narcissists, this is for you.
In this video, I'm introducing the brand new Shine Buzz Daily Show on YouTube. Tired of Binge-Watching Narcissist Videos? Watch this. Life hasn’t always been a bed of roses for you as a narcissistic abuse survivor. But you've learned your lessons, and you’ve done a...
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