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Why Would a Narcissist Give Me The Silent Treatment?

The cold shoulder. Ostracization. Social exclusion. Being actively, directly rudely ignored! It's exhausting, It's upsetting. And quite honestly, it's abusive. So, let me ask you something. Have you been there? Does someone in your life cut off contact, directly or...

When the Narcissist Wants to Stay Friends After the Discard

Have you ever wondered why some narcissists always want to seem to stay friends with their exes? Have you personally dealt with a narcissistic ex who insisted on being friends? It makes any sane person wonder why someone who clearly did not care about you during your...

Why Do Narcissists Make You Feel Like You’re Not Enough?

If you've ever been in a toxic relationship with a narcissist, you might already know how adept they can be at making you feel completely worthless. If that rings true for you, you're definitely not alone. In fact, one of the most underrated ways a narcissist can...

What is internalized gaslighting?

(See video on YouTube) A longtime member of my narcissistic abuse recovery community used to tell me that he was really good at gaslighting himself. It amused me at first, but when I really started to think about it, I realized that he wasn't off-base in his...

Why does a narcissist move on so quickly after the discard?

Have you been discarded by a narcissist, only to learn that they've already moved on to another partner days, weeks, or even hours after your relationship ended? Or, have you learned the hard way that your ex (or soon-to-be-ex) is already involved with someone else...

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Dating After Divorcing a Narcissist?

Dating After Divorcing a Narcissist?

If you’ve been through narcissistic abuse and you’re now thinking about entering the dating world again, there are some things you need to think about first. Let’s face it, a divorce can be a traumatic experience especially when you’ve dealt with narcissistic abuse, and jumping into the dating scene can be more than you might be ready to deal with. The only one who will know if you are truly ready to start dating after a divorce is you, but here are some things to consider before you go on that first date.

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Is The Narcissist Spying On You? Tips To Know For Sure

Is The Narcissist Spying On You? Tips To Know For Sure

After the narcissist discards you, you may have mixed feelings. Maybe you're feeling relieved after struggling with whether or not to leave the narcissist, but they saved you the trouble by discarding you first. Or maybe they've left you, and you're still really,...

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Divorcing a Narcissist

Divorcing a Narcissist

Divorce is always difficult and life-altering. When you're divorcing a narcissist, there's a whole other layer of manipulation and controlling behaviors involved. And, as painful as it is, it is less uncommon than you'd hope. According to the Centers for Disease...

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What Is Reactive Abuse?

What Is Reactive Abuse?

Reactive abuse is when you, as someone who is being abused, lash out toward your abuser in response to the abuse to which you’re being subjected. However, the truth is that it is a manipulation tactic that allows the user to shift the blame on to you. s shift blame from themselves onto the victim. You’ll be told that you’re overreacting or being overly dramatic and you’ll be accused of being the abuser yourself.

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How The Narcissist Sees You: Narcissistic Supply Explained

How The Narcissist Sees You: Narcissistic Supply Explained

What is Narcissistic Supply? Narcissistic supply means attention, admiration, emotional energy, and other kinds of “services” the narcissist requires in order to function and to maintain their ego. It can involve smile attention, or sex, money, caregiving (and caretaking), and more. The narcissist’s need for your emotional energy can be likened to the mythical vampire’s need for blood. They require it to survive. It nourishes them and keeps them feeling comfortable with their lives. They get their narcissistic supply from people, but in some cases, they might even get it from a pet or group of people.

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Tips For Finding A Safe Place To Live When Leaving An Abusive Relationship

Tips For Finding A Safe Place To Live When Leaving An Abusive Relationship

Where to Live When You’re Leaving an Abuser: When you’re planning to leave an abusive relationship, you’ll need a place to live. Here are five places to consider living when you’re planning to leave an abuser and/or a toxic relationship. Financial abuse might mean your options are limited. Here’s how to deal (and where to live) if you’re leaving an abuser but you don’t have any money.

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Tips For Leaving An Abusive Relationship Safely

Tips For Leaving An Abusive Relationship Safely

What can you do to prepare yourself to leave a toxic and abusive relationship? It is not as easy as picking up and going. Here are some of the most important things to consider before you leave a narcissist and an abusive relationship, compiled from the experience of thousands of survivors of narcissistic abuse.

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Codependency vs. Dependent Personality Disorder

Codependency vs. Dependent Personality Disorder

There has been a bit of confusion in the narcissistic abuse recovery community around codependency and dependent personality disorder. A question I received from one of our community members prompted me to clarify the differences and similarities between the two. The...

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5 Signs Your Mother is a Narcissist

5 Signs Your Mother is a Narcissist

Were you raised by a narcissistic mother? If you're like a lot of adult children of narcissistic mothers, you may have only recently realized that you were. See, just like you can be married to a narcissist for 20 years and not realize that you're dealing with...

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How To Make The Narcissist Respect You (The Only Way)

How To Make The Narcissist Respect You (The Only Way)

Narcissists prey on you by leaning into the trauma they’ve created in you. They’ve caused you to lose your self-confidence, thanks to years of ongoing abuse, and this has caused you to give in to their manipulative ways. They prey on you because they think they can, and because, until now, you may have tolerated it. But, guess what? You don’t have to take it anymore. You deserve to be happy, to feel peaceful, and to feel SAFE in your home. The narcissist takes all of that away from you – and my friend, you deserve better.

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40 Red-Flag Signs Your Relationship Might Be Toxic

40 Red-Flag Signs Your Relationship Might Be Toxic

Narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships is both confusing and debilitating for the victim of the narcissist. But what is interesting is that nearly everyone who has experienced it can relate to certain issues that come up. In fact, you might be surprised to learn...

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Empath and Codependent Are Not Synonyms

Empath and Codependent Are Not Synonyms

I've got two questions for you. Are all empaths codependent? Are all codependents empaths? I think it's time we clear up some confusion for our community. You often hear people in the narcissistic abuse community talking about empaths and codependents as though the...

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Making a New Year’s Resolution That Sticks

Making a New Year’s Resolution That Sticks

"Why do New Years Resolutions fail? Mainly, because they are only a statement, or what we wish for in the coming year. There are usually no action plans, no deadlines, no backup plans. Sometimes they are unrealistic resolutions, with no other thought or plans beside...

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Narcissistic Abuse Recovery on Tiktok

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery on Tiktok

I recently joined Tiktok and discovered a lot of interesting things. First, there are plenty of Gen Xers (and above) on the app. I definitely did not fully expect that. And secondly, much to my surprise, there is a beautifully connected community for narcissistic...

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Inspiration Station: 56 Quotes to Lift Your Spirits

Inspiration Station: 56 Quotes to Lift Your Spirits

You have to do what you love to do, not get stuck in that comfort zone of a regular job. Life is not a dress rehearsal. This is it. –Lucinda Basset To exceed beyond your wildest expectations you must begin with wild expectations. –Anonymous High expectations are the...

The Miracle Formula: 7 Easy Steps to a DIY Miracle

The Miracle Formula: 7 Easy Steps to a DIY Miracle

"Once all struggle is grasped, miracles are possible." ~ Mao Zedong Would you believe me if I told you that you have the power to change your world? What if I said that you could choose literally every aspect of your life, at least as far as you believe you could?...

Identifying Emotionally Unavailable People in Relationships

Identifying Emotionally Unavailable People in Relationships

“Most people in the psychology field believe that if we do not get a child to bond at a deep level with someone by age eight, we have lost them. We can never recover them and teach them empathy. Never.” ~Patti Henry, Author of The Emotionally Unavailable Man...

Update: Your Love is My Drug (2nd Edition)

Update: Your Love is My Drug (2nd Edition)

 **Second Edition, Updated 2019**Includes new chapters and information as well as an updated, more robust section on overcoming trauma bonding featuring Lise Colucci.  Are you tired of feeling like you're not good enough? Do you wish that someone in your life would...

How to Talk to a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach FREE

How to Talk to a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach FREE

Get Free Video Coaching for Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse Speak to one of our narcissistic abuse recovery coaches during a live-streaming video coaching session on YouTube. Angie Atkinson and Lise Colucci each offer free online video coaching sessions through the...

How long does it take to recover from narcissistic abuse?

How long does it take to recover from narcissistic abuse?

Am I always going to be miserable? Will I ever feel normal again? When will the pain end? When can I expect to start feeling like myself again after the end of a toxic relationship? Will I ever stop missing my ex? Am I ever going to stop crying? How long does it take...

When Self-Help Tips Hurt: Stay Safe in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

When Self-Help Tips Hurt: Stay Safe in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

"There are as many forms of advice as there are colors of the rainbow. Remember that good advice can come from bad people and bad advice from good people. The important thing about advice is that it is simply that. Advice." ~Al Franken As a survivor of narcissistic...

Are you an empath?

Are you an empath?

Basic empathy is simply the ability to imagine yourself in another person's place and understand their feelings, desires, ideas, and actions. But being an empath is a little deeper. Here are the top 10 empath traits (watch the video for expansion on each point!): 1....

Motivation Mojo – New Course at Life Makeover Academy

Motivation Mojo – New Course at Life Makeover Academy

Introducing...Motivation Mojo - Awakening The Limitless Drive Within ‘Motivation Mojo’ is your ultimate guide to take the full advantage of the ‘fire’ that drives you to be insanely successful - your inner motivation. What you are about to discover are the secrets to...

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