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Dating After Narcissistic Abuse
Dating After Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Q&A Dating after a toxic relationship for most of us is very scary and so many questions can come up. The following video replies to direct questions survivors have asked about dating again, friendships, trusting others,...
Re: ‘Sorry, But Your Ex Probably Isn’t a Narcissist’
Re: "Sorry, But Your Ex Probably Isn't a Narcissist" (The Truth!) - In this video, Dana Morningstar from Thrive After Abuse and I respond to this article on Psychology Today. From the article: "It seems there is a great hunger for info on narcissistic personality...
Get Unstuck with this ONE Thing
The Secret To Self Motivation - It's Motivational Monday! Today we're talking about how to get stuff done when you're feeling stuck. So often, when we're dealing with the aftermath of a toxic relationship, we find ourselves feeling stuck and like we just can't get...
Challenge Your Conditioning & Take Back Your Life!
Challenge Your Conditioning (Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life) -Are you ready to take back your life after a toxic relationship? Learn how to challenge your conditioning so you can change your thoughts and change your life! Have a question you need me to answer?...
Cognitive Dissonance
Cognitive Dissonance, Feeling Conflicted and Trauma Bonds Cognitive Dissonance is the holding of two conflicting beliefs or values at the same time.You know the feeling of really not wanting to be with the narcissist ever again but then feeling the urge to...
The Narcissist Was Wrong About You!
"You deserve to be happy. You deserve to live a life that lights you up. Don't ever forget that." ~Coco Calla You deserve good things! You may think (or have previously thought) that you don't deserve "good things" in your life. And, chances are, you came to believe...
How and Why Narcissists Hoover
Have you been Hoovered? What is a Hoover and why do the narcissists do this? Will they ever stop and what can you do about it to keep yourself away from the narcissist and heal trauma bonds? The Hoover is basically the narcissists attempt to suck you back in, to make...
20 Signs of Covert Narcissism
What are the signs of COVERT NARCISSISM? Some times survivors are confused by the abuse they faced because some of the things experienced do not line up with other stories they hear about narcissistic behaviors. Maybe things seem a bit "less bad" compared to what you...
How to Not Let Others’ Negativity Affect Your Mood and Experiences
"Stop letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings and emotions." ~Will Smith When you're dealing with a negative person, whether they're a toxic narcissist or not, they might have a way of dumping their emotional garbage on your...
6 Soul-Destroying Toxic Relationship Moves That Most People Overlook
“That’s when I finally got it. I finally understood. It wasn’t the thought that counted. It was the actual execution that mattered, the showing up for somebody. The intent behind it wasn’t enough. Not for me. Not anymore. It wasn’t enough to know that deep down, he...
If No Contact Were a Drug (Commercial Parody)
No Contact Rule: Narcissist Relationship Solution (Commercial Parody) Script: Are you in a relationship with someone who makes you feel miserable all the time? Do you find yourself hanging on, hoping against hope that this person will change? Have you become isolated...
7 Ways Narcissists Argue to Confuse Conversations
Understanding the arguing techniques used by toxic narcissists: 7 arguing tactics narcissists use to confuse conversations Ever feel like you were losing your mind after having an argument with a toxic narcissist? If you have, you're not alone! The fact is that...
Are you a narcissist magnet? 4 types of people who seem to attract narcissists
Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting narcissists? Are you interested in learning how to stop attracting narcissists? Do you find yourself wondering, "Am I a narcissist magnet?" “Understanding how a narcissist works is the key to living or working with one,"...
Narcissistic Abuse Nightmare Disguised as a Fairytale Marriage
*Editor’s Note: This story was submitted by a fellow survivor of narcissistic abuse. Read more stories right here, and submit your own here. Living with a narcissist is like living in a fairy tale. But not the kind you might have read to your own children. More like...
Hoovering
When you end a toxic relationship with a narcissist, you might think that it's over - but very often, the narcissist has other ideas. in fact, more often than not, the narcissist will do something to suck you back into their drama - or even fully back into the...
Toxic Relationships
“Controllers, abusers, and manipulative people don't question themselves. They don't ask themselves if the problem is them. They always say the problem is someone else.” ~Darlene Quimet Toxic relationships aren't always obviously toxic to the untrained eye. In fact,...
‘Love’ with a Sociopath: The Cookie Illustration
~THE COOKIE ILLUSTRATION~ What is 'love' with a sociopath like? Well, imagine there's a vending machine in front of you with one big red button that says, 'FREE COOKIES'. At first, the cookies are so delicious.. so euphoric. But afterward, every time you press the...
Trauma Bonding
Trauma bonding is a common condition among narcissistic abuse survivors and their abusers. Thanks to an ongoing cycle of intermittent reinforcement, many survivors of toxic relationships go through this, much like kidnapping victims and hostages do. Trauma bonding is...
63 Things I’d Rather Do Than Hang Out With a Narcissist
So, sort of an amusing discussion happened this morning in my SPAN group. One of my admins said that having gone to the dentist proved to be more enjoyable than actually hanging out with her toxic narcissist. That sparked her idea of a blog post entitled "Things...
Video: DIY 3 Big Needs That The Narcissist Can NEVER Fulfill
When you're looking to get out of a toxic relationship with a narcissist, sometimes it helps to think about what you need that you're not getting. This way, as you make your plans for moving forward, you can visualize your amazing new life properly - and make room for...
Inspiration Station: 56 Quotes to Lift Your Spirits
You have to do what you love to do, not get stuck in that comfort zone of a regular job. Life is not a dress rehearsal. This is it. –Lucinda Basset To exceed beyond your wildest expectations you must begin with wild expectations. –Anonymous High expectations are the...
The Miracle Formula: 7 Easy Steps to a DIY Miracle
"Once all struggle is grasped, miracles are possible." ~ Mao Zedong Would you believe me if I told you that you have the power to change your world? What if I said that you could choose literally every aspect of your life, at least as far as you believe you could?...
Daily Affirmation Meditation: Criticism is Fuel for My Fire
When you've been abused by a narcissist, the recovery can be hard. When you go back into the "real" world with "normal" people, you might find that you struggle when anyone criticizes you - you may instantly feel put-upon, upset or even angry, because you are so used...
Daily Affirmation Meditation: Radiant Spirit to Overcome Insecurities
A radiant spirit shatters insecurities. I take part in activities that keep my spirit alive and make me feel good about myself. I focus on maintaining positive energy. As a result, it is easy for me to let go of my insecurities. I surround myself with those who are...
Tune In: How to Deal When Online Drama Affects Your ‘Real Life’
"All of the biggest technological inventions created by man – the airplane, the automobile, the computer – says little about his intelligence, but speaks volumes about his laziness." – Mark Kennedy Life is Different Than it Used to Be We live in an online world...
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: Eliminating Your ‘Roadblocks’
While no two people are the same, we all have one thing in common - the little "roadblocks" that get in our way as we try to figure out what we really want from life. Roadblocks stop some people from ever making a change, but they motivate others to keep on going to...
‘Poor Me Syndrome’ – An Original Poem by Vikki Lee
As you probably know, I write about narcissism, NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) and toxic relationships in general pretty often - but only in an effort to help people to overcome them. I also coach people who have been affected by narcissistic abuse in...
Boundary-Busting Narcissist? Here’s a Non-Toxic Boundary-Management Plan
One of the most difficult aspects of being tangled in a narcissist's web is learning to set firm boundaries with them. Narcissists typically have poor boundaries themselves; they like to win and maintain power, and they don't like others setting boundaries on them....
Are you an empath?
Basic empathy is simply the ability to imagine yourself in another person's place and understand their feelings, desires, ideas, and actions. But being an empath is a little deeper. Here are the top 10 empath traits (watch the video for expansion on each point!): 1....
Why Being Assertive is Important and How to Develop It: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Learning to be assertive is one of the most important life skills you can develop. That's true for anyone - but especially for narcissistic abuse survivors. Studies have shown that being assertive can lead to a whole host of benefits, from increased self-confidence to...
Beware: These People Are Trying to Scam Narcissistic Abuse Survivors
People are Running Predatory Scams on Narcissistic Abuse Survivors - Here's how to avoid being scammed. (Plus Q&A Support Replay) with Dana Morningstar & Angie Atkinson - You might be really vulnerable during your recovery from a toxic relationship. In this...
Motivation Mojo – New Course at Life Makeover Academy
Introducing...Motivation Mojo - Awakening The Limitless Drive Within ‘Motivation Mojo’ is your ultimate guide to take the full advantage of the ‘fire’ that drives you to be insanely successful - your inner motivation. What you are about to discover are the secrets to...
New Support Group for Co-Parenting with a Narcissist
Introducing a brand new support group for people who are actively co-parenting with a narcissist. We KNOW how hard it is, and due to several requests, we have launched the SPANily Support for Co-Parenting with a Narcissist Support Group. If you’re co-parenting with a...
Thanksgiving Day Events for the SPANily
If you're alone on Thanksgiving this year because you've gone no contact with a gaslighting narcissist or someone with NPD, you don't have to spend the day by yourself. Get involved with your SPANily instead! You are never alone because you always have your SPANily....
Love to Read? Looking for Community? Join the SPAN Book Club for Free
Are you looking for a way to both socialize and regain your sense of self after a toxic relationship? Would you like to do so without having to leave your own home? Well, look no further! SPAN Book Club is here to serve exactly that need - and then some. Get...
How to Overcome Your Post-Narcissistic-Abuse Existential Crisis
Introducing a brand new program from Angie Atkinson and the Life Academy Team. Learn more about Manifest, right here. Dear Survivor, Ever feel like you're having an existential crisis? Do you feel like you're on the verge of huge personal change but you can't quite...
DIY Home Security System (Protect Yourself From a Stalking Narcissist)
If you're dealing with a toxic ex, chances are you've got enough anxiety already. And if you can't afford a traditional home security system, you may be constantly stressing about your safety. This is not good for your physical or mental health. But there's good news...
New Research Reveals the ‘Dark Core’ of Personality: The D Factor
Dark Core of Personality Defined: New Study Exposes the D Factor in Dark Triad Qualities Psychologists define 'the dark core of personality' - D-FACTOR Egoism, Machiavellianism, narcissism, psychopathy, sadism, spitefulness, and others are among the traits that stand...
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