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Making a New Year’s Resolution That Sticks
"Why do New Years Resolutions fail? Mainly, because they are only a statement, or what we wish for in the coming year. There are usually no action plans, no deadlines, no backup plans. Sometimes they are unrealistic resolutions, with no other thought or plans beside...
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery on Tiktok
I recently joined Tiktok and discovered a lot of interesting things. First, there are plenty of Gen Xers (and above) on the app. I definitely did not fully expect that. And secondly, much to my surprise, there is a beautifully connected community for narcissistic...
Ever Worry You Might Be the Narcissist in Your Relationship?
If you've ever been in a relationship with a malignant narcissist or someone who has narcissistic personality disorder, you might have wondered on more than one occasion whether you are the narcissist in the relationship. Thanks to the gaslighting and manipulation...
The Aging Female Collapsed Narcissist
A collapsed female narcissist feels like her world is crashing down around her, and as she desperately attempts to cling to her past, she will feel nothing but self-loathing deep down – but she will blame everyone but herself for this issue. She may not even recognize that she’s no longer the self she used to be. She may become more insecure than ever, and chances are that she will do her best to keep faking it. She might find herself competing with other women in odd and uncomfortable ways.
What Happens When The Narcissist Finally Snaps And Loses Control?
What happens when the narcissist snaps and loses control? The narcissist snaps because they lose control – of YOU … find yourself thinking a little differently, and you might even stop trying to coddle and protect them from the disappointment or anger that will inevitably come when they notice you’re no longer tolerating their childish behavior. When you realize that you’ve been actually enabling the narcissist by giving them narcissistic supply, you might even get a little angry. Your anger might propel you forward to…
Why Is The Narcissist Still Obsessed With You?
(Prefer to listen or watch instead of reading? Here's the video on YouTube) We recently talked about how to deal with feeling obsessed with the narcissist, even after the relationship ends. But what do you do when you're dealing with a narcissist who is obsessed with...
Narcissists And Selective Memory
Narcissists are known for their ‘selective memories,’ but do they really forget things? While the narcissist most certainly can and does occasionally have moments of forgetfulness or things that really slip their minds, in many cases, it can be a smokescreen for the gaslighting techniques they use to control you and manipulate you into doing what they want. Here’s everything you need to know about narcissists and selective memory.
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The Narcissist Underestimates You
Narcissists underestimate you for many reasons…remember this: if someone underestimates you, it actually offers you a rather significant advantage. If they think you’re not capable of something and you do it anyway, there is far less resistance involved, if that makes sense.
Private Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coaching for Less – Small Group Coaching
Are you looking for personal support for your narcissistic abuse recovery, but you aren't willing or able to pay for private coaching? Or maybe you want some support in addition to traditional therapy or private coaching you're already doing? Listen, I get it....
How Do You Identify A Narcissistic Female?
(Prefer to Watch/Listen Instead of Read? See Video on The Narcissistic Female) How do you identify a female narcissist? Not only do they tend to fly under the radar more often than male narcissists, but their toxic behaviors are often attributed to the fact that...
Narcissism – Are The Parents Always To Blame?
Research points to a condition that is referred to as transient, temporary, or short-term narcissism … what does acquired situational narcissism (ASN) look like in real life? Psychologists recognized “reactive narcissistic regression,” which meant that when someone was dealing with a big life crisis, they might end up going through a sort of temporary narcissistic phase where they’d behave like a toxic narcissist until the crisis was over.
How Do Narcissists Exploit Your Need For Connection?
…narcissist cannot feel compassionate and emotional empathy … only type of empathy that the narcissist expresses is cognitive, superficial, and agenda-driven empathy. They know you have a need for connection … will do anything they can to exploit it. But why would they do that? Let’s discuss it.
5 Things Narcissists Say To Make You Self-Isolate From Others
…people who end up in relationships with narcissists usually suffered trauma during childhood that led to them feeling alone in the world. . .didn’t feel loved and supported…so happy and surprised that someone wants to be “our person” finally, we are seduced and hooked by the idea of it…
5 Ways Narcissists Destroy Their Families
Have a toxic family member? You’re probably well-aware of the fact that your average narcissist isn’t capable of being consistently kind to their family. And, in so many cases, they will even be worse to certain members of the family, for various reasons. Here’s why and how to deal.
Narcissistic Abuse: The Disgusting Truth About People Who Don’t Go No Contact
…many of these ‘new experts’ are actual survivors of narcissistic abuse but some are in it for money…they also don’t realize (or don’t care) how painfully invalidating revictimization can be for victims and survivors of toxic relationships…
4 Ways to Get a Narcissist to Leave You Alone
(Prefer to read/listen? See video on YouTube) If you've tried to end a relationship with a narcissist, or a narcissist has ended a relationship with you, there are several things you could expect to happen. They might just ghost you and appear to have fallen off the...
What Happens When You See The Narcissist After No Contact?
(Prefer to watch/listen instead of reading? See this video) So, you went no contact with a narcissist, either because you left them or they left you. In any case, you decided that you've had just about enough of a toxic relationship and you finally decided to make the...
63 Things I’d Rather Do Than Hang Out With a Narcissist
So, sort of an amusing discussion happened this morning in my SPAN group. One of my admins said that having gone to the dentist proved to be more enjoyable than actually hanging out with her toxic narcissist. That sparked her idea of a blog post entitled "Things...
Video: DIY 3 Big Needs That The Narcissist Can NEVER Fulfill
When you're looking to get out of a toxic relationship with a narcissist, sometimes it helps to think about what you need that you're not getting. This way, as you make your plans for moving forward, you can visualize your amazing new life properly - and make room for...
Inspiration Station: 56 Quotes to Lift Your Spirits
You have to do what you love to do, not get stuck in that comfort zone of a regular job. Life is not a dress rehearsal. This is it. –Lucinda Basset To exceed beyond your wildest expectations you must begin with wild expectations. –Anonymous High expectations are the...
The Miracle Formula: 7 Easy Steps to a DIY Miracle
"Once all struggle is grasped, miracles are possible." ~ Mao Zedong Would you believe me if I told you that you have the power to change your world? What if I said that you could choose literally every aspect of your life, at least as far as you believe you could?...
Daily Affirmation Meditation: Criticism is Fuel for My Fire
When you've been abused by a narcissist, the recovery can be hard. When you go back into the "real" world with "normal" people, you might find that you struggle when anyone criticizes you - you may instantly feel put-upon, upset or even angry, because you are so used...
Daily Affirmation Meditation: Radiant Spirit to Overcome Insecurities
A radiant spirit shatters insecurities. I take part in activities that keep my spirit alive and make me feel good about myself. I focus on maintaining positive energy. As a result, it is easy for me to let go of my insecurities. I surround myself with those who are...
Tune In: How to Deal When Online Drama Affects Your ‘Real Life’
"All of the biggest technological inventions created by man – the airplane, the automobile, the computer – says little about his intelligence, but speaks volumes about his laziness." – Mark Kennedy Life is Different Than it Used to Be We live in an online world...
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: Eliminating Your ‘Roadblocks’
While no two people are the same, we all have one thing in common - the little "roadblocks" that get in our way as we try to figure out what we really want from life. Roadblocks stop some people from ever making a change, but they motivate others to keep on going to...
‘Poor Me Syndrome’ – An Original Poem by Vikki Lee
As you probably know, I write about narcissism, NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) and toxic relationships in general pretty often - but only in an effort to help people to overcome them. I also coach people who have been affected by narcissistic abuse in...
Boundary-Busting Narcissist? Here’s a Non-Toxic Boundary-Management Plan
One of the most difficult aspects of being tangled in a narcissist's web is learning to set firm boundaries with them. Narcissists typically have poor boundaries themselves; they like to win and maintain power, and they don't like others setting boundaries on them....
Identifying Emotionally Unavailable People in Relationships
“Most people in the psychology field believe that if we do not get a child to bond at a deep level with someone by age eight, we have lost them. We can never recover them and teach them empathy. Never.” ~Patti Henry, Author of The Emotionally Unavailable Man...
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Special Holiday Rate for One-Hour Coaching Sessions With Lise Colucci As the holidays approach, we want to make narcissistic abuse recovery support coaching as accessible as possible without breaking your budget. We know firsthand how tough the holidays can be for...
Update: Your Love is My Drug (2nd Edition)
**Second Edition, Updated 2019**Includes new chapters and information as well as an updated, more robust section on overcoming trauma bonding featuring Lise Colucci. Are you tired of feeling like you're not good enough? Do you wish that someone in your life would...
How to Talk to a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach FREE
Get Free Video Coaching for Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse Speak to one of our narcissistic abuse recovery coaches during a live-streaming video coaching session on YouTube. Angie Atkinson and Lise Colucci each offer free online video coaching sessions through the...
How long does it take to recover from narcissistic abuse?
Am I always going to be miserable? Will I ever feel normal again? When will the pain end? When can I expect to start feeling like myself again after the end of a toxic relationship? Will I ever stop missing my ex? Am I ever going to stop crying? How long does it take...
When Self-Help Tips Hurt: Stay Safe in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
"There are as many forms of advice as there are colors of the rainbow. Remember that good advice can come from bad people and bad advice from good people. The important thing about advice is that it is simply that. Advice." ~Al Franken As a survivor of narcissistic...
Are you an empath?
Basic empathy is simply the ability to imagine yourself in another person's place and understand their feelings, desires, ideas, and actions. But being an empath is a little deeper. Here are the top 10 empath traits (watch the video for expansion on each point!): 1....
Why Being Assertive is Important and How to Develop It: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Learning to be assertive is one of the most important life skills you can develop. That's true for anyone - but especially for narcissistic abuse survivors. Studies have shown that being assertive can lead to a whole host of benefits, from increased self-confidence to...
Beware: These People Are Trying to Scam Narcissistic Abuse Survivors
People are Running Predatory Scams on Narcissistic Abuse Survivors - Here's how to avoid being scammed. (Plus Q&A Support Replay) with Dana Morningstar & Angie Atkinson - You might be really vulnerable during your recovery from a toxic relationship. In this...
Motivation Mojo – New Course at Life Makeover Academy
Introducing...Motivation Mojo - Awakening The Limitless Drive Within ‘Motivation Mojo’ is your ultimate guide to take the full advantage of the ‘fire’ that drives you to be insanely successful - your inner motivation. What you are about to discover are the secrets to...
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