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Dating After Divorcing a Narcissist?
If you’ve been through narcissistic abuse and you’re now thinking about entering the dating world again, there are some things you need to think about first. Let’s face it, a divorce can be a traumatic experience especially when you’ve dealt with narcissistic abuse, and jumping into the dating scene can be more than you might be ready to deal with. The only one who will know if you are truly ready to start dating after a divorce is you, but here are some things to consider before you go on that first date.
Is The Narcissist Spying On You? Tips To Know For Sure
After the narcissist discards you, you may have mixed feelings. Maybe you're feeling relieved after struggling with whether or not to leave the narcissist, but they saved you the trouble by discarding you first. Or maybe they've left you, and you're still really,...
Divorcing a Narcissist
Divorce is always difficult and life-altering. When you're divorcing a narcissist, there's a whole other layer of manipulation and controlling behaviors involved. And, as painful as it is, it is less uncommon than you'd hope. According to the Centers for Disease...
What Is Reactive Abuse?
Reactive abuse is when you, as someone who is being abused, lash out toward your abuser in response to the abuse to which you’re being subjected. However, the truth is that it is a manipulation tactic that allows the user to shift the blame on to you. s shift blame from themselves onto the victim. You’ll be told that you’re overreacting or being overly dramatic and you’ll be accused of being the abuser yourself.
How The Narcissist Sees You: Narcissistic Supply Explained
What is Narcissistic Supply? Narcissistic supply means attention, admiration, emotional energy, and other kinds of “services” the narcissist requires in order to function and to maintain their ego. It can involve smile attention, or sex, money, caregiving (and caretaking), and more. The narcissist’s need for your emotional energy can be likened to the mythical vampire’s need for blood. They require it to survive. It nourishes them and keeps them feeling comfortable with their lives. They get their narcissistic supply from people, but in some cases, they might even get it from a pet or group of people.
Financial Abuse in Toxic Relationships Quiz: Find Out If It’s Happening to You
Are you in a relationship with a malignant narcissist who controls your money or who won’t give you access to your family money? Do you feel like you can’t get away because you don’t have the ability to pull together the funds? You might be dealing with financial abuse. Take this free online financial abuse test and find out right now.
Tips For Finding A Safe Place To Live When Leaving An Abusive Relationship
Where to Live When You’re Leaving an Abuser: When you’re planning to leave an abusive relationship, you’ll need a place to live. Here are five places to consider living when you’re planning to leave an abuser and/or a toxic relationship. Financial abuse might mean your options are limited. Here’s how to deal (and where to live) if you’re leaving an abuser but you don’t have any money.
What Are The Pros And Cons Of Joining A Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Group?
So, you just went no contact with a narcissistic ex or narcissistic parent, and you are struggling with the trauma associated with the abuse you endured during the time you were in their presence. Maybe you've found a therapist, or you're getting weekly narcissistic...
Male Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse Should Be Recognized, Not Minimized and Invalidated.
If you are a man who has been dealing with narcissistic abuse in a toxic relationship, you are likely filled with self-doubt and you might not even know where to turn for help. Despite the popular assumption that only women are abused in relationships, the opposite is...
Tips For Leaving An Abusive Relationship Safely
What can you do to prepare yourself to leave a toxic and abusive relationship? It is not as easy as picking up and going. Here are some of the most important things to consider before you leave a narcissist and an abusive relationship, compiled from the experience of thousands of survivors of narcissistic abuse.
Codependency vs. Dependent Personality Disorder
There has been a bit of confusion in the narcissistic abuse recovery community around codependency and dependent personality disorder. A question I received from one of our community members prompted me to clarify the differences and similarities between the two. The...
5 Signs Your Mother is a Narcissist
Were you raised by a narcissistic mother? If you're like a lot of adult children of narcissistic mothers, you may have only recently realized that you were. See, just like you can be married to a narcissist for 20 years and not realize that you're dealing with...
How To Make The Narcissist Respect You (The Only Way)
Narcissists prey on you by leaning into the trauma they’ve created in you. They’ve caused you to lose your self-confidence, thanks to years of ongoing abuse, and this has caused you to give in to their manipulative ways. They prey on you because they think they can, and because, until now, you may have tolerated it. But, guess what? You don’t have to take it anymore. You deserve to be happy, to feel peaceful, and to feel SAFE in your home. The narcissist takes all of that away from you – and my friend, you deserve better.
40 Red-Flag Signs Your Relationship Might Be Toxic
Narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships is both confusing and debilitating for the victim of the narcissist. But what is interesting is that nearly everyone who has experienced it can relate to certain issues that come up. In fact, you might be surprised to learn...
Empath and Codependent Are Not Synonyms
I've got two questions for you. Are all empaths codependent? Are all codependents empaths? I think it's time we clear up some confusion for our community. You often hear people in the narcissistic abuse community talking about empaths and codependents as though the...
Making a New Year’s Resolution That Sticks
"Why do New Years Resolutions fail? Mainly, because they are only a statement, or what we wish for in the coming year. There are usually no action plans, no deadlines, no backup plans. Sometimes they are unrealistic resolutions, with no other thought or plans beside...
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery on Tiktok
I recently joined Tiktok and discovered a lot of interesting things. First, there are plenty of Gen Xers (and above) on the app. I definitely did not fully expect that. And secondly, much to my surprise, there is a beautifully connected community for narcissistic...
Ever Worry You Might Be the Narcissist in Your Relationship?
If you've ever been in a relationship with a malignant narcissist or someone who has narcissistic personality disorder, you might have wondered on more than one occasion whether you are the narcissist in the relationship. Thanks to the gaslighting and manipulation...
63 Things I’d Rather Do Than Hang Out With a Narcissist
So, sort of an amusing discussion happened this morning in my SPAN group. One of my admins said that having gone to the dentist proved to be more enjoyable than actually hanging out with her toxic narcissist. That sparked her idea of a blog post entitled "Things...
Video: DIY 3 Big Needs That The Narcissist Can NEVER Fulfill
When you're looking to get out of a toxic relationship with a narcissist, sometimes it helps to think about what you need that you're not getting. This way, as you make your plans for moving forward, you can visualize your amazing new life properly - and make room for...
Inspiration Station: 56 Quotes to Lift Your Spirits
You have to do what you love to do, not get stuck in that comfort zone of a regular job. Life is not a dress rehearsal. This is it. –Lucinda Basset To exceed beyond your wildest expectations you must begin with wild expectations. –Anonymous High expectations are the...
The Miracle Formula: 7 Easy Steps to a DIY Miracle
"Once all struggle is grasped, miracles are possible." ~ Mao Zedong Would you believe me if I told you that you have the power to change your world? What if I said that you could choose literally every aspect of your life, at least as far as you believe you could?...
Daily Affirmation Meditation: Criticism is Fuel for My Fire
When you've been abused by a narcissist, the recovery can be hard. When you go back into the "real" world with "normal" people, you might find that you struggle when anyone criticizes you - you may instantly feel put-upon, upset or even angry, because you are so used...
Daily Affirmation Meditation: Radiant Spirit to Overcome Insecurities
A radiant spirit shatters insecurities. I take part in activities that keep my spirit alive and make me feel good about myself. I focus on maintaining positive energy. As a result, it is easy for me to let go of my insecurities. I surround myself with those who are...
Tune In: How to Deal When Online Drama Affects Your ‘Real Life’
"All of the biggest technological inventions created by man – the airplane, the automobile, the computer – says little about his intelligence, but speaks volumes about his laziness." – Mark Kennedy Life is Different Than it Used to Be We live in an online world...
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: Eliminating Your ‘Roadblocks’
While no two people are the same, we all have one thing in common - the little "roadblocks" that get in our way as we try to figure out what we really want from life. Roadblocks stop some people from ever making a change, but they motivate others to keep on going to...
‘Poor Me Syndrome’ – An Original Poem by Vikki Lee
As you probably know, I write about narcissism, NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) and toxic relationships in general pretty often - but only in an effort to help people to overcome them. I also coach people who have been affected by narcissistic abuse in...
Boundary-Busting Narcissist? Here’s a Non-Toxic Boundary-Management Plan
One of the most difficult aspects of being tangled in a narcissist's web is learning to set firm boundaries with them. Narcissists typically have poor boundaries themselves; they like to win and maintain power, and they don't like others setting boundaries on them....
Identifying Emotionally Unavailable People in Relationships
“Most people in the psychology field believe that if we do not get a child to bond at a deep level with someone by age eight, we have lost them. We can never recover them and teach them empathy. Never.” ~Patti Henry, Author of The Emotionally Unavailable Man...
Save 35% On Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coaching with Lise Through Jan. 1, 2020
Special Holiday Rate for One-Hour Coaching Sessions With Lise Colucci As the holidays approach, we want to make narcissistic abuse recovery support coaching as accessible as possible without breaking your budget. We know firsthand how tough the holidays can be for...
Update: Your Love is My Drug (2nd Edition)
**Second Edition, Updated 2019**Includes new chapters and information as well as an updated, more robust section on overcoming trauma bonding featuring Lise Colucci. Are you tired of feeling like you're not good enough? Do you wish that someone in your life would...
How to Talk to a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach FREE
Get Free Video Coaching for Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse Speak to one of our narcissistic abuse recovery coaches during a live-streaming video coaching session on YouTube. Angie Atkinson and Lise Colucci each offer free online video coaching sessions through the...
How long does it take to recover from narcissistic abuse?
Am I always going to be miserable? Will I ever feel normal again? When will the pain end? When can I expect to start feeling like myself again after the end of a toxic relationship? Will I ever stop missing my ex? Am I ever going to stop crying? How long does it take...
When Self-Help Tips Hurt: Stay Safe in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
"There are as many forms of advice as there are colors of the rainbow. Remember that good advice can come from bad people and bad advice from good people. The important thing about advice is that it is simply that. Advice." ~Al Franken As a survivor of narcissistic...
Are you an empath?
Basic empathy is simply the ability to imagine yourself in another person's place and understand their feelings, desires, ideas, and actions. But being an empath is a little deeper. Here are the top 10 empath traits (watch the video for expansion on each point!): 1....
Why Being Assertive is Important and How to Develop It: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Learning to be assertive is one of the most important life skills you can develop. That's true for anyone - but especially for narcissistic abuse survivors. Studies have shown that being assertive can lead to a whole host of benefits, from increased self-confidence to...
Beware: These People Are Trying to Scam Narcissistic Abuse Survivors
People are Running Predatory Scams on Narcissistic Abuse Survivors - Here's how to avoid being scammed. (Plus Q&A Support Replay) with Dana Morningstar & Angie Atkinson - You might be really vulnerable during your recovery from a toxic relationship. In this...
Motivation Mojo – New Course at Life Makeover Academy
Introducing...Motivation Mojo - Awakening The Limitless Drive Within ‘Motivation Mojo’ is your ultimate guide to take the full advantage of the ‘fire’ that drives you to be insanely successful - your inner motivation. What you are about to discover are the secrets to...
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