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Why are narcissists and codependents attracted to one another? Here’s the TRUTH from Ross Rosenberg
Angie Atkinson interviews Ross Rosenberg, author of The Human Magnet Syndrome, who explains the truth about why narcissists and codependents are so attracted to each other and why, if you don’t take the time to heal before getting into another relationship, you’ll end up with another narcissist.
Narcissistic Mother Syndrome
While most therapists, coaches, and creators in the narcissistic abuse recovery community mean well, they don't always do their research before creating content. That's why there are so many "pseudo-diagnoses" running through the community. One such pseudo-diagnosis...
Signs the Narcissist is About to Discard You
Are you worried that the narcissist in your life is about to discard you? What are the signs that a narcissist is about to dump you? How do you know you're about to be discarded by a narcissist? While there is still a lot that you can learn about narcissists, certain...
8 Questions a Narcissist Absolutely Cannot Answer – Plus, What They’d Say If They Could
What are the questions that a narcissist can’t answer? What does the narcissist have to avoid answering? What are the questions that will force the narcissist to admit that there is a problem? How do you deal with narcissists in relationships? When a narcissist is confronted with questions that are too hard to answer, they don’t take it well. Nothing is more threatening to the narcissist than honest vulnerability. The narcissist will therefore shut down or attempt to trivialize the question by coming
How to Safely Leave the Narcissist: A Checklist of Things to Do
How to Leave a Narcissist – Everything You Need to Know. Narcissists tend to be self-centered and demanding, which makes it difficult to leave them. But there are steps you can take to prepare yourself. Print out and customize your detailed safety plan to leave the narcissist…assess the financial, legal, safety, and emotional ramifications of leaving a narcissist..how to get away from a narcissist and the things you need to do before leaving’, including tips, tricks, and a printable safety plan and workbook.
How Narcissists Destroy You and How You Can Put Yourself Back Together
Why do narcissists destroy you? How can you put yourself back together again? Start here. Narcissists and psychopaths can wreak havoc on your life, derailing everything you know and love. But it’s not too late to rebuild — and start living the life you desire.
The Narcissist’s Idealize, Devalue and Discard Cycle
The narcissistic cycle of abuse is a pervasive pattern of controlling and abusive behaviors by one partner in an intimate relationship wholly characterized by gaslighting, stonewalling, triangulation and love-bombing.
The Narcissist’s Final Discard: How do you know it’s REALLY over?
Have you been discarded by a narcissist? Whether you’ve experienced a one-time final discard, or are dealing with a Narcissist who cuts you off and then tries to reel you back in after realizing they miss the supply that you provided, there are several telltale signs – and one way you can ensure that they stay away forever. Here’s everything you need to know about the narcissist’s final discard and what to do about it.
Why Would a Narcissist Give Me The Silent Treatment?
The cold shoulder. Ostracization. Social exclusion. Being actively, directly rudely ignored! It's exhausting, It's upsetting. And quite honestly, it's abusive. So, let me ask you something. Have you been there? Does someone in your life cut off contact, directly or...
Why Do Narcissists Make You Feel Like You’re Not Enough?
If you've ever been in a toxic relationship with a narcissist, you might already know how adept they can be at making you feel completely worthless. If that rings true for you, you're definitely not alone. In fact, one of the most underrated ways a narcissist can...
What is internalized gaslighting?
(See video on YouTube) A longtime member of my narcissistic abuse recovery community used to tell me that he was really good at gaslighting himself. It amused me at first, but when I really started to think about it, I realized that he wasn't off-base in his...
Why does a narcissist move on so quickly after the discard?
Have you been discarded by a narcissist, only to learn that they've already moved on to another partner days, weeks, or even hours after your relationship ended? Or, have you learned the hard way that your ex (or soon-to-be-ex) is already involved with someone else...
Narcissistic Mothers and The Golden Child
The Golden Child of a Narcissist is Often a Victim Too! When we think of the golden child, we often think of the one in the family that never got the abuse from a narcissistic parent. As a person used as the scapegoat, it may be difficult to see the effects abuse had...
5 Traits Of A Covert Narcissist That You Must Know About
Are you in a relationship with someone who seems to be the shy and quiet type who does not brag about themselves, but who also treats you differently behind closed doors? Do they, at times, seem to hate themselves? Does this person appear to be an introvert, and...
Is Your Relationship Toxic? 40 Warning Signs To Look Out For
How can you tell you are in a toxic relationship? People very often ask how they can be sure a person they are in a relationship with is a narcissist. The struggle to not only understand but to accept what they see and feel can cause so much confusion to survivors of...
The Female Narcissist And A Few Ways They Manipulate
Do you know a female narcissist? Like every narcissist, the female narcissist often has many sneaky ways of manipulating. For example, a female narcissist will often use the fact that she is female - not only to excuse the abuse but also to justify it. She may even...
Setting Boundaries Makes Narcissists Take Responsibility for Their Behavior
One of the most commonly shared qualities among victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse is the inability to comfortably set boundaries with other people. This is a primary reason that a narcissist may have targeted you in the first place. Plus, since a large...
She Had an Affair With a Married Narcissist
My narcissist was a married lover. We met when he was my boss working with him for two years before he moved away. With this narcissist, everything we did, whether it be physical or when we were just fantasizing via email, was totally pedophile-ish and totally disgusting but I will say this: Looking back 16 years later, I now see the signs and wish I could’ve told myself, “Stop! Don’t do it! He’s an a-hole!” And everyone I worked with warned me that my boss wasn’t a good guy. I was young, dumb and so in love with that man.
Boundary-Busting Narcissist? Here’s a Non-Toxic Boundary-Management Plan
One of the most difficult aspects of being tangled in a narcissist's web is learning to set firm boundaries with them. Narcissists typically have poor boundaries themselves; they like to win and maintain power, and they don't like others setting boundaries on them....
Lose More Weight: 199 Quotes to Help You Stay Motivated
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” ~ Wayne W. Dyer No matter how much you weigh, how much money you make, what your relationship status is or whether you get that big promotion, you cannot ever truly be happy unless you choose to do...
Don’t let this happen to your marriage: Communication is KEY
When you get married, you vow that it is for better for worse, sickness or health. To death do you part. But what happened to communication? Shouldn't that should be part of the vows? Most marriages end because of lost of communication between the couple. Married or...
14 Ways to Write and Use Your Personal Mission Statement
"My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style." ~Maya Angelou Do you have your own personal mission statement? How about a professional one? What IS your mission, exactly?...
7-Day Pre-Holiday Life Reboot: Fortify your body, mind and soul for the holiday season
"You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we call 'failure' is not the falling down, but the staying down." ~Mary Pickford You know how sometimes your smartphone or laptop gets all laggy and draggy? And then it takes like 17 times as long...
Try Visualization Meditation for Clear, Focused Intention Throughout Your Day
"The only way to really utilize your human experience is to practice some kind of meditation or visualization. It does work. People really need it. It's the only way to get through the difficult times. This kind of practice puts one in the "Kuan Yin spirit". You're...
Your gift: 69 ways to instantly create the life you want
If you know me, you know that I'm all about paying it forward. That's why I'm always giving stuff away. This week, I'm offering something special: a free copy of one of my books (one that's usually not free). It's called Create the Life You Want: 69 Instant...
10 Things You Need to Stop Doing If You Ever Want to Be Happy (#3 is a bigger deal than you think!)
“We all live with the objective of being happy; our lives are all different and yet the same.”– Anne Frank You know how sometimes you KNOW that a certain choice is going to cause you a negative consequence, but you make it anyway? Maybe you go ahead and have that...
Don’t Read This Post (Unless You’re Interested in Blogging)
So, this post is a bit off-topic for QueenBeeing, but I felt like it was appropriate because it's all about one way to follow your passion. See, I'm a professional blogger as well as a life coach, author and journalist, and I've been making my living through my...
Real-Life Plug-In: 10 Easy Ways to Simplify Your Day, Everyday
"As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler; solitude will not be solitude, poverty will not be poverty, nor weakness weakness." ~Henry David Thoreau Do you feel like life is too hectic to enjoy it sometimes, or is it just me? My guess is...
If you’re tired of hearing about narcissists, this is for you.
In this video, I'm introducing the brand new Shine Buzz Daily Show on YouTube. Tired of Binge-Watching Narcissist Videos? Watch this. Life hasn’t always been a bed of roses for you as a narcissistic abuse survivor. But you've learned your lessons, and you’ve done a...
Identifying Emotionally Unavailable People in Relationships
“Most people in the psychology field believe that if we do not get a child to bond at a deep level with someone by age eight, we have lost them. We can never recover them and teach them empathy. Never.” ~Patti Henry, Author of The Emotionally Unavailable Man...
Save 35% On Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coaching with Lise Through Jan. 1, 2020
Special Holiday Rate for One-Hour Coaching Sessions With Lise Colucci As the holidays approach, we want to make narcissistic abuse recovery support coaching as accessible as possible without breaking your budget. We know firsthand how tough the holidays can be for...
Update: Your Love is My Drug (2nd Edition)
**Second Edition, Updated 2019**Includes new chapters and information as well as an updated, more robust section on overcoming trauma bonding featuring Lise Colucci. Are you tired of feeling like you're not good enough? Do you wish that someone in your life would...
How to Talk to a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach FREE
Get Free Video Coaching for Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse Speak to one of our narcissistic abuse recovery coaches during a live-streaming video coaching session on YouTube. Angie Atkinson and Lise Colucci each offer free online video coaching sessions through the...
How long does it take to recover from narcissistic abuse?
Am I always going to be miserable? Will I ever feel normal again? When will the pain end? When can I expect to start feeling like myself again after the end of a toxic relationship? Will I ever stop missing my ex? Am I ever going to stop crying? How long does it take...
When Self-Help Tips Hurt: Stay Safe in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
"There are as many forms of advice as there are colors of the rainbow. Remember that good advice can come from bad people and bad advice from good people. The important thing about advice is that it is simply that. Advice." ~Al Franken As a survivor of narcissistic...
Are you an empath?
Basic empathy is simply the ability to imagine yourself in another person's place and understand their feelings, desires, ideas, and actions. But being an empath is a little deeper. Here are the top 10 empath traits (watch the video for expansion on each point!): 1....
Why Being Assertive is Important and How to Develop It: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Learning to be assertive is one of the most important life skills you can develop. That's true for anyone - but especially for narcissistic abuse survivors. Studies have shown that being assertive can lead to a whole host of benefits, from increased self-confidence to...
Beware: These People Are Trying to Scam Narcissistic Abuse Survivors
People are Running Predatory Scams on Narcissistic Abuse Survivors - Here's how to avoid being scammed. (Plus Q&A Support Replay) with Dana Morningstar & Angie Atkinson - You might be really vulnerable during your recovery from a toxic relationship. In this...
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