“Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen.” ~Michael Jordan
I’m a huge proponent of education, and I am, like everyone else always concerned about improving the current educational system.
And despite the fact that there are plenty of things to love about it, there are also certain limits to any traditional schooling setting.
So yeah, our educational system is focused on math, science, reading, and writing. While these subjects are important, being great at geometry doesn’t necessarily lead to a happy and successful life.
Although there are many life lessons that aren’t learned in school, we all still have the responsibility of learning them.
Keep these important truths in mind. They can transform your life.
9 Life Lessons You Didn’t Learn in School
Forgiveness is something you do for yourself. Holding a grudge and being unable to let go of anger can ruin your own happiness, rather than causing grief to others. By not forgiving those you feel have wronged you, you’re only prolonging your own misery.
Many health issues can be avoided with proper diet, exercise, and rest. The medical community is becoming more and more certain that many diseases are caused by poor diet.
Simply dropping a few of the unhealthy foods you eat on a regular basis can significantly impact your health and sense of well-being in many positive ways.
Getting enough exercise and sleep is a good prescription for anyone. It’s easier to stay healthy than it is to regain lost health.
Perseverance is the most critical component of success. There are few feats in life that can’t be accomplished, as long as you try. When things don’t work out as hoped, change your approach and keep on going. How could you possibly fail if you refuse to quit?
Your happiness is your responsibility. Although you may wish that everyone made your happiness a top priority, most people have other things on their minds. Besides, you’re the only one who truly knows what’s required for your own happiness and fulfillment.
Figure out all that makes you happy and create a life that supports those things.
Say what needs to be said while there’s still time. If anyone in your life has passed away, you’ve probably regretted not telling them certain things.
Whether it’s telling them how you feel about them or sharing the fact that you stole their baseball card in third grade, you only have a limited amount of time. Make the most of it!
Failure is part of the process. You can learn a lot from a book or from watching others, but the most significant learning comes from “failing” at something. Provided you learn from each failure and apply that knowledge, you’re really just perfecting your route to success.
Live life like it’s hard, and your life will become easier. Having an easy life is about doing all the annoying things that many people aren’t willing to do. It’s about taking the time to find a rewarding job and paying your bills on time. It’s about following good eating habits and going to the dentist twice a year. These “difficult” things actually result in an easier life.
Obsessing about the future or past creates anxiety and frustration. Looking to the past to gain wisdom is great. Focusing on and regretting things that happened five years ago is a sure way to make yourself unhappy.
Worrying about your future won’t make it different. Look ahead to see potential roadblocks and start working on solutions.
You don’t know what you don’t know. We all hold beliefs that are untrue. Unfortunately, we’re unaware of which beliefs are false. If you face any challenges in your life, you probably believe some things that just aren’t true.
Figure out what’s true and false in your belief system. Having a more accurate roadmap to life results in a smoother trip.
Being successful in school doesn’t guarantee success later in life. They are two different environments, with two different sets of rules. Examine your life and consider the life lessons presented. Think about how applying these rules could lead to success and happiness.
Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.