“There’s a difference between beauty and charm. A beautiful woman is one I notice. A charming woman is one who notices me.” ~John Erskine
Ladies, I’ve got good news and I’ve got bad news. The good news? I was right all along. The bad news? Well…that I was right all along.
I’d like to say that it’s big. shocking news – but I think it’s safe to say that not a single one of us is surprised.
This news isn’t just something I’ve discovered or dreamed up myself (though, to be fair, I’ve been painfully aware of it for the majority of my life, whether consciously or not).
See, after I lost 100 pounds and sort of “took back my life,” I found myself being treated a lot differently by literally everyone in my life, but most especially by men.
After conducting my own research and based on my own experiences, I’ve become so convinced of the reason that I’ve actually written several books on the subject.
So yeah, I’ve known it for awhile, and I suspect you would have too, if you ever took a minute to notice it. But this time, it’s backed by science and to me, that kind of thing deserves our notice – and if we’re smart, we can use it to our advantage.
So what’s the big discovery?
Men are more likely to be nice to attractive women. This goes for everyone from strangers to their spouses.
I know, you’re shocked. I’d be surprised if you hadn’t just fallen out of your chair. (Yeah, that’s a touch of sarcasm – hard to detect tone in text sometimes!).
The Science of Attraction
The study, entitled “The undermining effect of facial attractiveness on brain responses to fairness in the Ultimatum Game,” had some rather interesting (if not surprising) findings.
Published in the Frontiers in Neuroscience journal, it found that men are far more likely to accept “unfair offers” from women they consider to be attractive.
So what does that mean, exactly?
Politically correct or not, it means one thing specifically: that men definitely do treat hot women better.
According to the study’s authors, “the male subjects played responders who decided whether to accept offers from female proposers, whose facial images (grouped as ‘attractive’ and ‘unattractive’) were presented prior to the offer presentation.”
“The behavioral data demonstrated that the acceptance ratio increased with the fairness level of the offers and, more importantly, the subjects were more likely to accept unfair offers when presented with the attractive-face condition compared with the unattractive-face condition,” researchers added.
While they found that it took longer on average for the men to respond to the women they considered attractive, one rsearcher remarked that it was likely due to the fact that they spent more time enjoying the more attractive faces. In the end, they determined the simple fact that men are more likely to do nice things and accept less fair compensation from beautiful women than from those they found unattractive.
In summary, the authors offfered the following.
“…the “beauty premium” influenced responder fairness during the Ultimate Game . Unfair offers from attractive female allocators were more acceptable to the male subjects, and the males presented with fluctuating reaction times to the five offers in comparison with a stable reaction pattern in the unattractive-face condition. The event-related potentials data supported the behavioral findings. ”
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So what do you think about all of this? Does it make you angry, or do you get it? Have you personally experienced a difference? Let’s discuss it – leave me a comment below to share your thoughts!
Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.