Bliss Mission: Shoulders Back, Show the Rack

Written by Angela Atkinson

I used to watch a show on Lifetime called Drop Dead Diva. While not everyone I know thinks the show is great and while the storyline admittedly became a bit predictable after awhile, I couldn’t help but watch it.

In case you don’t know, the premise of the show is that a hot, young, blond model and a brilliant, equally hot (although slightly older and plus sized) attorney (pictured right) die on the same day.

The model goes to heaven and presses the “return” button on the heavenly processing agent’s computer–sending her back to Earth, just as the attorney’s body is revived. In the confusion, the model’s soul enters the attorney’s body, where she is “doomed” to spend the rest of her life.

So, now the model/attorney has all of the model’s memories, but the attorney’s smarts (and cushy life.) Sounds like a sweet deal, except for that pesky size 16 business.

In the first episode, the attorney has a client who has lost her self confidence (as the attorney has since she went from being a 24 year old size 2 to a 32 year old size 16.) Before court, the attorney helps her client get a makeover, but also does a little exercise with her.

She teaches her a special “model walk” and mantra, which she had designed and used to help improve her own self esteem during her model days. It works–for both the attorney and her client.

The mantra?

Shoulders back, show the rack!

Ok here’s where I’m going to stop talking about TV, but let me just say that mantra can really get stuck in a girl’s head. 🙂

Here’s the thing.

It turns out that maybe your mom wasn’t wrong on the whole “stand up straight” thing. Good posture can have seriously positive effects on your health.

Most obviously, poor posture can affect your physical health.

“We are now a society who spends a lot of time sitting in front of (take your pick) a computer, television, desk, video game, etc. Our children are spending even more time sitting down than we did as children. If you don’t think this is leading to a major health problem,” says physical therapist Eveline Erni, “I can assure you otherwise. On a daily basis I see patients in my practice for no other reason than because they have slumped over a desk since kindergarten. The results of slumping can be serious including disc surgery and pain and numbness running down the arms and/or legs.”

And perhaps more surprisingly, good posture can equal better mental health, higher self esteem and better overall outlook. An Ohio State University study completed with 71 students found that students with better posture had more positive thoughts, were more likely to believe in themselves and generally felt better.

Richard Petty, the study’s co-author and OSU psychology professor, says that while most people learn that good posture gives a good impression to other people, the study proves that one’s posture also affects his own self perception.

“People assume their confidence is coming from their own thoughts. They don’t realize their posture is affecting how much they believe in what they’re thinking,” Petty says. “Sitting up straight is something you can train yourself to do, and it has psychological benefits – as long as you generally have positive thoughts.”

Petty went on to say that good posture helped students to have more confidence in their own thoughts whether they were positive or negative.

Bliss Mission: Shoulders Back, Show the Rack

If you can stay focused on positive thoughts, standing up straight can help to reinforce those thoughts–helping you to more effectively manifest the life you desire.

It all sounds so simple, but it really makes such a significant difference.

Not convinced? Try this. Right now, sit up straight in your chair. Put your feet flat on the floor and rest evenly on your “sit bones.” Straighten your back and be sure your chin is level with the floor.

Got it?

Now, give me a big, cheesy grin. Come on, just eek one out. Don’t worry, no one is looking. Hold it for a minute or two.

Did you try it?

I’ll bet you feel just a little more positive.

My challenge to you today is to watch your posture. Make a point of intentionally standing and sitting up straight all day. And while you’re at it, smile a little.

Then, watch your mood and perspective take a turn for the brighter. 🙂 What do you think?

Author

  • Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own. Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves. Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse here at QueenBeeing.com and at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.

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