Are you a fat head? Everyone has certain beliefs and habits that dictate their behavior. Unfortunately, many of these beliefs can keep us from the very things we desire the most. This seems to be especially true when it comes to diet and exercise. Beliefs that prevent us from even getting started are common as well.
It’s especially unfortunate in light of how easy it actually is to make simple changes that can have profound effects.
So how do you change your mind so that you can change your life (and your physical body)?
First up, you’ve got to stop giving yourself permission to make excuses and change the way you’re thinking.
Excuse Busters for Common Fat Head Thoughts
1. “I must have everything before I get started.” You know the routine; you think you have to get new tennis shoes, join a gym, buy new workout clothes, find the perfect diet, and more. Realize that you don’t need anything fancy to get started. You know what food is healthy and what isn’t. Go for a walk.
* Get started today with what you already know. You can improve your diet and exercise routine each week. Nothing happens without action, so start taking action today.
2. “I’m too out of shape to exercise.” Lots of heavier people believe this one. The truth is that exercise is relative. For some people, exercising means running 10 miles. For others, it might mean walking to the mailbox and back. The key is to stress your body slightly and then let it recover. The amount of work it takes to achieve that is secondary.
3. “I don’t have time to cook.” There are plenty of things that are healthy to cook that take almost zero attention. Throw some beans in a pot and let them boil for a couple of hours while you’re busy with something else. The total time actually spent doing anything is less than a minute. Do this ahead of time and then just reheat for mealtime.
4. “I’m so out of shape that I’ll never be able get back in shape.” It’s true that the more out of shape you are, the longer it’s going to take. But you can improve each week. It doesn’t take much to lose one pound each week, but that’s 50 pounds in a year. It’s important to just focus on this week. If you focus two years out, it’s tough to persevere.
5. “I don’t know how to get started.” If you’re in poor physical shape, nearly anything is good enough. Clean up your diet a little bit. Move around a little bit more than you have been. Once you make an improvement in your habits, your body will respond. Then you need to change a little more. It’s not necessary to have a complicated routine.
* Try this: Replace one ‘bad’ food that you eat regularly with something that you know is healthy. Also add going for a walk to your daily routine. Go as slowly as you need to. If you can only walk 5 minutes, that’s fine. Next week you’ll be able to walk 10. Each week improve your diet and increase your activity by just a little bit.
6. “It’s too complicated.” This belief comes from the nutrition and fitness industry. If they kept everything simple, what would they have to sell and talk about? Diet and exercise are both actually very simple unless you’re trying to make the Olympic team. Don’t be fooled into thinking that you’re knowledge is insufficient.
Examine your own beliefs. What is stopping your from taking better care of yourself? Is your belief reasonable, or is it just an excuse to maintain your current behavior? If you can change your beliefs, you can change your behavior and enjoy better results.
One step at a time. I am a huge proponent of babysteps when it comes to losing weight. Start small and work your way into bigger changes. Today, drop the negativity and the limiting beliefs and start believing that you’re amazing and capable of doing, being and having whatever you want. It makes a big difference, I promise.
Are you a fat head? What beliefs are holding you back from achieving your ideal body?
Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.