When the Narcissist Moves On: The Truth About Their New Relationship

Written by Angela Atkinson

Is your ex flaunting a new relationship on social media? Are you feeling jealous of the narcissist’s new supply? If you’re like most survivors of narcissistic abuse who have been discarded by a narcissist, you’ve probably got a lot of questions about a narcissist and their new source of narcissistic supply. You want to know:

  • Is the new supply better than you?
  • Should you warn the new supply about the narcissist?
  • Was the new supply a downgrade?
  • Will the narcissist treat the new supply better?
  • Will the narcissist be nicer to their new partner?
  • Did the narcissist marry the new supply too fast?
  • Why did the narcissist move on so quickly?
  • Does the narcissist love the new supply?

Narcissist’s New Supply? The Truth About Their Relationship.

Narcissists can be charming, charismatic, and very persuasive when they’re dating someone new. Their new target often falls prey to the narcissist’s false promises. As survivors of narcissists in toxic relationships, we’ve probably had these same promises made to us in the past. But how does the narcissist’s new supply figure into all of this? I’ve got all the answers you want and need, right here. Let’s talk about it!

All of your questions and more will be answered in this video.

Below is additional information about the narcissist’s new supply.

What is Narcissistic Supply?

To the narcissist, people are nothing but objects to be used and discarded. Narcissistic supply refers to what you can DO for the narcissist. Specifically, narcissists crave attention, admiration, emotional energy, and other kinds of “services” in order to function and to maintain their ego. Narcissistic supply can also involve flirting, caregiving, sex, money,  and more.

Where does a narcissist get supply?

Narcissists get their narcissistic supply from people, but in some cases, they might even get it from a pet or group of people. The narcissist’s need for your emotional energy can be likened to the mythical vampire’s need for blood. They require it to survive. It nourishes them and keeps them feeling comfortable with their lives.

Why do we call a person “a narcissistic supply?”

In the narcissistic abuse recovery community, we often refer to the victim of the abusive narcissist as “the narcissistic supply.” What we really mean is the “source of narcissistic supply,” and this is sometimes misunderstood.

Isn’t it insulting to call someone a “supply?”

Some people might think that when, as survivors of narcissistic abuse, we call ourselves “supply” we are minimizing ourselves. But what we are actually doing is acknowledging that the abusers in our lives only saw us for what we could provide to them – not for what and who we actually are. In other words, we are reminding ourselves that, as a “narcissistic supply,” we are used by the narcissist to get attention, validation, admiration – all the “supply” they need to feed their ego.

Did the narcissist’s new source of supply break up my relationship?

Of course, there is a chance that the new supply actively and aggressively pursued the narcissist in order to “steal” them from you. But truth is that this is highly unlikely. In fact, narcissists often try to lure new people into various types of relationships with them, only to discard them when they’ve gotten what they need. The narcissist will take advantage of this person by using him or her to get what he or she wants; then, without any warning or explanation, he or she will discard this new friend and move on. And as the narcissist’s cycle of abuse goes on, the next person becomes the new source of narcissistic supply.

Will the new supply be around forever? 

It’s highly unlikely. But a narcissist’s relationship with his new supply might be short-lived, or it may last a while. You have to remember that the narcissist views other people as tools to be used for his or her own gratification. So if at any point someone in their lives, including this new person, no longer serves this purpose, the narcissist discards them, just like you would throw away a piece of scrap paper.

Is the new supply like me?

There’s a small chance that this person will be your polar opposite, but that’s only going to be true about their appearance and external personality, if at all. This might be difficult for you, but this person is actually more likely to be similar to you in many ways – and if they stick around long, they will also be someone who does admire the narcissist for who he or she is, someone who will listen attentively to the narcissist’s every word, someone who will go out of their way to make sure that the narcissist’s needs are met.

There’s so much more to learn about the narcissist and their new relationship, as well as the narcissist’s supply. Here are some reading and video resources for you.

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Author

  • Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own. Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves. Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse here at QueenBeeing.com and at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.

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