Quite a few of us have seen “Secretary” with James Spader and Maggie Gyllenhaal. Some might have gone so far as to read Marquis de Sade. Store bookshelves are overflowing with “50 Shades”-inspired romance novels. But where are all the stories of dominant women and submissive men?
Female top/male sub relationships are often overlooked in our patriarchal culture and they have yet to get their own Hollywood blockbuster – yet they exist.
There are FemDom clubs in every major city, dungeons hidden beneath the white picket fences, female-led BDSM support groups and rope classes for women wishing to learn how to tie their significant others, and much, much more.
This book is a first-ever glimpse into that world. It’s a collection of FetLife blogs written by Gabriel Spiegel (codename WebWanderer), a Russian immigrant who loves making worthy women happy through his submission and whose quest to find The One has taken him across the United States. Read about his triumphs and hilarious misadventures; thoughts on the nature of kink and being a single guy in the BDSM scene; his reflections and dreams; his kinky haiku and, yes, even an occasional sonnet.
“Submissive’s missives” is highly recommended to everyone curious about BDSM in general and dominant women/submissive men in particular.
(No strings attached, of course. All you need to do is visit the link, click and download the book. It’s free and you’ll own it forever. Consider it my gift to you! But as always, reviews and shares are appreciated.)
Do you feel like your life is out of your control?
Do you feel the need for personal change but you don’t know where to start?
Ever feel like you’re meant to do great things, but you can’t seem to figure out what you’re great at doing?
Believe it or don’t, your everyday habits can help make or break your life. That’s right – whether we recognize it or not, our habits and behavior are a result of some form of conditioning.
It begins when we’re children–our parents’ opinions of us begin to help us form our own perceptions of ourselves.
If they tell us we’re beautiful, we believe that we are–but if they tell us we’re horrible and sick, we’ll believe that too.
And it doesn’t end there–add in the opinions of your teachers, siblings and friends…and later those of your spouse, your bosses and coworkers, neighbors and don’t forget that lady at the dry cleaner’s last week.
All of this “conditioning,” left unchecked, can sometimes add up to a very negative self image–especially if you don’t know that you don’t have to accept it.
And, we become what we perceive–we are what we believe we are.
Here’s the thing, friend.
You don’t have to accept someone else’s judgment, perception or opinion of you. You get to write your own story.
You can be whomever and whatever you choose. All you have to do is believe that you can–really believe it. I mean, feel it down to your bones. And then, believe that you’re receiving it, that you’ve already received it. Own it–because it’s yours if you want it.
This book will teach you exactly how to do that. Inside, you’ll discover
Why 100 days is an ideal amount of time to completely change your life
How life is really more of a journey than a destination
How to get over feeling “stuck” in life
How to choose your experiences, instead of “letting it happen” to you
How to live in the moment
How being thankful can make you richer, happier and more fulfilled
How to make everyone love you
How to alter your perception and change your life forever
How to set goals that really happen
What you need to do to make all of your dreams come true
Do you believe that you deserve to be truly fulfilled and ecstatic about your life? The truth is that finding happiness is the right of every human being alive, and you’re no exception.
What would you say if I told you that you could find your personal bliss, starting right now, without a doubt?
If I guaranteed you that if you tried these methods, you could find true happiness within 24 hours?
Or how about if I told you that you could do it instantly?
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How would you like to learn how to make little tiny, daily choices that will transform your life?
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This comprehensive, step-by-step guide is also a toolkit that will teach you how to:
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Set goals and stick with them – without killing yourself in the process!
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Get Started: 14 Steps to Make Personal Mission Statements Work for You
Happy, Healthy You: 7 Ways to Make Sure Your Mental Health is On Track
What It Takes to Be Happy: 3 Theories
6 Places Negative Energy Hides (and How to Release It)
6 Steps to Finding Your Purpose in Life
How to CREATE YOUR OWN LAUNDRY LIST
5 Ways to GET CONTROL OF YOUR THOUGHTS
Staying on Track: 5 Excuses That Derail Success
8 New STRATEGIES for a Totally Satisfying Life
You Are Who You Chill With: 7 TIps to Help You Control Who You Spend Time With
You Are What You Eat: Top 12 Mood- Boosting, Budget Friendly Foods
Good Morning Beautiful: The 8-Step, 20-Minute Routine to Jump-Start Your Happiness Every Day
Skip the Struggle: 8 Steps to Happy, Hassle-Free Days
When All Else Fails: 7 Keys to Overcoming Adversity
PLUS: SPECIAL BONUS SECTION: 10 Questions That Will Change Your Life
Hey there, you got a minute? Let me ask you a few quick questions. You don’t have to share the answers with me. Mostly, I want you to answer these questions for yourself. Ready? Take a deep breath, this is serious stuff, friend.
Do you feel like you’re not good enough?
Always feel like someone else’s needs are more important than your own?
Does it sometimes feel like you’re not really a “REAL” person?
Does someone in your life make you feel crazy?
Do you sometimes doubt your own abilities?
How about your own sanity – do you question it?
Ever (sort of) joke that you’re “dead inside” and that nothing bothers you?
Narcissistic Abuse in Toxic Relationships Devastates You
Just like the psychological and emotional injuries that are a result of being in a toxic relationship with a narcissist, you can’t tell that a person is stuck in a narcissistic relationship unless you happen to be a personal witness to the behavior of the narcissist. You can’t always see the scars of a victim of narcissism.
Narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder can wreak havoc on the lives of anyone involved with the people affected by these psychological conditions.
Whether you’re a family member, friend, or romantic partner, becoming a “narcissistic extension” leads to your becoming the primary source of narcissistic supply.
I’ve got something to share with you. As someone who has survived and thrived despite experiences I wrote a book that offers insight and real, actionable steps for overcoming toxic love and narcissism in your relationship, and today through April 30, 2015, I’m offering it for free on Amazon.com’s Kindle store. Here’s what you need to know.
This book offers an in-depth guide to surviving and thriving during and after living with a narcissist, in whatever degree necessary for your life. You’ll learn to recognize narcissism in those around you, plus how to identify and stop typical manipulation techniques, such as gaslighting, in their tracks.
Find out how to start focusing on what you want and need first, and learn how to stop feeling like you’re not good enough. You’ll find out how to choose your new reality and sharpen your skills for coping with anxiety and stress.
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