“I love romance. I’m a sucker for it. I love it so much. It’s pathetic.” ~Drew Barrymore
Love it or hate it, romance almost always helps to keep the spark in a relationship!
You’ll likely agree, but maybe you feel like you lack an understanding of romance altogether. Have you tried your hand at romance, but still haven’t quite mastered it?
Romance is a topic that many people in a relationship feel uncertain about. So you’re definitely not alone with your insecurities.
It’s actually pretty easy to develop and refine your romantic streak. Romance takes nothing more than a little creativity and a genuine interest in treating your significant other in a special way.
Try these tips to spark your romance:
1.Consider what makes you feel loved. Take a moment to think about what made you get those butterflies in the past. What special act caused the romance to bubble over?
Is there a special term of endearment your partner uses when speaking about you? Why not consider taking a similar approach?
Perhaps those “I’m in love with you” hugs that feel different from the others could be reciprocated more often.
Has your partner ever dedicated a song to the day you met and fell in love? That would surely make anyone melt!
2. Understand your partner’s likes. Being romantic can be as simple as doing things your partner likes. Create a bucket list of those things to make it easier to think of romantic gestures.
Does your partner love to dine at a specific restaurant? Why not set a dinner date and have the restaurant bring out a love token on cue?
Everybody loves massages! Offer a massage when your partner least expects it.
Is there a favorite dessert your special person loves? Instead of buying it at the bakery, try making it yourself. There are likely plenty of recipes for that dish on the internet.
3. Be yourself. It’s possible you haven’t exactly mastered romance because you aren’t being yourself. It’s pretty difficult to “play a role” that you’re obviously uncomfortable playing.
You’ve probably read that dressing in alluring lingerie is a surefire way to spark romance. But if you feel uncomfortable parading around in lingerie, you don’t need to. It will be blatantly clear to your partner that you’re not feeling it. And that’s the fastest way to kill romance!
It’s absolutely important to show that your gestures are genuine. Always choose things that you’re genuinely happy doing. One of the most significant victories comes when your partner realizes you’ve done it from the heart.
Sometimes all it takes is a little quality time. Show your partner that you’ve specially reserved time for just the two of you.
4. Create lasting memories. Make plans for an outing that you can reminisce on together years down the road. Being able to recall your romantic gestures helps to keep the spark alive!
Find ways to relive special moments.
If you’ve arranged a special occasion, why not get it videotaped? You and your loved one can watch it over and over.
Make a special event an annual occurrence. If it’s something that allowed the romance to spark, it’s a great idea to do it every year at the same time.
With these creative yet simple tips, you’re guaranteed to have ongoing romance in your relationship. Just remember that love and genuine desire to make your partner happy are key. Then it’s smooth sailing the rest of the way!
What are your favorite ways to get romantic? Share your thoughts in the comments section, below!
Note from the editor: I’m the first to admit that sometimes, a bargain buy is a better bet than a designer buy. Trendy items that will fade out within a month or two, for example, aren’t a worthy buy for me. But some items are less seasonal and more versatile, especially things like designer throws. Find out why Scialle Shawls owner Jane Cuddehe says designer throws are the way to go, right here.
Reasons Owning Designer Throws are Worth the Investment
But really, is it worth your money to own one or more designer throws? The answer is a big YES, and below are the reasons why:
1. You get to enjoy a throw with timeless style.
If there’s one major difference between mass produced and designer throws, that would be the lasting effect. A typical throw may look old and withered over time, while a designer counterpart may last for years and changing fashion trends without looking off.
This is because designer patterns and styles are made with a touch of strategy. The people behind these covers make it a point to come up with patterns, color layers and other details to make them last for years in the fashion world. With this kind of design, you are able to hold on to one throw and establish a signature style without pulling too much effort.
2. Designer throws last longer-literally.
Another important reason to own such a throw is that you are able to enjoy its durability for many years. Most designer scarves, stoles, and throws are made with high quality materials, so that even if they look and feel delicate, they do not easily tear apart.
Most branded throws are low maintenance; this means you can wash and keep them without using special products and procedures, and still their beauty and durability will linger throughout time.
3. Designer throws help you save money.
If there’s one mistake most fashionistas commit, that would be buying more scarves, throws, and shawls every time the fashion trends change. This only makes them spend more, albeit unnecessarily. You don’t want to commit the same blooper, right?
It would then be a better move to purchase one or a few branded throws in one blow, and from there you get to use them according to your own preferences. Sure, spending for these throws can be expensive, but you are saved from buying more and more throws in the future, as you are already settled with what you already have.
4. You have an ultimate status symbol.
Designer throws are a favorite status symbol of many homeowners, particularly those who are aiming to add a touch of class in their living room. Since throws can be used as covers for sofas and center tables, you can place one as an adornment to your favorite couch.
Having such a throw on your sofa gives the impression that while you may not be after the latest fashion trends, your home (particularly your living room) is able to channel a classy, timeless, and ever stylish look.
When shopping for designer throws, you may want to go with a name that matches your character and style. This way you are able to live up to its designs and not simply follow the brand.
In this case, I wrapped the Wool Challis Chevron- Paisley Panel Black & White Scarf around my waist twice and tied it into a knot to create a sort of wrap around skirt. By placing it under the dress and adding flats and leggings, as well as changing up the jewelry it gives the dress a more boho look.
And here, I just tied the scarf the same way but on top of the dress. I think this changes the look so significantly in a single switch that it’s worth noting.
And for my final trick today, the same scarf and dress with different hair, jewelry and drape adds yet a other almost completely different look.
Now…honestly, I.could probably come up with 150 more looks with accessories alone.
So, next time you think you’ve nothing to wear, think again. Tradition is great.but it rarely invites innovation.
What are your favorite ways to switch up your looks? Share your thoughts and ideas in the comments section, below.
As tattoos become more ingrained in our culture’s identity across the generations, fashionistas around the country are asking themselves: do I REALLY want that tattoo?
Things to Consider
Tattoos are (pretty much) forever–the fact is that having tattoos removed is pretty painful (not to mention expensive) and from what I’ve seen, it doesn’t always work all that well. So whatever ink you get today you will still have in 20, 30, 40 years. If you’re 19 years old and thinking of tattooing your face–take this advice if you take nothing else from this post: DO NOT tattoo yourself ANYWHERE that you can’t easily hide in business attire if needed. You never know where life will take you, and if you “grow up” and find yourself getting screwed out of the best job offer ever, you’ll know exactly who to blame!
(Sorry about going all Mom on you, but come on now! Let’s stop with the neck tattoos and the face tattoos and the arms and the huge giant leg, back and whatever else tattoos. I mean, unless that’s your style, or whatever–just saying, if you want to have the option to change your mind, change your direction in life–whatever–you need to ask yourself if you’re prepared to wear long pants, long sleeves, crazy thick makeup or whatever else you’ll need to cover up the evidence of your crazy misguided younger self! Ok, I digress…moving on.)
Don’t date yourself–skip tattoos that include names of of bands, games, individuals you don’t know in person and people you have or want to have sex with, even if you’re married.
Bands, games, singers, actors, etc. in tattoo form are just a way to be seriously “dated” in the future. Remember how much you loved New Kids on the Block or NSYNC or whichever band turned your crank 10, 20 years ago? Which actor did you love? Were you a Justin Bieber devotee? Anyway, I promise you that it’s highly unlikely that you’ll REALLY always love them.
And when it comes to people you want to have sex with (or have had sex with), maybe that’s just a personal thing. Someone told me once that tattooing a lover’s name on your body is basically a predictor of the end of the relationship. Now, I’m sure it’s just superstition, but I cannot tell you how many people I know who have (or love people who have) someone else’s name tattooed somewhere on their bodies. Nope, not kidding.
Start small, and don’t go overboard. There’s no reason to have your whole back covered in a tattoo that takes 67 hours to finish your first time out. Just get a little tiny heart on your shoulder blade or a star on your lower back, maybe. Or whatever you prefer–just consider starting small because a. you really don’t know how much it’s going to hurt if you’ve never had a tattooo (and even if you have, the pain is more intense in some areas of the body than others) and b. you never know what the future holds, and it would totally suck if you lost out on a potentially life-changing opportunity due to crazy face tattoos. (Obviously, none of the above applies to already-successful rock, pop, hiphop and rap stars–they’re making enough money now that it won’t matter when they’re older and look hilarious.)
Frequently Asked Tattoo Questions, Answered by a Tattoo Artist
While most tattoo shops are clean and up-to-code, there are some cases where getting a tattoo puts you at risk for complications such as infections, communicable diseases and more.
The process needs to be better understood, so we gathered up these frequently asked questions and got advice from a tattoo expert.
1. Can I Get Infectious Diseases From Tattoo Needles?
There has been some concern recently regarding transmittable diseases (particularly Hepatitis-B and AIDS [HIV]) and tattoo shops. Just as in a dentist’s office, as long as the area is strictly sanitized, your chances for infection will be greatly reduced.
2. Can I Get Aids From Tattooing?
When needles are passed from IDU to IDU and reused without sterilization, some of that blood remains in the syringe and is passed on to the next user. If infected blood is passed, the recipient can become infected with HIV, which leads to AIDS.
Tattooing is VERY different from injecting drugs. The needles used in tattooing are not hollow. They do, however, travel back and forth through a hollow tube that acts as an ink reservoir. The tip of the tube is dipped into the ink, which draws a little into the tube.
3. Can My Tattoos Get Infected?
Not as long as you take care of your new tat. Some people have trouble healing tattoos with colors they are allergic to.
4. How Do I Ensure That My Tattoo Stays Clear and Bright?
Once it is healed, there is very little that will screw up a tattoo. Aside from a scar-causing injury, the one exception is prolonged exposure to sunlight. The newer inks are better at resisting fading, but whatever you do, if you spend lots of time in bright sunlight, your tats will fade (over a lifetime, not over a week). So, for best results, just try to keep them out of bright sunlight.
No one wants to become a cave dweller just to keep their tats looking good, so just use some common sense.
Think of your tat as an investment–slather on that sunblock so it doesn’t turn into a dark blob.
Tattoo art has become very popular and people are getting tattoos for lots of reasons. Taking good steps in choosing the right tattoo, getting it applied properly and with the proper care are among the most important things to consider when thinking about getting a tattoo.
One last bit of advice–Make sure you do your research. Read all you can about tattoo art safety and when you’re ready to get your tattoo, you will feel much better about your decision!
So, how about you? Do you have any tattoos? Are you considering getting any? Let me hear about it in the comments section, below!