“You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down.” ~Mary Pickford
“The reason we’re successful, darling? My overall charisma, of course.” ~Freddie Mercury
For some people, like the late, great, crazy-talented-genius Freddie Mercury, being charismatic is a gift.
They’re just born that way. We all know someone that everyone just seems to like – and maybe we wonder how they do that.
What if you aren’t naturally charismatic? Is it possible to become irresistible?
Why do some people just naturally get all the attention while others struggle to even get a supporting role in the movie of their own lives? It’s enough to make you want to scream.
But hey, don’t beat yourself up, if you can relate. You’re not weird or different – you just have your own talents and strengths.
And, I don’t know, the fact that you’re here, reading this article right now? Yeah, that pretty much tells me that one of your strengths is the ability to embrace and create change in your own life, so you’re on the right path. Nice work, friend!
Learn the secrets of irresistible people and use them to your own benefit.
If you’re not naturally one of those people, it might feel easy to just feel a little bit of jealousy or even to indulge in a little haterade. But don’t do that to yourself – there is a much better way to look at this whole thing.
See, the reason you might sometimes feel kind of murder-y toward people who are especially irresistible is that they are obviously getting the attention that you want on some level.
Sure they are – and that’s for a very simple reason. They’re not prettier or smarter or even better in any way, necessarily. It’s all about one simple thing.
Being charismatic can make life easier and more enjoyable.
Yep. It’s that simple. Life is better when you’re a charmer, an irresistible force of wonderful that no one can help but love.
Why is that, anyway?
Think of it this way. Imagine you’re standing outside a door, prepared to walk into a roomful of people. When you enter, you see that the room is filled with everyone you love, and the room bursts into applause as everyone lines up to hug you and catch up.
It feels wonderful when people are happy to see you, right? Of course it does! And, let’s not forget how much easier it is to navigate life when you’ve got plenty of love and support.
Your social life is better and others are more willing to be helpful – and all you have to do is learn to be sort of irresistible, also known as charismatic – you learn become instantly likeable.
Don’t worry if you’re not already there (or even close). I’ve got you covered – here’s where you can start, friend.
9 Habits of Highly Irresistible People
I’ve got some awesome news for you – you don’t have to be born charismatic. It’s actually an easy skill to develop, and one of the best ways I’ve found to create seriously positive changes in my life is to study what successful people (who have already made that change) are doing to get (and stay) where they are.
As a life coach and a ever-studying researcher of human nature, I can tell you that analyzing and emulating the basics of those changes is a super-effective way to create your own sort of blueprint plan to make the changes happen.
Regarding people who are considered “irresistible” or “charming” or even flat-out charismatic by their friends and family members, it turns out they all have a few things in common (in addition to a slightly less stressful life than those less “irresistible” people, obvs.).
So, I figured I’d save you a little time and put this together – here’s my list of the 9 habits of highly charismatic people. What would you add to it? Tell me in the comments section, below, or join us on Facebook to continue the discussion.
“See the things you want as already yours. Think of them as yours, as belonging to you, as already in your possession.”
These characteristics are commonly found in highly charismatic people with the most magnetic personalities:
Be empathetic. The ability to understand another’s feelings and point of view is invaluable. It’s frustrating when others fail to understand what we’re thinking and feeling. Be the person that makes the time and effort to get to the heart of the matter.
Be interesting. Only a weather buff wants to talk about the weather! People like to be fascinated and entertained. Boring others doesn’t result in getting more party invitations. The easiest way to have interesting conversations is to have an interesting life. Are you bored a lot of the time? If so, you’re probably boring others, too. Make your life a grand adventure!
Focus on the positive. Who doesn’t like positive, happy people? Being negative and pessimistic becomes tiresome. The people around you are affected by your words, actions, and moods. Make others feel good and they’ll associate those feelings with you.
Be present. A sure way to make someone feel insignificant is to fail to give them your full attention. Put away your phone and keep your eyes on the other person. Listen to what is being said. Anything else is rude and not appreciated.
Keep your word. If others don’t trust you, it makes it difficult for them to like you. Being honest and reliable creates the kind of trust necessary to build and sustain meaningful relationships. Do what you say you’re going to do.
Unless asked, keep your opinions to yourself. When people share their challenges, they already know what to do 90% of the time. They’re just looking for someone to listen and be sympathetic. Unsolicited advice is rarely welcome and can create feelings of resentment. Give advice only when requested.
Remember names. We all feel a little bit of pride when others remember and use our names. It’s also a little insulting when they don’t, even though names are among the most challenging items to remember. People tend to remember in a visual format. It’s not easy to visualize a name.
- Do whatever is necessary to remember names and then use them in conversation. Those around you will appreciate it.
Make others feel good about themselves. Many people assume that being more charismatic is the result of being more impressive to others. However, it’s actually about making people feel more impressed with themselves.
- If you can make someone feel better about their life and who they are, you’ll have a friend for life.
Build your confidence. Everyone likes to be around someone who’s confident. People that are nervous and uncomfortable tend to make others uncomfortable, too. Strive to find a place between arrogance and self-doubt. Do everything possible to feel good about yourself.
- Live a life that fills you with pride. Wear clothes that make you feel great. Be proud of your accomplishments and what you have to offer the world.
If you desire to be more irresistible, you can develop the qualities that draw others to you. If you’re enjoyable and interesting to be around, you’ve already won half the battle. The other half consists of making others feel good about themselves.
Even the most disagreeable people can learn to be very charismatic.
One of the best ways to make life more enjoyable, to say the very least, is to be well-liked by others. What do you think?
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“Happiness does not come from doing easy work but from the afterglow of satisfaction that comes after the achievement of a difficult task that demanded our best.” ~Theodore Isaac Rubin
Hate your job? Sick & tired of being taken advantage of by ungrateful, demanding bosses or overlooked for promotions and raises?
What if going to work every day felt good – less like an obligation and more like a pleasure?
What if you could get paid to do what you love every day?
What if you could love the job you have now?
You can have all that. You just need to get your Power Moves in order. What are Power Moves, you ask?
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Written by life coach and author Angela Atkinson, this ebook is also a toolkit that contains everything you’ll need to identify the weak spots in your career and personal issues that affect them. Plus, it offers the tools you’ll need to begin to resolve them, one baby step at a time.
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Have you ever wondered why some people seem to have it all? I’ll tell you why. It’s because they believe that they can have it all, and they believe they deserve it.
Ever wondered why you can’t get anything right? Well, here it is folks: it’s because you don’t believe you can.
The great automaker and apparent philosopher Henry Ford said, “If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.”
He was exactly right.
My message to you today is simple. The power you seek to change your life is in your hands. All you have to do is use it.
The really cool part is that it’s so easy–just believe in yourself. Stop doubting yourself, and watch your thoughts. When you notice negative thoughts, just say to yourself, “I’m now canceling this negative thought and replacing it with this more positive affirmation of my true desires.”
In fact, you don’t even need to be that formal about it–but reciting something to that effect in your head is a great way to distract yourself from the negativity you’re dealing with, and then it’s important that you actually follow through and replace the thought with a positive one.
For example, let’s say you are calling a creditor to explain why your payment will be late. Before you call, you might worry and tell yourself that they won’t understand, and that they’ll be rude or nasty to you.
When you make that call, you find that your fears come true. And here’s the interesting part…it came true because you believed it would.
Next time a situation like that presents itself, visualize yourself being clearly understood and empathized with by your creditor. Visualize the situation working out to your best advantage, and really know it. Tell yourself things will work out in your favor, and really believe it.
I’ll bet you have a different outcome this time. Give it a shot. You won’t regret it!
Bottom line: If you can believe it, you can achieve it. It’s a fact.
How do you claim your personal power? Please share your thoughts in the comments section, below.
How does your life measure up to what you have intended it to be? Are you living it the way you have always wanted? If not, here are 20 ways to help you get started on pursuing the live you’ve always dreamed about, right now.
1. Change your perspective. When you focus on what you perceive is negative in your life, you’re effectively choosing to draw more negative things into your life. Instead, choose to see and speak about the good things in your life–the things that make you feel happy, and focus on the positives. You won’t regret it–the more positive things, people and situations you embrace, the more good that comes into your life.
2. Be grateful. Being grateful is a wonderful way of staying in a positive frame of mind. By being grateful, you will see new opportunities and people who want to accompany you on the same route. More of what is good will come your way.
3. Don’t complain. If there’s one sure way to push others away, it is through complaining. EVERYONE is trying to live a better life, and we all know that things are tough at times. If find yourself complaining too often, look at how many people have stopped hanging out with you. Complaining might be the reason.
4. Every day is a new opportunity. Getting caught up in what happened yesterday, or last month, is not going to help you in any way. Accept what has happened, look at it as a lesson on how to do better the next time.
5. Do something. As the eight-time Mr. Olympia Ronnie Coleman says: “There’s nothing to it but to do it.” Get out there and take the first step toward accomplishing what you want in life. If you don’t take that step, then there is no way that it could ever happen.
6. Focus on you. Thinking about what others are thinking about you, getting caught up in what has happened TO you, basically giving power over you to others is dis-empowering. Strive to focus only on the things that you actually have control over, and that is you. What YOU say, do, think, etc.
7. Choose a purpose. Its hard to decide what you want to do in life when you don’t feel like you have a purpose. Going through a discovery process of what you are here for will help drive you forward.
8. Use affirmations. Writing down good quotes on 3×5 cards, post it notes, or other things you can make noticeable will help tremendously. It helps you feel good about yourself, life, and the things you are trying to do.
9. Discover your beliefs. Our feelings are the result of beliefs we hold to be true. If you go through life thinking that you are a bad person then that is exactly what you will focus on in every situation. Its not that its true, its simply your subconscious focus. So when you feel bad ask yourself what the belief is.
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10. Don’t put life on hold. What things in life have you wanted to do that you are “waiting” for things to be just right? Well stop doing this now and just do what you can towards those ends immediately.
11. Make a list of things you want to do. Crossing off things you would like to do from a list makes you feel so good. I have a list that I put things I want to accomplish with my website as well as other life things. They can be anything, small or big, that you write down. I recommend small ones as well in order to help you feel a sense of progress.
12. Keep an open mind. Keep yourself open to the possibilities. Don’t get so set in your own perspective that you shut others out. This is one of the easiest ways to make others dislike you, and not hang out with you. Try to keep the perspective that you don’t know everything, and everyone is entitled to have their own beliefs. You can always agree to disagree with others and still get along great.
13. Have compassion. Like I said earlier, everyone is trying to live a better life, and we are all doing the best we can. No one person knows everything so be kind and compassionate to others. Now this doesn’t mean to let them crap on you, keep them accountable for their actions. Be understanding and forgiving towards others.
14. Spend time with supportive, uplifting people. Do your best to let go of relationships that are toxic to your pursuits. If they do not compliment and believe in you then don’t spend your time with them.
15. Get out and meet new people. Have a genuine desire to get to know those you already know, as well as new people. Learn what their perspective is on life, what drives them, what they love to do, and what goals they have, without any judgment or bias.
16. Review your life. When is the last time you asked where you are in life? How are my goals going? Start doing this on a weekly basis. Sit down and determine how things are and how to make things better. If something you have been doing for the week doesn’t truly excite you then perhaps its time to stop doing it.
17. Take care of yourself. One of the biggest sources of frustration I have found is having a cluttered life. This seems to carry over into a messy room, desk, car, front room, etc. Start now and clean up a single area, even if its just the computer. Get rid of things you haven’t used in a long time, clean up all the extra papers sitting around, you’ll feel better afterward.
18. Read a book. Sometimes the best way to let go of your life is to read a fiction book, fantasy, science fiction, or other genre. Just make sure that it doesn’t become a crutch you start using to avoid facing life’s challenges.
19. Do what you love. There’s no better way to improve your prosperity than to spend time doing things you truly love to do. These are the things that you enjoy the entire process of, not just the end result. If it makes you feel free then its something you probably love doing.
20. Take breaks. Its OK to take time out for yourself. If you are constantly living your life taking care of and meeting the needs of others, how are yours getting met? Well, schedule time at least once a week that is your personal time, one hour at least.
Thanks for stopping by and checking this article out. If you have anything to add, or comment on leave them below. Remember, you ARE worthy to live the life you desire!
About the Author
Joneric Bohman strives to bring thought provoking articles to help change your life. To read more of his work, visit JonericBohman.com.