Why Being Raised By a Narcissist Might Cause You to Marry One

Why Being Raised By a Narcissist Might Cause You to Marry One

Narcissistic Parents and the Damaging Effects on Your Adult Relationships: Toxic Family Legacy

Can being raised by a narcissist cause you to marry a narcissist?

If you’re married to a narcissist or in a long-term relationship with one, you may have also been raised by a toxic parent. This seems to be the case more often than not. Of course, there are other reasons you can end up with a narcissist, such as other types of childhood trauma and low-self esteem. But most of the time, people who were raised by healthy parents and who have reasonable self-esteem will not tolerate the abuse that comes with being involved with a narcissist.

So, let me ask you a few questions.

  • If you were raised by a toxic parent who may have been a narcissist, did you also end up marrying one?
  • And did you ever wonder exactly why you chose to get into a toxic relationship – and why you couldn’t see it in the first place?
  • Do you ever as, yourself why you married the wrong person?

In this video, I’ll explain why narcissistic parents and the damaging effects of being raised by them can lead you to find yourself married to a narcissist, or at least continuing in toxic relationships long after you leave your family of origin.

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5 Ways to Get Out of a Rut

5 Ways to Get Out of a Rut

comic_characters_blonde_clip_art_23525“The path of least resistance and least trouble is a mental rut already made. It requires troublesome work to undertake the alternation of old beliefs.” ~ John Dewey

Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in a rut? The way you approach each day largely determines the kind of life you have.

At some point, you’ve most likely experienced a troublesome event until you decided to adjust how you looked at the situation. Then, once you altered your perspective, you were able to clarify the issues and find a solution.

Changing your perspective can be enlightening. A fresh look at a situation can even open your eyes to see a person differently.

Try these strategies to alter your perception for more positive results in your life:

  • Entertain the improbable. Maybe you don’t think something is possible. But what if your desire could become a possibility by just changing your perspective? For example, maybe you’ve tried dieting over and over again without getting the results that you want. But what if this time, you shift your perspective from dieting to changing your lifestyle. You could then state with confidence, “I am losing weight and getting fit.”
  • Vow to be more accepting. New people and situations are inevitable. Sometimes, the best way to change your perspective is to be open to new ideas brought by your new acquaintances. Why not see what happens if you’re more open-minded and accepting? Tell yourself you’re letting go of your “old” templates for looking at things.
  • Seek a more positive lifestyle. Whenever you want to enhance your life, shift the way you see something to a more positive position. Let’s say your two sisters went out shopping and didn’t invite you to go. You might feel left out, rejected, and even angry about it. But what if you were to view the situation differently, even positively? Perhaps they didn’t really plan to shop. Maybe it happened spontaneously out of a need they both had to go shopping for something right then. Plus, your birthday’s coming up in 2 weeks. Maybe they’re planning a special surprise for you. Recognize that when you focus on having a more positive life, your perspective will change for the better.
  • have u tried that crazy wrap thing yetAvoid any old ways of looking at things. When you make the connection that your perspective is what creates any discontent you feel, you can then choose to view things differently. For example, let’s say you usually think your boss gives you the project with the most work just because he wants to dump on you. What would happen if you were to shift your perspective to the idea that your manager trusts you most to successfully complete the most challenging projects? You’d feel a lot differently about your boss, job, and your own abilities.
  • Give people another chance. Even if someone has upset you, entertain the idea that it wasn’t intentional. Maybe they were having a rough day or made a mistake in judgment. Perhaps a misunderstanding took place between you. One of the best ways to get out of a rut is to change how you respond to those around you. A beautiful strategy to change your perspective is to let go of a grudge. Try it, you’ll love it. After all, grudges and anger hurt you far more than they hurt the other person.

If you want to get out of a rut, try applying these techniques to change your perspective. You’ll discover the power you have over your own life and be thrilled with the results.

 

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