As you journey through our 60-day fitness challenge, I invite you to pause for a moment and do what I call a self-check.
We’re going to get to know ourselves a little better, and we’re going to start identifying the areas we’re going to focus on during this challenge.
This is where our individual paths will begin to form–this is where the work begins. Are you ready?
Today’s Bliss Mission: Know Yourself
Pull out a journal (or open a blog post/Word doc) and jot down your thoughts. Save this as we may refer back to it later during the challenge. We’ll do at least one self-check per week.
This week, we’re going to take emotional stock of our self-perceptions versus how others see us.
During the challenge, we will not only focus on losing weight and getting fit, but we’ll also work on figuring out WHY we are carrying these extra pounds. Then, we’ll make moves toward resolving or better dealing with the issues or concerns that may have contributed to our habits.
Ask yourself these questions.
1. How well do I really know myself right this moment? Who would I say that I am? Who would others say I am?
2. What areas in my life are working for me, right now?
3. What areas do I need to work? What could change in my world that would improve my self and my life?
Try this exercise.
Ask someone in your life who knows you really well to describe you as they would to a stranger. What are you like? What do you do? Are you successful? How does this person see you, etc.? This can be done in person or by email, and if you can, get a few different opinions.
Read or listen to the opinions, taking note of the descriptive words and general sense of character that comes through in the description. At first, try to keep your personal feelings out if it (it will be tough). Just hear/read them and digest them for what they are.
Take a m0ment to reflect on the opinions presented. Do they reflect the person you want to be? Are you satisfied by the perception others have about you, or do you wish you could change it a bit? Does it really matter what people think? How does hearing/reading what others think affect your opinion of yourself?
Today’s Fit Mission: Try Something New (On YouTube)
Your mission today is to find one workout video on YouTube that you can do–and to do it! It can even be a short one–five to fifteen minutes. Super fun! Try it and let me know which one you did.
Don’t want to waste your time looking? I’ve got you covered. Just try this one instead–it’s fun and just 10 minutes long!
About the Video
Fat-Burning Hip Hop Mix: Hip Hop Workout uses high-energy hip-hop dance steps to blast fat and tone the entire body. Bump off the pounds and sculpt lean muscle while enjoying every second of it with pro trainer and choreographer, Billy Blanks Jr. Billy’s fluid and easy to learn dance routines combined with his energetic, positive demeanor just go to show that weight loss can be fun. Whether you are advanced or just starting out, you are sure to have a great experience with this workout! For more great dance workouts, click here: http://bit.ly/yuyL4H
This workout is from Billy Blanks Jr. DVD “Fat-Burning Hip Hop Mix”.
How likely are you to judge someone who looks differently than you? What about someone who has a different religion, belief system, morals, values?
My knee-jerk response to that question is “oh, I never judge…I’m one of the most open-minded people I know!”
And while that may be true in some cases, the fact is that I’m human, and unfortunately, like everyone else in the world, I’ve made snap-judgments based on a person’s appearance or behavior.
For example, if I’m walking alone in a parking lot at night and I’m approached by a well dressed woman, I’m not likely to feel nervous–but if I’m approached by a not-so-well groomed man, I’m likely to squeeze my kids’ hands a little tighter and might even clutch my purse a little.
And, if he walks too close, I am likely to start walking faster.
I know, that’s terrible. I owe men everywhere an apology for that type of stereotype. Men, I’m sorry, I hope you’ll understand. 🙂
Now that I’ve got that out of my system, allow me to get to the point…
What about you? Do you find yourself judging your neighbor’s teenage daughter for wearing that short skirt? What about the family that never picks up their newspapers? Or the mom at the grocery store whose kids are terrorizing her?
Of course you do…at least now and then. It’s human nature. But did you know that judging other people can have a negative effect on YOU?
It’s pretty simple really. By thinking negatively about someone else, you are bringing negativity into your mind…which then, of course, attracts more of it into your life.
Ok, so here’s the deal: quit judging people already. And, quit taking others’ negative behaviors personally. You have a choice. YOU can decide how to let it affect you. You can decide how to react, and you can choose your own perception of the situation.
I know, easier said than done, right?
Something that I’ve discovered in my pursuit of fulfillment is that the way to avoid judging people (as often as possible, anyway) is to find compassion within yourself for your fellow humans.
It’s not as hard as it sounds, and the more you practice it, the easier it gets.
The next time you find yourself judging someone, take a moment to put yourself in their shoes. If a checker at the grocery store is rude to you, remember that she’s a person. Maybe she’s dealing with something in her life that is distracting her or upsetting her. Maybe she’s working three jobs and she is doing the best she can to take care of herself and her family.
If it’s your friend or family member driving you bonkers, you might even know what is bothering him or her. Maybe you can help them to get through it, maybe not.
Bliss Mission: Respond With Love
The bottom line is this: by responding with compassion, and by NOT TAKING IT PERSONALLY, you can avoid a lot of stress in your life–both for yourself and for people around you. And, my friends, avoiding stress means FEELING GOOD. And, like attracts like.
If you feel good, you will draw good into your life. Simple as that. So when you react and respond to those around you, do so with love, even if you don’t know the person.
And so, your Bliss Mission, should you choose to accept it, is this: spend the next 24 hours of your life consciously avoiding passing judgement on other people. Don’t beat yourself up if a judgmental thought pops in your head–just allow it to pass and then replace it with a more positive, compassionate thought.
You’ll be amazed at the difference this simple tweak in your thought process can make in your day. What do you say? Share your thoughts in the comments section below!