How Simply Feeling Good Can Make Your Life Better

How Simply Feeling Good Can Make Your Life Better

By Angela Atkinson

“The greatest gift you can give yourself is joy, not only because of the feeling that goes with it at the moment, but because of the magnificent experience it will draw to you. It will produce wonders in your life.” ~Jack Boland

Have you ever fallen ill during or shortly after a very stressful time in your life?

Have you noticed that it happens often?

Stress, left unchecked, can cause a host of illnesses and disease, including solvable issues like backaches and insomnia, and more grave issues like cancer and chronic fatigue syndrome.

Stress has also been blamed for various women’s health issues, heart disease, high blood pressure, stroke and more.

Many people report that stress affects their love lives, both intimate and otherwise, their digestive systems and even their skin. Headaches and emotional problems are other common side-effects of stress.

If you’re constantly stressed, you might notice that you get more colds and infections too. That’s because stress lowers your immune system’s ability to protect your body.

So, basically, stress is bad–bad for your body and bad for your soul.

The Only Way to Eliminate Stress: No Assembly Necessary

I’m going to warn you now that what I’m about to say may seem overly simplified, but hear me out. There’s only one way to eliminate stress–and it takes no special tools or books or classes. In fact, all you need is an open mind.

If you want to get rid of the stress in your life, you have to decide to feel good. And then, you have to actually do it.

Why Feeling Good Will Eliminate Stress

If you’re familiar with the basic concept of the law of attraction, then you know that your emotional state, the way you feel, determines your vibrational frequency.

Your vibrational frequency–your “vibe”–attracts the types and quality of the experiences you have. So, simply put, feeling good will bring more good into your life.

How to Start Feeling Good, Right Now

You’ve got to change your mind to change your life.

You can start by just choosing to feel good–and when you feel negativity creeping up, intentionally turn your mind away from it and focus instead on something good–something you really want–because no matter what you’re focusing on, you’ll be bringing more of it into your life.

So why not focus on something good?

That’s where my friends come in this week.

Get By With a Little Help From My Friends

I polled my Facebook friends with a simple question: What makes you feel good about yourself and your life?

I’m sharing their answers with you here in the hopes that they might give you a bit of inspiration to use the next time you’re having trouble finding something good to focus on.

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“Exercise is a big one for me.” ~Christina

“My kids…they make me glow!” ~Stephanie

“My sexy shoes make (me feel good) about myself when I’m out on the town.” ~Gail

“What makes me feel good about myself and my life is the fact that my mother is proud of me! I have tried and failed for 31 years until I became the responsible mature adult she always pushed me to be…and I love it!” ~Melina

“Sweating out toxins.” ~Layla

“The fact that I love being a registered nurse. I had a patient my last 6 days of work who absolutely adored me. my last day of work I discharged her, she told me she wouldn’t ever forget me. She reinforced the fact I love what I do for a living.” ~Andrea

“When I stop and think about the awesome, interesting friends that I have. Seriously, I am amazed by the people I have crossed paths with and those who have chosen to not run away.” ~Sarah

“I feel the best when I know I’m making a difference. I think that’s what sets a dead end job apart from one that is fulfilling–the feeling that what you are doing actually means something.” ~Jennifer

“I feel best when I’m helping others, whether mentally or physically. Knowing that you have the ability to make others smile makes it all worth it to me.” ~Shelly

“Having the wife I have, who truly has inspired and motivated me over and over–and her forgiveness knows no bounds! Being a good fisherman, discovering I’m going to be a good nurse…now those things feel good in life!” ~John

“When I read the authors who influenced me years ago and I re-discover how I am made –standing on the shoulders of giants.” ~Nance

“Watching my kids. Devlin came in the house today from Cub Scout camp…he just had this walk about him. Taller, more confident posture and such an innocent smile. Made me feel good about my choices in life!” ~Anjanette

So how about you? What makes you FEEL GOOD about yourself or your life? How do you raise your vibrational level?  Tell me in the comments!

 

How Simply Feeling Good Can Make Your Life Better

5 Ways to Have a Better Day, Right Now

What to Do When You're Having a Bad DaySo, you’re having one of those “someone peed in your Cheerios” kind of days, huh? Think you’re wasting your time trying to find out how to have a better day?

You KNOW for sure that having a bad attitude isn’t serving you, that it is likely to breed more negativity in your day, but at this point, you don’t see how it’s going to get any better. You’re ready to throw in the towel and try again tomorrow.

But You Can Have a Better Day, Right Now!

I’m here to tell you that you can do some pretty simple things to change your perspective, this moment. You really can have a better day, I promise. Stick with me here.

As you probably know, a simple change in perspective is all it takes to begin to make things go your way.  You can literally change your life by just changing your mind.

But when you’re having those rough days, what can you do to quickly change your vibe and improve your outlook?

I know how all too well how difficult it can be to get over whatever it is that’s got you down, but I also have a few tricks up my sleeve that can make it a whole lot easier.

How to Have a Better Day, Right Now

 Put Yourself Back On Your Priority List

Listen, I know how it is. Life feels hard sometimes–you get busy, you take care of your family, your home, your job, your life. And you forget to take care of yourself.

You think, “oh, that’s just the way it goes.”

You reason that it’s your responsibility, your burden to bear–you might even think it makes you a better person to put your own wants and needs on the back burner in favor of someone else’s.

But here’s the deal–if you don’t take care of yourself first, you’re not going to be as awesome as you might otherwise be.

Not only that, but you’re going to be a shadow of the person you really want to be, and you won’t be nearly as effective in any capacity as someone who does put herself at the top of her priority list. Seriously. So put yourself at the top of your list, pronto. You won’t regret it.

Tell Someone They Rock Your World

Or that they are beautiful, or cool, or smart or just plain spec-freaking-tacular.

Just give someone in your life a little boost by saying something nice to them. A compliment is a two-way street–you give one, and you not only make someone else feel good, but you get to feel good too. Win-win, I say.

Remember: what you put out into the world is what comes back to you. And who isn’t a sucker for a good compliment?

Act As If It’s Impossible to Fail

And you just might get everything you want.  Some people think they have to suffer to meet their goals.

They think that they can’t enjoy the process, and that they will never have true happiness until they reach what they have identified as the ultimate success.

We’ve all done this. We might say, “I’ll wear that beautiful dress when I lose 15 pounds,” or “I’ll finally be able to have fun when I finish writing my book,” or “I won’t be happy until I get that promotion.”

Here’s the secret: it doesn’t have to suck.

You really can be happy and continue to work toward your goals. It’s all about putting it out there–being clear on what you want, and then taking what I like to call inspired action to make it happen. And it’s easier than you think. You can start by just KNOWING that you CAN and WILL succeed in manifesting your desires.

Lose the Gavel

It’s human nature to judge other people, but try NOT doing it, just for today. When you see that woman at the grocery store with a snot-nosed, dirty kid, try to imagine what her situation might be.

You don’t really know why that kid’s nose is running or why he’s dirty. Maybe they are homeless, or maybe they couldn’t afford to pay their water bill.

Or maybe they just came from a very messy playdate and stopped at the grocery store to pick up some antihistamine for the kid’s runny nose. You don’t know, so don’t judge. Instead, smile at her and have a little compassion.

The thing is, when you’ve got compassion for others, they’re more likely to have it for you.

And when you stop judging the people around you in a negative way, you’re also bringing more positivity (and less negativity) into your own life. It works, I promise.

Forgive Someone

Even if you never tell them. We’ve all been hurt in our lives, whether physically or emotionally, by someone we thought cared about us. Sometimes, the feelings and resentments that go along with painful situations can begin to fester and cause you to lose your lust for life, to say the least.

If you can forgive someone who hurt you (note: I did not say forget–some people are genuinely dangerous and you should steer clear of them if that’s the case), you can begin to heal within yourself.

Your outlook will almost instantly improve–it’ll be like a weight has been lifted from your shoulders.

And, honestly, you might feel like someone who hurt you doesn’t deserve to be forgiven for what they did–and you’d be right in some cases.

But that doesn’t mean that you can’t forgive them within yourself and release the pain. And it doesn’t mean that you have to offer your forgiveness to the person who hurt you–just know within yourself that you’ve done it.

 So what about you? How do you change your perspective when you’re having a bad day? Tell me in the comments!

How Simply Feeling Good Can Make Your Life Better

How to Let Go and Forgive

By Leo Babauta, Zen Habits

Leo Babauta

We’ve all been hurt by another person at some time or another — we were treated badly, trust was broken, hearts were hurt.

And while this pain is normal, sometimes that pain lingers for too long. We relive the pain over and over, and have a hard time letting go.

This causes problems. It not only causes us to be unhappy, but can strain or ruin relationships, distract us from work and family and other important things, make us reluctant to open up to new things and people. We get trapped in a cycle of anger and hurt, and miss out on the beauty of life as it happens.

We need to learn to let go. We need to be able to forgive, so we can move on and be happy.

This is something I learned the hard way — after years of holding onto anger at a loved one that stemmed from my childhood and teen-age years, I finally let go of this anger (about 8 years ago or so). I forgave, and not only has it improved my relationship with this loved one tremendously, it has also helped me to be happier.

Forgiveness can change your life.

Forgiveness does not mean you erase the past, or forget what has happened. It doesn’t even mean the other person will change his behavior — you cannot control that. All it means is that you are letting go of the anger and pain, and moving on to a better place.

It’s not easy. But you can learn to do it.

If you’re holding onto pain, reliving it, and can’t let go and forgive, read on for some things I’ve learned.

1. Commit to letting go. You aren’t going to do it in a second or maybe not even in a day. It can take time to get over something. So commit to changing, because you recognize that the pain is hurting you.

2. Think about the pros and cons. What problems does this pain cause you? Does it affect your relationship with this person? With others? Does it affect work or family? Does it stop you from pursuing your dreams, or becoming a better person? Does it cause you unhappiness? Think of all these problems, and realize you need to change. Then think of the benefits of forgiveness — how it will make you happier, free you from the past and the pain, improve things with your relationships and life in general.

3. Realize you have a choice. You cannot control the actions of others, and shouldn’t try. But you can control not only your actions, but your thoughts. You can stop reliving the hurt, and can choose to move on. You have this power. You just need to learn how to exercise it.

4. Empathize. Try this: put yourself in that person’s shoes. Try to understand why the person did what he did. Start from the assumption that the person isn’t a bad person, but just did something wrong. What could he have been thinking, what could have happened to him in the past to make him do what he did? What could he have felt as he did it, and what did he feel afterward? How does he feel now? You aren’t saying what he did is right, but are instead trying to understand and empathize.

5. Understand your responsibility. Try to figure out how you could have been partially responsible for what happened. What could you have done to prevent it, and how can you prevent it from happening next time? This isn’t to say you’re taking all the blame, or taking responsibility away from the other person, but to realize that we are not victims but participants in life.

6. Focus on the present. Now that you’ve reflected on the past, realize that the past is over. It isn’t happening anymore, except in your mind. And that causes problems — unhappiness and stress. Instead, bring your focus back to the present moment. What are you doing now? What joy can you find in what is happening right now? Find the joy in life now, as it happens, and stop reliving the past. Btw, you will inevitably start thinking about the past, but just acknowledge that, and gently bring yourself back to the present moment.

7. Allow peace to enter your life. As you focus on the present, try focusing on your breathing. Imagine each breath going out is the pain and the past, being released from your body and mind. And imagine each breath coming in is peace, entering you and filling you up. Release the pain and the past. Let peace enter your life. And go forward, thinking no longer of the past, but of peace and the present.

8. Feel compassion. Finally, forgive the person and realize that in forgiveness, you are allowing yourself to be happy and move on. Feel empathy for the person and wish happiness on them. Let love for them, and life in general, grow in your heart. It may take time, but if you’re stuck on this point, repeat some of the ones above until you can get here.

 

 

 

 

How Simply Feeling Good Can Make Your Life Better

20 Ways to Live the Life You Want

By Joneric Bohman

How does your life measure up to what you have intended it to be?  Are you living it the way you have always wanted?  If not, here are 20 ways to help you get started on pursuing the live you’ve always dreamed about, right now.

1. Change your perspective.  When you focus on what you perceive is negative in your life, you’re effectively choosing to draw more negative things into your life. Instead, choose to see and speak about the good things in your life–the things that make you feel happy, and focus on the positives. You won’t regret it–the more positive things, people and situations you embrace, the more good that comes into your life.

2. Be grateful.  Being grateful is a wonderful way of staying in a positive frame of mind.  By being grateful, you will see new opportunities and people who want to accompany you on the same route.  More of what is good will come your way.

3. Don’t complain.  If there’s one sure way to push others away, it is through complaining.  EVERYONE is trying to live a better life, and we all know that things are tough at times.  If find yourself complaining too often, look at how many people have stopped hanging out with you. Complaining might be the reason.

4. Every day is a new opportunity.  Getting caught up in what happened yesterday, or last month, is not going to help you in any way.  Accept what has happened, look at it as a lesson on how to do better the next time.

5. Do something.  As the eight-time Mr. Olympia Ronnie Coleman says: “There’s nothing to it but to do it.”  Get out there and take the first step toward accomplishing what you want in life.  If you don’t take that step, then there is no way that it could ever happen.

6. Focus on you.  Thinking about what others are thinking about you, getting caught up in what has happened TO you, basically giving power over you to others is dis-empowering.  Strive to focus only on the things that you actually have control over, and that is you.  What YOU say, do, think, etc.

7. Choose a purpose.  Its hard to decide what you want to do in life when you don’t feel like you have a purpose.  Going through a discovery process of what you are here for will help drive you forward.

8. Use affirmations.  Writing down good quotes on 3×5 cards, post it notes, or other things you can make noticeable will help tremendously.  It helps you feel good about yourself, life, and the things you are trying to do.

9. Discover your beliefs.  Our feelings are the result of beliefs we hold to be true.  If you go through life thinking that you are a bad person then that is exactly what you will focus on in every situation.  Its not that its true, its simply your subconscious focus.  So when you feel bad ask yourself what the belief is.

For a more in-depth look at this check out my article Change Your Life.

10. Don’t put life on hold.  What things in life have you wanted to do that you are “waiting” for things to be just right?  Well stop doing this now and just do what you can towards those ends immediately.

11. Make a list of things you want to do.  Crossing off things you would like to do from a list makes you feel so good.  I have a list that I put things I want to accomplish with my website as well as other life things.  They can be anything, small or big, that you write down.  I recommend small ones as well in order to help you feel a sense of progress.

12. Keep an open mind.  Keep yourself open to the possibilities.  Don’t get so set in your own perspective that you shut others out.  This is one of the easiest ways to make others dislike you, and not hang out with you.  Try to keep the perspective that you don’t know everything, and everyone is entitled to have their own beliefs.  You can always agree to disagree with others and still get along great.

13. Have compassion.  Like I said earlier, everyone is trying to live a better life, and we are all doing the best we can.  No one person knows everything so be kind and compassionate to others.  Now this doesn’t mean to let them crap on you, keep them accountable for their actions.  Be understanding and forgiving towards others.

14. Spend time with supportive, uplifting people.  Do your best to let go of relationships that are toxic to your pursuits.  If they do not compliment and believe in you then don’t spend your time with them.

15. Get out and meet new people.  Have a genuine desire to get to know those you already know, as well as new people.  Learn what their perspective is on life, what drives them, what they love to do, and what goals they have, without any judgment or bias.

16. Review your life.  When is the last time you asked where you are in life?  How are my goals going?  Start doing this on a weekly basis.  Sit down and determine how things are and how to make things better.  If something you have been doing for the week doesn’t truly excite you then perhaps its time to stop doing it.

17. Take care of yourself.  One of the biggest sources of frustration I have found is having a cluttered life.  This seems to carry over into a messy room, desk, car, front room, etc.  Start now and clean up a single area, even if its just the computer.  Get rid of things you haven’t used in a long time, clean up all the extra papers sitting around, you’ll feel better afterward.

18. Read a book.  Sometimes the best way to let go of your life is to read a fiction book, fantasy, science fiction, or other genre.  Just make sure that it doesn’t become a crutch you start using to avoid facing life’s challenges.

19. Do what you love.  There’s no better way to improve your prosperity than to spend time doing things you truly love to do.  These are the things that you enjoy the entire process of, not just the end result.  If it makes you feel free then its something you probably love doing.

20. Take breaks.  Its OK to take time out for yourself.  If you are constantly living your life taking care of and meeting the needs of others, how are yours getting met?  Well, schedule time at least once a week that is your personal time, one hour at least.

Thanks for stopping by and checking this article out.  If you have anything to add, or comment on leave them below.  Remember, you ARE worthy to live the life you desire!

 About the Author

Joneric Bohman strives to bring thought provoking articles to help change your life.  To read more of his work, visit JonericBohman.com.

 

How Simply Feeling Good Can Make Your Life Better

Letting Go: Memories Don’t Have to Hurt

Nearly everyone can relate to the feeling of not being able to let go of something that is no longer useful in their lives.

Whether it’s a painful memory or a person that isn’t treating you the way you deserve to be treated, it can often be better to “let go” and allow yourself to heal.

This doesn’t mean you have to forget–just that you have to stop allowing it to color your present and future.

Fact is, we’ve all dealt with issues that have brought up negativity from the past.

Perhaps we thought we had already healed completely–but sometimes, the issues simply lie dormant until something triggers them.

This can make it feel like the proverbial wounds are reopened. Never a good thing.

At any rate, if we hope to find bliss, we must let these issues go and move forward. Letting them color our present would be cheating ourselves out of the happiness we have in our lives today.

How to let go of negativity and pain from the past

Can you simply forget these things, or to heal from them? What is the solution? Can anything be done?

  • First, simply decide to be happy. Decide to accept only the lessons and love from the past, and try to let negative emotions pass through you, noticed but not dwelled upon. Choose to stay positive and to let go of the pain from the past.
  • Second, remember that no matter what happened, there’s nothing we can do to change the past. There’s no time machine, no going back. We can only move forward. We are in control of our emotions, and we can choose to feel good. Feeling good brings more good into our lives. Negativity begets more negativity.

The choice should seem simple.

Every single one of us has experienced life changing events–both positive and negative. Even positive changes can be scary, but for those of us who have trouble overcoming negative ones, there’s hope, and it’s so easy.

Just feel good.

Take care of your body, take care of your soul. Nurture the real you, and introduce him or her to the world. Be comfortable in your skin, and in your place in the world. Take your spot, take it now, and the universe will take its cue from you.

Decide to be happy today. Decide to move forward and release all negativity. Any time you feel negativity coming on, affirm “All good things are coming to me today” or something that fits your situation specifically, and then consciously release the negativity.

I’ll leave you with a final thought, an old Sweedish Proverb:

“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours”

Will you decide to be happy today? What do you need to “let go” of right now? Share your thoughts in the comments section, below.

 

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