My purpose: This is why I keep writing about narcissism

My purpose: This is why I keep writing about narcissism

“I truly believe that everything that we do and everyone that we meet is put in our path for a purpose. There are no accidents; we’re all teachers – if we’re willing to pay attention to the lessons we learn, trust our positive instincts and not be afraid to take risks or wait for some miracle to come knocking at our door.” ~Marla Gibbs

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It’s because of you. YOU, my reader, are the reason I do what I do. And today, I learned I’m on the right track – so today, I want to say thank you, honestly. 

A new reader reached out to me personally today to tell me how she felt about reading one of my books on narcissism, and all I can be is grateful. It seems that I have done what I set out to do.

I am humbled and honored. Thanks to this wonderful and thoughtful reader, I’ve learned that my books are making a difference. My heart is full, and I am inspired to continue my work. 

Here’s what happened. 

So, if you’ve been reading my work long, you know that I write about narcissism in relationships pretty often, including three books on the subject (and a new one, coming soonish). 

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People often wonder why I write about this particular topic, and I’ve explained my initial reasons for studying narcissism and writing about it once before. 

But there’s another reason, a much bigger one. I write about narcissism because it is my intention to help other people go from being victims of narcissists to being survivors. 

Today, I am humbled. Because this is exactly what some readers are saying they’re getting out of my books. 

I have been blessed to have many readers reach out to me personally, whether through my blog comments section, through email or through various social media channels, they are telling me that they found something in my books, something that helped them or gave them some insight. 

While I can’t always publish the comments that are made during these private conversations, due to their personal nature, every now and again, I ask permission to publish a reader’s thoughts. 

I received a message on Facebook today that completely warmed my heart and made me feel like I was doing something right. She had just purchased my book and wanted to let me know what she thought personally.

I was so honored by her insightful and genuine thoughts that I asked for permission to remove any personal information and publish it for you to read, in the hope that if you need the kind of help I have to offer, this will inspire you to get it. 

She had just finished reading my best-seller, entitled Take Back Your Life: 103 Highly-Effective Strategies to Snuff Out a Narcissist’s Gaslighting and Enjoy the Happy Life You Really Deserve. 

In part, here’s what she told me. 

“As someone who is learning about NPD, narcissist abuse, codependent relationships, and developing stronger personal boundaries, your book is the most comprehensive source I have found.

As I was reading it, it was like I could feel my mind ‘clicking’ as things resonated with me. I began journaling a couple of years ago, and I am also aware of some of your other tips, but it was a good reminder to read them again.

There were also some new (to me) ideas that I haven’t seen or tried before. It’s a terrific resource for me in this journey of healing that I’m on, and I’m keeping it close to re-read it as needed.

Honestly, I wish they educated kids about these things when they are still in school. They should have a required class on this stuff, and they should use your book to do it! I can’t thank you enough for writing it. Thank you so, so much!”

All I can feel is grateful, and all I can say is WOW! To my reader, thank you, thank you, thank you! 

What This Reader Taught Me Today

If you can learn from your struggles and use this information to teach others how to identify and successfully navigate their own, then your struggles turn out to be blessings in disguise.

This is me, signing off for today in gratitude and love. 

Have you read Take Back Your Life yet? What did you think? Share your thoughts!


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