Take the Narcissistic Personality Inventory Test Here

Take the Narcissistic Personality Inventory Test Here

Do you or does someone you know meet the DSM-5 criteria for someone with narcissistic personality disorder? If so, you might be interested in taking the NPI test.

The Narcissistic Personality Inventory (NPI) is the test most used in psychological research of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder. While there are actually several versions of the NPI, this 40-question, “forced-choice” version is the one most researchers prefer. Based on the DSM clinical criteria for narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), the NPI means to measure these features in the general population.

Warning: this test is considered controversial because it’s possible to score high even if you aren’t a toxic narcissist – because, based on the test, ALL narcissism is “bad” – but in reality, there is such a thing as a healthy amount of narcissism.

Take the Narcissistic Personality Inventory Test Here


You may prefer an interactive version of the NPI, which you can find here. That is what makes the test so controversial for some: it’s possible to score high even if you aren’t a toxic narcissist – because, based on the test, ALL narcissism is “bad” – but in reality, there is such a thing as a healthy amount of narcissism.

Researchers say that people who score high on the NPI are more likely to cheat in game-play and romantic relationships. They also put themselves before others by taking more resources for themselves and leave fewer for others, and they value material things above people. They also might be obsessively concerned with their outer appearance – unless, of course, they’re a covert type of narcissist.

Narcissistic Personality Inventory Test With Scoring Guide: 40 Questions 

Here’s the test in writing. Read each question and choose A or B. Write down your answers or type them into a document, and then score them using the guide at the end of the test.

1. A. I have a natural talent for influencing people.
B. I am not good at influencing people.
2. A. Modesty doesn’t become me.
B. I am essentially a modest person.
3. A. I would do almost anything on a dare.
B. I tend to be a fairly cautious person.

4. A. When people compliment me I sometimes get embarrassed.
B. I know that I am good because everybody keeps telling me so.
5. A. The thought of ruling the world frightens the hell out of me.
B. If I ruled the world it would be a better place.

6. A. I can usually talk my way out of anything.
B. I try to accept the consequences of my behavior.

7. A. I prefer to blend in with the crowd.
B. I like to be the center of attention.

8. A. I will be a success.
B. I am not too concerned about success.

9. A. I am no better or worse than most people.
B. I think I am a special person.

10. A. I am not sure if I would make a good leader.
B. I see myself as a good leader.

11. A. I am assertive.
B. I wish I were more assertive.

12. A. I like to have authority over other people.
B. I don’t mind following orders.

13. A. I find it easy to manipulate people.
B. I don’t like it when I find myself manipulating people.

14. A. I insist upon getting the respect that is due me.
B. I usually get the respect that I deserve.

15. A. I don’t particularly like to show off my body.
B. I like to show off my body.

16. A. I can read people like a book.
B. People are sometimes hard to understand.

17. A. If I feel competent I am willing to take responsibility for making decisions.
B. I like to take responsibility for making decisions.

18. A. I just want to be reasonably happy.
B. I want to amount to something in the eyes of the world.

19. A. My body is nothing special.
B. I like to look at my body.

20. A. I try not to be a show off.
B. I will usually show off if I get the chance.

21. A. I always know what I am doing.
B. Sometimes I am not sure of what I am doing.

22. A. I sometimes depend on people to get things done.
B. I rarely depend on anyone else to get things done.

23. A. Sometimes I tell good stories.
B. Everybody likes to hear my stories.

24. A. I expect a great deal from other people.
B. I like to do things for other people.

25. A. I will never be satisfied until I get all that I deserve.
B. I take my satisfactions as they come.

26. A. Compliments embarrass me.
B. I like to be complimented.

27. A. I have a strong will to power.
B. Power for its own sake doesn’t interest me.

28. A. I don’t care about new fads and fashions.
B. I like to start new fads and fashions.

29. A. I like to look at myself in the mirror.
B. I am not particularly interested in looking at myself in the mirror.

30. A. I really like to be the center of attention.
B. It makes me uncomfortable to be the center of attention.

31. A. I can live my life in any way I want to.
B. People can’t always live their lives in terms of what they want.

32. A. Being an authority doesn’t mean that much to me.
B. People always seem to recognize my authority.

33. A. I would prefer to be a leader.
B. It makes little difference to me whether I am a leader or not.

34. A. I am going to be a great person.
B. I hope I am going to be successful.

35. A. People sometimes believe what I tell them.
B. I can make anybody believe anything I want them to.

36. A. I am a born leader.
B. Leadership is a quality that takes a long time to develop.

37. A. I wish somebody would someday write my biography.
B. I don’t like people to pry into my life for any reason.

38. A. I get upset when people don’t notice how I look when I go out in public.
B. I don’t mind blending into the crowd when I go out in public.

39. A. I am more capable than other people.
B. There is a lot that I can learn from other people.

40. A. I am much like everybody else.
B. I am an extraordinary person.

SCORING KEY: Assign one point for each response that matches the key.

1, 2 and 3: A
4, 5: B
6: A
7: B
8: A
9, 10: B
11, 12, 13, 14: A
15: B
16: A
17, 18, 19, 20: B
21: A
22, 23: B
24, 25: A
26: B
27: A
28: B
29, 30, 31: A
32: B
33, 34: A
35: B
36, 37, 38, 39: A
40: B

About the Scores:

    • The average score for the general population is 15.3. The average score for celebrities is 17.8.
    • It’s really important that you consider which traits are dominant. So, a final score that reflects more points on vanity, entitlement, exhibitionism, and exploitativeness should raise more concern than a high score in authority, self-sufficiency, and superiority, for example.
    • This test does not offer the full spectrum of scoring as it does not take into account the seven narcissistic component traits as follows.
    • Visit this post for an interactive version of the NPI test.


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How to Find Strength to Leave a Narcissist: Useful Rage

How to Find Strength to Leave a Narcissist: Useful Rage

When you figure out that you’re dealing with narcissistic abuse in a toxic relationship, you learn quickly that not only is the narcissist unlikely to change, but that your best bet for a safe and happy future means ending the relationship and moving on. This is a scary but often necessary step that survivors of narcissistic abuse need to take to fully recover from the abuse and trauma they’ve suffered.

This video offers insight on how to feel stronger if you’re struggling to deal with ending a relationship with a narcissist. 

As you can see when you watch that video, there are plenty of things you can do to feel stronger. Of course, there’s a lot you need to do and think about to prepare yourself before you leave – in fact, I’ve got a whole list of them for you, along with some other helpful planning material for people who are in the process of planning their escape from a narcissist, available for free. 

But no amount of planning will give you the courage you need to finally get the strength to leave the narcissist, will it? What will?

Justified Rage Propels You Forward

Justified rage or anger is sort of like fear with a little courage thrown in, sometimes. And if I’m being honest, ending my relationship with my narcissist was sparked by anger – I had to get angry before I could get away.

There is such a thing as constructive anger, and it is this kind of anger that causes you to stand up and to create positive change in both yourself and your life circumstances.

Sometimes, anger can help neutralize your fear and power up your gumption to get you through the hard transitions – the things you might just be afraid to conquer without that little push of emotion. Leaving a narcissist is one of those things. But why?

There’s the trauma bond factor to consider, but then there’s also the fact that when you’ve been through narcissistic abuse, you often don’t trust yourself, and for a lot of us, it’s only justified anger that will get us out.

A lot of people think that anger is all bad – but that’s not always the case. And while I’m sure someone will disagree with me, I think that, sometimes, for those of us who have been stuck in narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships, we need something big to get us to take real action.

We spend so much time being afraid, sad, alone – and feeling not good enough – that being angry can wake us up and propel us into action.

How do I stop feeling scared and take action to leave my abuser?

Here, I’m responding to a question from a viewer and a member of my online support group for narcissistic abuse survivors. 


In this video, I’ll give you the bottom line on anger, and I will explain what I mean by starting with a story from my own life.

And, I’ll share some techniques that can help push you past the scared, sad, and desperate feelings we all experience at or near the end of a toxic relationship with a narcissist – this will help you to take the action necessary to move forward and start building a healthier, better life for yourself.

Your turn: after you watch the video – tell me what you think.

Have you experienced this need to stop being sad and start getting mad – and take the action you need to get safe and back to your true self? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section below. Let’s discuss it!

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Update: Click here to visit our new resources center. 

Looking for tools, tips, resources and help with a narcissist in your life? Then you’ve come to the right place. I’ve collected more than 35 of them for you, right here.

I have written several books on narcissism, but I know that not everyone can have books delivered and/or doesn’t have the cash for the Kindle editions. Or maybe they’re afraid of being found out by their very controlling narc.

Listen, I’m not here to judge. I feel you. TRUST ME.

At any rate, that’s why I’ve put together a few links for you here. If you bookmark this post and/or this site, you can refer back to it as needed to get the virtual support and/ir validation that you need.

Consider this site your very own sort of “online ebook” of sorts – no charge, no strings attached. Just because I know how important it is to know that you’re not crazy when you’re in the thick of a relationship with a narcissist.

Is there a narcissist in your life?

Your narcissist could be anyone – your spouse, your child, your mother, your father, your boss – even your best friend or your neighbor. Here are some tips for identifying the one(s) in your life.

What is the definition of a toxic narcissist?

It’s confusing for a lot of people because people think being narcissistic means you take a bunch of selfies and care about how you look. But that’s not necessarily a toxic narcissist – the fact is that every human alive has a certain amount of narcissism in their makeup – it’s self-interest. It’s what makes us get up and get ourselves dressed, feed ourselves, get jobs, get married, have kids – it’s the part of us that prevents us from just giving up entirely.

But a toxic narcissist (or a person with NPD), is someone who has no ability to empathize with other people and who treats the people closest to them accordingly. The toxic narcissist is also referred to as a malignant narcissist.

What’s the difference between narcissism or narcissistic personality disorder and high self-esteem?


Are you being manipulated by the narcissist?

We all know that narcissists are master devastating emotional scars narcissism quotemanipulators.

Here are some posts to help you identify and recognize the manipulation.

Can you take control of the situation and/or overpower the narcissist?

beat a narcissist at his own gameIndeed you can, my friend, if you’re willing to stand up for yourself – at least temporarily. Once you’ve recognized the situation, you’re already one step closer. Now you need to know how to get through it. Try these posts for help and ideas.

Can you make the narcissist be nice to you WITHOUT acting like a narcissist yourself?

Yes, absolutely – and it can be done in two ethical, repeatable steps – check it out right here.

Can a narcissist ever really love?

I think we both know the answer to that question, but just in case:

What are some other ways a narcissist will manipulate me?

You might already know all about gaslighting, but that’s just one way that narcissists manipulate people. Here are a few others.

Can you show me an example of real-life gaslighting?

I don’t usually share many personal stories about the gaslighting I have experienced in my life but recently, a well-known narcissist actually gave me a little bit of an unrealized opportunity by actually gaslighting me online.

Oh yea. Online.

What if leaving my narcissist isn’t an option?

It’s not always, and you and I both know this. Unless you’re being physically abused, sometimes it feels like the wolf you know is better than the one that you don’t. But here are some posts to help you get your head in the right place and tools to help you be happier.

Is there a course or class I can take to help me recover from narcissistic abuse?

Absolutely! On this page, you’ll find all kinds of freebies, some of which include online courses. You can also visit Life Makeover Academy, NarcissismSupportCoach.com, or take my Udemy course that helps you to take back your life after narcissistic abuse, right here.

See My Books About Narcissism 

See all of my books, including those on topics such as weight loss and how to be a hot wife at BooksAngieWrote.com.

See the most recent posts about narcissism, gaslighting, and toxic relationships right here. If you have any resources for victims of narcissism in relationships, please share them in the comments section, below. 

Narcissistic Abuse and Isolation: Feeling Alone in a Crowd

Narcissistic Abuse and Isolation: Feeling Alone in a Crowd

Have you ever felt alone in a crowd?

Do you know how it feels when you are in a room full of people, and yet you feel completely alone? If you have ever found yourself looking around a room and realizing you’ve both been surrounded by people and feeling completely alone, you might be dealing with the effects of narcissistic abuse in a toxic relationship. This is exactly what many survivors of narcissistic abuse say they experience – and it’s a pattern I found in myself after finally realizing what I’d been dealing with for so long.

Narcissistic Abuse Silences You With Shame

Because of the shame, fear, guilt, and/or embarrassment of being tortured by a narcissist, a lot of victims won’t even talk about it with the people they’re closest to in their lives – and even when they appear to be totally fine and are capable of a friendly conversation (and have good social skills), there can be an underlying feeling of isolation for a survivor – one that feels sort of like a dull ache.

Why does narcissistic abuse lead to self-isolation?

So often, I hear this from my clients – they feel like they don’t even know how to be vulnerable anymore – and they find themselves feeling very gunshy, constantly on alert. See, emotional abuse (not to mention physical and even deeper forms of psychological abuse such as gaslighting) can really teach us to shut up – to stop talking about ourselves – and this leads to our becoming paralyzed in certain ways – one of which is developing the need to be alone!

Why do narcissistic abuse survivors struggle with connection to others?

Let’s talk about that for a minute: WHY do survivors of narcissistic abuse have so much trouble feeling really connected to people? Why do we so often find the need to be alone after any sort of social interaction? Why do we find the idea of certain kinds of interaction overwhelming to the point that we just become paralyzed and hide inside the little cocoons we’ve created for ourselves?

Well, let’s start answering those questions by looking at our situations from an intellectual standpoint, shall we?

Why does narcissistic abuse lead to self-isolation?

Taking away all emotional aspects, we are in a very uncomfortable position when we’re dealing with a narcissist in our daily lives, and in some ways, we’re taught that everything we think and believe is incorrect – or, at the very least, no one validates us and we begin to believe the lies the narcissist tells us about ourselves.

And, in most cases, these situations are created without our consent, whether we’ve been fooled into becoming enmeshed with them or we were born into this mess. You’re going to feel abandoned. You’re going to feel lonely sometimes. And at the same time, you’re going to want to BE alone all the time.

To say it’s overwhelming is an understatement – but if we’re being honest with ourselves, we are in an almost suspended state, whether we’re still stuck in the toxic relationship or we’ve moved on and are going through narcissistic abuse recovery.

How can acceptance lead to closure in narcissistic abuse recovery?

As we desperately seek closure, we must accept the truth of what we’ve experienced – and that is so much more complicated than it sounds.

You’re obviously on the right path – you’re here now, consuming this information. Now all you’ve got to do is recognize what you’ve been through and understand what happened. This, along with figuring out how you need to work through and heal the narcissistic abuse and relationship trauma you’ve experienced, will help you to eventually create your own closure in the end, which will lead to your healing.

Have you been seduced into becoming a source of narcissistic supply?

Since the narcissist is a walking bundle of confusion, anger, love-bombing, and abuse-cycle-spinning, you’ve been seduced into becoming a source of narcissistic supply.

For example, let’s say the narcissist in your life is your spouse or partner. And if you’re being honest, you were likely seduced with promises of having someone “on your side,” of a “soulmate” or whatever your version of that was – but ultimately, you were brought in thinking you were getting Prince (or Princess) Charming.

If your narcissist was your parent or parental figure, it looked more like “I’m the only person who REALLY loves you so you better do exactly what I want or you risk being completely abandoned in the world.”

And in either case, it looks like “if you don’t do what I want, you will be alone” – and the narcissist KNOWS instinctively that everyone’s secretly afraid, at least on some level, of ending up completely alone and unloved in the world – whether we admit it or not.

Interestingly, the narcissist him or herself is also incredibly afraid of that – and it’s why you won’t often see a narcissist who is single for too long. They inevitably tend to grab hold of one branch before they let go of the last one – and to avoid confusion here, I mean that most narcissists will secure a new form of supply before letting you go – and honestly they will often run parallel relationships in order to avoid being alone.

That’s part of the reason you might be dealing with jealousy in a relationship with one – even if you don’t realize it.

How does jealousy fit into isolation and the toxic relationship dynamic?

In the case of a romantic situation, your narcissist may exhibit extreme jealousy when other potential suitors are near or involved in your life – whether you’d really “go there” or not isn’t an issue for the narcissist – if he or she feels threatened by someone, the jealousy will flair. But often, this is actually just a projection of their own indiscretions on to you – as in, the narcissist is cheating on you or considering it, so of course they become hyper-vigilant.

Now, on the flip side of this, the narcissist will scream at you, tell you you’re insane, or otherwise invalidate you if you even ask a single question about their dealings with potential suitors for them – so, you end up dealing with the sickening feelings of betrayal alone – and you secretly wonder if maybe he or she is right and you’re really a nutjob.

Hint: you probably aren’t. They will call you jealous, crazy, etc. Say you’re making things up in your head – you know the drill. Just remember that listening to your gut means tuning into your intuition, your divine self, and your divine connection to your higher power, or the universe. So don’t ignore it – and trust yourself when you feel something strongly.

So, why does this make you wanna be alone all the time?

Well, it starts with the fact that you’re likely an empath – most of the time, when you tend to attract narcissists, you have the ability to really “feel” what everyone around you feels, and this is especially true with someone you love and/or spend a lot of time with.

You’re emotionally and psychologically overloaded.

You might be experiencing overwhelming emotional exhaustion, leading to some potentially devastating side effects. So, when the narcissist is overwhelming you with the pressure of being responsible for his or her emotions, you are forever spinning, trying to fix them. And it’s freaking exhausting!

You go into ‘Energy Saving’ mode.

The overwhelming responsibility of being the narcissist’s main source of supply can be soul-crushing. While you’re still in the relationship, you are so emotionally exhausted that you almost literally can not function like a normal human.

In an effort to prevent yourself from completely giving up, you probably find yourself sort of saving up your energy. You don’t want to talk to people about anything serious because you literally can’t handle one more straw on your proverbial camel’s back. So you begin to isolate yourself in order to recharge between abuse sessions with the narcissist. You might even stop doing your housework and taking care of other basic adult responsibilities as part of your effort to have your emotional downtime.

Loneliness = emotional safety.

Staying lonely means not being hurt anymore. You might have started to feel like you can’t really depend on anyone, and that there’s no one you can trust. During the relationship, you’ll feel lonely, partially due to the narcissist’s efforts to isolate you, and partially due to their lack of connection with you.

And if you manage to navigate your way out of the relationship, you might continue to isolate, either out of habit or out of a need to try and protect yourself from more narcissists in the world – or both – and even though you feel lonely sometimes, you may choose to remain alone just for the peace of it.

And who could blame you? But you’ll eventually get to the point where you want to change the situation and you realize you’ve forgotten how to even be in a relationship – you might find that you prefer to avoid any intimate connections in order to protect your heart. And this can even be the case if your narcissist was your parent.

You trust no one, not even yourself.

Being with a narcissist tends to not only cause you to distrust yourself – but also the whole world around you. And when you do try to change the situation, you might feel paralyzed and overwhelmed – see what I mean?

What are the steps to reconnecting with people after isolation in a toxic relationship?

Admit what you’ve been through.

You have to admit to yourself that you are or were in a codependent relationship with a toxic narcissist. You have to acknowledge that you were mentally and emotionally abused and manipulated, and then you have to begin to understand why it happened.

And, eventually, while you did play a role in the relationship and need to take responsibility for that, you are going to have to realize that it really IS NOT your fault – you really did get pulled into this stuff under false pretenses, and that you have the option and the right to change this whole deal – and yes, this EVEN APPLIES WHEN FAMILY IS INVOLVED.

Remember that you have rights and responsibilities in your own healing.

You have the right to feel peace. You have the right to feel loved. You have the right to DETERMINE who you are, the opportunity to decide what happens from here on out – and the responsibility to change your life for the better – not just for yourself, but also for the people you love. You feel me?

Challenge yourself to dig deeper and take back your life!

Try this challenge to recognize what Now, it’s time to challenge yourself – grab a pen, or open up a text document real quick (or hey – why not just leave it in a comment below?).

Anyway, I want you to ask yourself a few questions and I want you to be brutally honest with yourself when you answer.

  1. First, are you ready to admit what you’re dealing with?
  2. Can you figure out what unconscious motives might have led you to choose this person, and what can you do to do better for yourself next time?
  3. Could your parent or other significant people in your childhood have had narcissistic tendencies?
  4. Do you base your self-worth on being connected to someone who has some status or power? Do you prefer to be passive and let someone else make the decisions?
  5. Do you feel like you’re not good enough? Do you think that your negative self-image could be a direct result of what others have told you about yourself, and not actually the truth? (Hint: literally all of the survivors I’ve met are actually amazing people – attractive, talented and well-spoken – but they’ve been beaten down so much by the narcissist in their lives that they have forgotten this stuff – maybe you just need to take another look without the mask of what everyone else thinks over your eyes?).

The Narcissist’s Fragile Ego Can’t Support the False Self Image Alone

Look, here’s the deal – narcissists might seem all tough and whatnot, but the truth is that they are all secretly quite fragile in their self-confidence – their egos are being held up quite precariously in most cases – and when challenged, they’ll do everything in their power to step on your head and keep you down…whether you were the challenger or not – remember, in a lot of cases, the people outside of the home or the situation aren’t aware of this side of the narcissist – they just see the happy, fun and easy to be around guy or gal they see at work or around town.

You begin to serve as the narcissist’s emotional dumpster.

They’d be shocked if they knew the truth, wouldn’t they? But that means that the narcissist must unload his or her venom on you and/or their other primary sources of narcissistic supply in order to maintain the guise – haven’t you ever noticed how, just after completely decimating you in a gaslighting episode or a narcissistic rage rant, the narcissist seems relaxed, happy – even jovial? Meanwhile, you’re in pieces, torn apart, dissociating, and probably incapable of normal function as you have to work through the pain on your own.

You probably don’t even talk to many people about it anymore, because it’s too exhausting, and because there’s really no point – most people just don’t get it.

You get really independent and forget to ask for help.

So, you learn to function this way – you handle your struggles alone, and you start to prefer it. You learn to go it alone – and your first instinct when any issue occurs is to hole up by yourself and figure it out.

It’s not your fault the narcissist is so toxic and it’s not anything you can change – so as always, I’m going to tell you to focus on what you CAN control – not what you can’t.

How do you facilitate taking back your life after narcissistic abuse?

So, even if you’re still stuck in the relationship, you can control your own perception – so start seeing this as an intellectual issue. For example, you can sort of study your narcissist as though he or she is a scientific experiment. Learn to label the specific behaviors and move forward.

Start working on your own personal development – start figuring out what you really believe, and what you really want in your life. Practice self-love, or at the very least, self-compassion – and get involved with a support system. You can start with joining my SPAN group – it’s private, free and totally confidential – visit QueenBeeing.com/SPAN to join or learn more.

A few more quick tips:

  1. Skip the sappy songs for awhile and only listen to happy music. Obvious reasons – your vibe being the primary one. I literally organize my playlists by mood/emotion. It works for me – I can choose based on my energy at the moment.
  2. Watch inspiring movies. I like to watch girl power-type movies, which for me often include stuff that shows women who are both “girly” and crazy smart – because, as you might imagine, it’s one of those things I’ve struggled with in life. Often, people assume that because I like to doll myself up and that I’m an out-and-proud girly-girl that I must also be a dumb blonde. Oh yeah. Gotta love that stuff – but that’s a whole other topic for a whole other day – in any case, movies like Legally Blonde are more empowering than you might think. Find your version of that and give it a go — see how it works for you!
  3. If you need to mourn, just do it! This is what you need to do sometimes. Just limit the amount of time you let yourself wallow, and then decide to keep moving forward into your new, better life. I like to use anywhere from a few hours to a week or two, depending on the severity of it. (A few hours for a particularly painful argument, for example – up to a week or two for a death in the family or a divorce kind of situation).
  4. Find something to do. I don’t care if you start knitting or you take swimming lessons – or if you have an amazing singing and guitar playing talent, you can start a little music career (or a big one!!) on the side. You’ve got to accept and maintain a new, forward-looking focus if you’re ever going to heal. PLUS: this gives you the opportunity to meet people who might be interested in some of the same things you are!

Okay, now it’s your turn – have you experienced narcissistic abuse? Are you still “in it” or have you moved on, whether or not you actually chose to end it yourself? Have you struggled with this stuff, and if so, how are you dealing?

Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below – you never know who you might help.

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Why I Didn’t Argue When a YouTube Viewer Called Me a Narcissist

Why I Didn’t Argue When a YouTube Viewer Called Me a Narcissist

Has someone called you a narcissist, and you don’t believe you fit the bill? I’ve been there – and I’m about to fill you in on a situation that has recently occurred over on my YouTube channel‘s comments section.

You guessed it – I have occasional commenters who claim that I must be a narcissist – obviously, because it’s not possible to understand anyone’s psychology unless you ARE one of those people, right?

Pardon my sarcasm there, but the fact is that MOST people who communicate with me understand where I’m coming from. Generally, those who don’t understand me have a good reason for it – choice or difference in opinion – and maybe, at times, I hit a bit too close to home. Who knows? In any case, I’m once again addressing this silly issue.

In this video, I’ll address these comments – and I’ll fill you in on WHY I won’t argue with people who attempt to label me a narcissist.

“Discussion is an exchange of knowledge; an argument an exchange of ignorance.” ~Robert Quillen

“People’s minds are changed through observation and not through argument.” ~Will Rogers

Look, healthy narcissism is self-focus, self-confidence, self-interest and personal drive, but these qualities must coexist with a healthy concern for others and the ability to genuinely empathize with them.

Unhealthy, toxic narcissism and NPD involve the lack of empathy and concern for others, combined with an unhealthy amount of self-focus. And of course, this kind of narcissistic person is secretly quite insecure and very troubled, in some cases – but you may never know that unless you look beyond the smoke and mirrors.

So, watch that video and let me know what you think. Am I a narcissist? Go ahead, hit me with it. I can take it.



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