Find Your Passion at Any Age! 11 Famous People Who Prove It’s Never Too Late

Find Your Passion at Any Age! 11 Famous People Who Prove It’s Never Too Late

Often, my clients who are recovering from narcissistic abuse tell me that they don’t even know who they are anymore – and even if they do, they all think they’re too old to start something new.

Still, sometimes life forces you to start over – and that’s especially true when you leave a toxic relationship. So lemme ask you….
Do you feel like it’s too late to achieve a significant amount of success? Many of the most successful people did start at a young age. It can be disheartening for the late bloomers among us. But many of the most successful people you know didn’t get started until much later in life. If you think you missed the boat because you’re middle-aged, you couldn’t be more wrong. You’re wrong even if you’re 80. Success often isn’t achieved until later in life.

1. Samuel L. Jackson didn’t get his first big role until the age of 43. Prior to that he was a struggling actor with little future. Now he’s known by people all over the world for his acting. How many movies, TV shows, and video games has he been in since that first big role in Jungle Fever? 140!

2. Sam Walton founded Wal-Mart at the age of 44. He had been successful in the retail environment in his younger years, but nothing out of the ordinary. Wal-Mart went on to become one the biggest companies in the world, and Walton become one of the world’s richest.

3. Stan Lee. Known to everyone as the creator of Spiderman and the X-Men, Stan Lee didn’t experience success until the age of 39. And his most well-known work didn’t occur until several years after that. Who says it’s too late to do something incredible with your life?

4. Ronald Reagan never held a political office until the age of 55! He became one of the most popular presidents in modern history.

5. Colonel Sanders didn’t invent his famous chicken recipe until he was 50. His famous chain of restaurants is still doing well today. His likeness has been used to market KFC since the very beginning.

6. College students everywhere owe a debt of thanks to Momofuku Ando. At the age of 48, he created those Ramen noodles that poor students rely on for life itself. How many times have you had Ramen noodles in your life?

7. Charles Darwin wrote On the Origin of Species at the age of 50. No book has had a greater effect on the theory of evolution than Charles Darwin’s iconic book.

8. Taikichiro Mori became a real estate investor at the age of 55. He was a professor before that. He was the richest man in the world in 1992 with a net worth $13 billion. He inherited his first building from his father. The rest he accomplished on his own.

9. Grandma Moses started painting at the age of 78. If you have the gumption, you can still make an impact after 70. One of her paintings sold for over a million dollars.

10. Laura Ingalls Wilder didn’t publish her first novel until she was 65-years old. She wrote an additional 12 novels after that. A successful television series was built around her series of books. Older children still read her books today.

11. Peter Roget created the first thesaurus when he was 73-years old. He was trained as a medical doctor but had an obsession with words, especially words that had the same meaning. He quit his medical career to focus on the creation of the first thesaurus. The most popular thesaurus in the world still bears his name.

It’s never too late to leave your mark on the world! But time is constantly passing, so it’s time to start making it happen. Spend the later portion of your life pursuing something you love. There’s still time to do something amazing!

Knowledge is Power: 4 Important NPD Statistics Survivors Need to Know

Knowledge is Power: 4 Important NPD Statistics Survivors Need to Know

Did you know that understanding the nature of (not to mention the statistics about) narcissistic personality disorder can be really useful for you if you’re a survivor of narcissistic abuse in a relationship?

It’s true!

But why does knowing about NPD, narcissism and narcissistic abuse help in recovery?

Oh, you mean besides the fact that it can help to create better outcomes for you as a survivor?

Yes, I mean that literally – and that is, according to one study I read, “in addition to creating improved outcomes for those who are suffering with this mental health condition.”

How about that? So, in the spirit of creating added understanding, the following are important statistics about narcissistic personality disorder that may be helpful for you if you’re struggling with narcissistic abuse and gaslighting – and they will help you by teaching you to understand and identify the issue – that is, like I always say, the very first step to recovery.

  1. NPD is estimated to have affected 1% in the general population and 2-16% in clinical populations.
  2. A study was published in 2009 that suggests the incidence of NPD had more than doubled in the US in the prior 10 years, and that 1 in 16 of the population have experienced NPD.
  3. Anecdotal evidence suggests that narcissists may be common within the financial sector as they are “able to make quick, bold decisions without any thought for the consequences these might have on other people.” (Donald Trump, anyone?)
  4. Narcissistic personality disorder can be co-morbid with DSM Axis 1 major depressive disorders.

What new things have you learned about narcissists lately?

Share your knowledge and experiences in the comments below – or tell me what you need to learn about so I can cover it in an upcoming post!

RED FLAGS: Top 14 Early Warning Signs You’re Dating a Narcissist

RED FLAGS: Top 14 Early Warning Signs You’re Dating a Narcissist

“Since narcissism is fueled by a greater need to be admired than to be liked, psychologists might use that fact as a therapeutic lever – stressing to patients that being known as a narcissist will actually cause them to lose the respect and social status they crave.” ~Jeffrey Kluger

So, you’ve found a new love, and something just doesn’t seem quite right. Maybe you’re beginning to wonder: is he/she a narcissist?

Top 14 Early Warning Signs You’re Dating a Narcissist

Here are the top 14 early warning signs that you’re dating a narcissist. Don’t let yourself fall in love with the person the narcissist claims to be.

Read my book on narcissism: Take Back Your Life: 103 Highly-Effective Strategies to Snuff Out a Narcissist’s Gaslighting and Enjoy the Happy Life You Really Deserve

RED FLAG #1: They Throw Out the “L” Word Too Fast

It’s easy to get caught up in the manipulative web of a narcissist, especially when they’re on their best behavior, putting you on a pedestal and idealizing you. That’s almost certainly where they’re going to be early in the relationship.

They’ll say “I love you” very soon, or they’ll tell you it was love at first sight. This is often also the time they’ll employ the “love bombing” technique, in which you start to get that soulmate vibe. He’ll start to seem like the person you’ve been searching for your whole life. It’ll seem too good to be true (because, sadly, it is, in this case).

Read more: Narcissist’s Soulmate Scam: The Love Bomber

RED FLAG #2: They Are a Little Too Concerned for Your Well-Being

Many narcissists are prone to making their romantic partners dependent on them. They accomplish this by doing things for you (such as cooking, cleaning or other little chores), or through controlling your daily activities and monitoring your activities.

Early in a relationship, this could seem like genuine concern, but if you stick around, it’ll turn into something very sinister. See, they want to put you in this place where they become so important in your life that you can’t let go of them, even if you want to. Then, they control you with threats of abandonment and fear.

RED FLAG #3: They Want Every Second of Your Time

They’re so in love with you, so fast, and they want so much of your time! The narcissist just can’t get enough of you, and they’re not afraid to say it.  It starts with constant texts or phone calls, and pretty soon, he can’t stand to be away from you. He starts to expect to spend time with you when he wants it, and he gets moody or distant if you can’t be with him when he demands it.

This leads to another red flag to watch for.

RED FLAG #4: They Get Angry When You Can’t See Spend Time With Them

You start to feel worried about how you’re going to avoid upsetting the narcissist when you have other plans, so you might even stop making plans without talking to them first. This is another way he starts to weave that web of control very early in the relationship; what first appears to be the loving desire to be together is really just his need to control every aspect of your life.

It’s healthy to have friends and connections outside of your relationship with your significant other. If you give in to the need to please a narcissist, and you go ahead and “wait” for them to tell you what you’re doing, you’re doing yourself a big disservice. Why? Because you’re just handing over more control of yourself and your choices. The narcissist uses their anger and your fear of being alone as a way to control your time. This, of course, can lead to him isolating you entirely from others in the future. Be careful.

Read more: Inside the Twisted Mind of a Narcissist

RED FLAG #5: They Are Extremely or Excessively Critical of Others in Their Life

The narcissist often shocks you with their extreme criticisms of the people in their life – whether it’s their parents or siblings or friends, neighbors or co-workers, they’ve always got strong opinions about people and how “worthy” they are. No one is immune.

If they have kids or are involved with kids, you’ll see the narcissist become very controlling and critical of them, alternating with seeing them as perfect reflections of themselves. He might also be critical of others’ parenting choices, whether or not he’s actually a parent.

This can also lend a glimpse into the future. Do you want to have kids with this guy? If you already have kids, do you want him to be parenting them? How would you feel if he criticized your mother or your best friend this way? Things to consider – they will happen if you stick around with a narcissist.

Read more: Understanding Narcissistic Rage

RED FLAG #6: They Treat Their Mother Like She Doesn’t Matter – Or She Can Do No Wrong

If you happen to meet a narcissist’s mother (or mother-figure), you might notice that they are very rude to her and they treat her with little respect. She might not even bat an eyelash at it, or she might playfully jab them back, depending on their relationship. This can alternate with periods of the narcissist putting their mother on a pedestal, idealizing her and imagining that their relationship’s perfect, and she can do no wrong.

But especially if you’re involved with a male narcissist, while you initially dismiss this as “just how their relationship is” and start to consider it almost endearing, if you look a little closer (or in hindsight), you might just catch a glimpse of how your future could sound, if you stick around. Speaking of which, on to the next point.

RED FLAG #7: They Claim to Have a Crazy Ex

We’ve all met a guy or girl who has a crazy ex. But when you’ve got a narcissist on your hands, you’ll see early in the relationship that they almost always tell you some horror stories about the ex.

They might say their ex cheated or verbally abused them. They might claim that their ex was physically abusive, often hitting them, or that they were emotionally abusive, constantly tormenting them. They might even hit say the ex was very, very stupid. Or any number of things – you’ll end up feeling sorry for them and that’s their goal because when you feel that way, you’ll find yourself doing anything in your power to actually avoid being “like the ex.”

This means that the narcissist is actually conditioning you by subtly telling you what they don’t want – and by attaching emotional pain to the incidents, they set you up to be “just like the ex” when they get past the initial love bombing or idealization phase of the relationship. You’ll spend the rest of the relationship following these unwritten rules without even realizing it.

RED FLAG #8: They Point Out All the Things About You That Are Better Than the Ex

Now that you know how awful the ex was, the narcissist is ready to start idealizing you and putting you on a pedestal. They’re going to spend some time identifying the things about you that they love because they’re so different than the ex. And, you’ll go out of your way to prove that you’re NOTHING like that crazy, horrible person. So as I mentioned, the conditioning continues, and the narcissist wins. You’re fully in place and set up to try to start conforming yourself to the narcissist’s desires. This is another way they begin to take control of you.

RED FLAG #9: They’ve Got a Great Sob Story, and They Aren’t Afraid to Tell It!

A narcissist often has a great sob story to tell – or several. Maybe their parents died when they were young, or their awful ex cheated on them. Maybe they’ve lost everything and overcome it, or survived an abusive childhood or some big tragedy. Whatever the story is, you probably heard it on or around your first date. The narcissist would’ve pretended to open up to you, to share their deep, dark feelings. You might have totally fallen for it and quickly developed almost protective feelings about the narcissist. Here’s where it gets weird.

The narcissist does this for a couple of reasons – first because your pity and feeling of protectiveness gives them narcissistic supply, and worse, they want to then to draw you in and make you WANT TO TAKE CARE OF THEM – and you know what that is, right?  It’s yet another way the narcissist wants to control you. This brings me to my next point.

RED FLAG #10: The Narcissist Remains Blameless in All Situations

A narcissist is unable to accept blame, ever, for their behaviors and the effect of these behaviors on the people around them. Early in a relationship, they will often tell stories in which they are the innocent victim being used/abused/screwed over by someone. Yes, the narcissist loves the “poor me” game, also known as narcissistic injury.

Since the narcissist is playing a victim, you will find yourself playing the hero again. You’ll want to protect or take care of them by constantly reassuring them of your loyalty/honesty/dedication/devotion. And guess what? The narcissist gets a little more control of your world.  Of course, as the relationship moves forward, they’ll start blaming you and you’ll become their favorite scapegoat if you stick around. Be warned.

RED FLAG #11: They Claim to Have a Lot of Special Accomplishments, and They Need You To Praise Them 

When a narcissist is not whining about their poor little self and heralding their ability to survive such terrible odds, they’re probably telling you fantastic stories about themselves and their friends.

At first, you enjoy the stories, not realizing that they’re so well-rehearsed and probably only half true. Over time, you’ll hear the same stories, again and again, and potentially in various iterations. And if you don’t listen, act super interested and praise appropriately? You can expect that they might just throw a little narcissistic rage and/or narcissistic injury your way.

This never ends. So if you’re going to stick it out, be prepared to heap the praise on him, unconditionally. It is exhausting.

RED FLAG #12: They Might Have Substance Abuse or Explicit Video Addiction Issues

Not all narcissists are substance abusers and not all substance abusers are narcissists. Same deal with gaming and explicit video addicts. But if you’re dating a substance abuser or a gaming/video addict, you might want to take a second look and peer a little deeper. Even so, you’re probably not going to see this early in a relationship unless you’re really watching for it. Be careful. A lot of narcissists do deal with drug and alcohol problems, as do many abuse victims – just for different reasons. And a large percentage have issues with explicit video addiction. Maybe it’s due to their need for attention or excess, or maybe it’s just because most narcissists secretly hate themselves and need to numb out on the regular.

Either way, it’s a red flag and an indication that the person you’re dating is quite toxic.

RED FLAG #13: They Somehow Always Brings the Subject Back to Themselves 

ME, ME, ME, It’s all about ME! The narcissist rarely stops singing their own praises. At first, you thought it was cute, how self-confident they were, but now it’s getting annoying. Maybe you read some dating advice that told you to make it all about them in the beginning, and sometimes, this does work. I mean, after all – who doesn’t like to talk about themselves? But when they don’t try to learn about you, too, or even when they simply interrupt every story you tell with a story of their own, it’s a red flag.

Narcissists are well-known for their inability to listen to anything or anyone they deem “less than” or unworthy of their precious attention – and they tend to wait while you speak, rather than listen. They’re waiting for their turn to say what they want to say – and often, it won’t follow the conversation because they weren’t actually listening at all. And yet, maybe a bit ironically, if they don’t have the opportunity to say what they want, they may interject or even just get upset and pout. As the relationship goes on, they’ll literally tell you they don’t care what you have to say and nearly require you to listen to them, even sort of quizzing you afterward to check that you were listening.

RED FLAG #14: They are oddly and easily upset by small things. 

Even though the narcissist attempts to keep his childish ways under wraps during your courtship, if you look closely, you’ll see little signs of toxic narcissism peeking through – and one of the most obvious is that they are quickly, easily, and excessively upset about things that don’t really matter to most people.

For example, they may be overly rude to waiters or salespeople, or they may treat the lawn guy with contempt. They take things very personally and often enact unreasonably harsh reactions.  At first, you figure it’s righteous anger, and you go about trying to support them emotionally and provide the love they’ve been missing. You think you can fix them – and you try really, really hard. Maybe for years or decades. But you can’t fix a narcissist. See, while in theory, it is possible for a narcissist to change, in reality, they do not change – at least not for the better.

Do you see any of these qualities in someone you’re currently dating or in a relationship with? What would you add to this list? Share your thoughts in the comments, below. Let’s discuss it. 

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