I read something recently about how women and girls in today’s society seem to have increasingly lower self esteem today. The media and our society teach us to hate ourselves.
But it doesn’t stop there. Mothers tend to pass these poor self-image tendencies to their daughters, whether intentionally or not. That’s pretty scary, if you ask me–and their sons can’t be far behind.
It bothers me that this is an issue at all, but I do see some positive changes in the media these days.
For example, the “Dove girls” have been around for several years now. They are “average” looking women who model in their unmentionables to showcase “real beauty.”
Real beauty matters, and it’s totally true that many plus-sized women are gorgeous–but being healthy is still important, and that means different things for different people. But, in my opinion, it’s all about feeling good–when you feel good, you can’t help but look good.
Obviously, we can’t all look like the airbrushed models we see, but we should still strive to be our personal best. Still, that brings us back to the main issue–where do we draw the line?
As for my daughter, I tell her every day that she is beautiful and amazing and smart and strong–and I try to point out her successes as often as possible. I’m not perfect by any means, but I hope that my efforts will continue to help her form a strong sense of self-esteem over the years. So far, so good.
Where do you draw the line? And what do (will) you tell your daughters and sons about their bodies? Tell me in the comments section, below.
Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
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