#IfMyWoundsWereVisible: Why You Should Care

#IfMyWoundsWereVisible: Why You Should Care

If you’ve ever experienced narcissistic abuse, you know it’s very real and common in not only romantic relationships but also toxic family relationships, friendships, and even work relationships.

And whether you’re a mental health professional or someone suffering from narcissistic abuse in a toxic relationship, World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day can become a catalyst to help you identify and address your underlying issues.

What is World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day?

World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day (WNAAD) is June 1st. Established in 2016, WNAAD is a growing global movement dedicated to raising the profile of narcissistic abuse, providing public pathology education and resources for survivors, and effecting policy change. WNAAD is an international event that is recognized worldwide.

What is narcissistic abuse?

Narcissistic abuse is a form of psychological and emotional abuse that pervasively destroys its victims from the inside out.

Using gaslighting and other manipulative tactics, narcissistic people use this form of abuse to control their victims.

Most narcissists are always seeking control, which they use on you to keep a constant source of narcissistic supply, on hand.

Unfortunately, it also leads to the mental and emotional destruction of another human being.

It’s so prevalent that many people who suffer from narcissistic abuse aren’t even aware that what they are experiencing is a legitimate form of abuse.

When they become aware they are being abused, many survivors have difficulty even describing it because it’s so hard to recognize.

Sadly, the impact of it often lingers long after the relationship has ended, and many survivors find themselves dealing with C-PTSD symptoms. 

Think you might be experiencing narcissistic abuse? Take our quick narcissistic abuse self-assessment and find out.


 Who established World Narcissistic Abuse Day and why? 

Bree Bonchay, a psychotherapist with nearly two decades of experience helping patients recover from trauma and abuse, founded World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day.

Bonchay is also a survivor, so when she realized that very few people knew about narcissistic abuse, she felt moved to take action to raise awareness. 

Her book, “I Am Free,” is a groundbreaking compilation that uses real-life stories to illustrate how survivors can escape unhealthy relationship dynamics.Meet Bree Bonchay, the founder, and discover why this day matters.

Talking World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day with Founder Bree Bonchay

Video: What is Narcissistic Abuse? Why Should You Care? With #WNAAD Founder Bree Bonchay

Why is World Narcissistic Awareness Day so important?

“Narcissistic abuse is such an under-recognized public health issue because describing what you can’t see or prove presents a huge challenge, and narcissists can easily present themselves as loving guardians and partners,” Bonchay said in a press release, noting that this is why she had chosen to use the hashtag #IfMyWoundsWereVisible.

“That’s more people than are affected by depression,” she said. “Yet there is a lack of public education and awareness campaigns about it.”

I would add that it’s highly likely that a significant percentage of people who are narcissistic abuse victims and survivors are also likely experiencing depression, which could make these statistics even more shocking. 

Think about how profound this is: If this were any other physical or mental health issue, it could qualify as a pandemic — underscoring the need for greater awareness.

“It’s important we raise awareness about narcissistic abuse not only to protect the individual victim but because ultimately it impacts us all,” she said. And this, my friends, is one of the many reasons we are here at QueenBeeing, doing what we do to serve our fellow survivors

What does the #IfMyWoundsWereVisible hashtag mean?

“We came up with the hashtag, #IfMyWoundsWereVisible, because, unlike physical abuse where a single strike or blow, narcissistic abue often leaves marks or bruises and qualifies an act of domestic violence, narcissistic abuse is invisible,” Bonchay said. “Narcissistic abuse is the sum of many unseen injuries.

Takeaway

World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day is an occasion to remember that abuse has no boundaries and that everyone should be informed about narcissism, narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), and narcissistic abuse recovery.

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SPANily members have asked for a private coaching & connection forum that would be away from Facebook. And, if you ask me? With good reason.

Their concerns:

  • Their abusers had access to their accounts or could see their activity
  • Their families and friends were asking questions about their groups
  • They didn’t want to share anything on Facebook
  • They had left Facebook to hide from their abusers

Plus, as many people noted, they sometimes felt triggered by those who were in different levels of recovery. 

For example, one survivor who was still in the discovery phase (she had just recognized the abuse) was upset by another survivor who was in the evolution phase because it made her feel hopeless about her own situation.

And several survivors who were early in the overcoming phase or early in their efforts to go and stay no contact found themselves triggered by people who were still in the relationships and still posting about what they were going through with their abusers.

That caused people to ask for a way to only see the posts that were relevant to certain stages of recovery. 

Facebook didn’t give us a simple way to do that, so when we found a way to both create recovery level groups AND a way to make a completely private and secure home for the SPANily, we jumped at it!

Since this setup isn’t free, we are asking the SPANily to help us out with a very small investment of just $3.99 a month. This covers both the cost of the platform as well as our coaches to support you and staff to help keep everything in order.

Still, a lot of SPANily members said they didn’t want to pay for something they couldn’t try out – and I totally get that! So, I talked it over with my team, and we decided to give you a free one-week membership trial so you can get a feel for the platform and how it works.

If you decide that you don’t want to continue, you can just let us know and you won’t be charged. Sound good?

Go ahead and try it out! Visit MySPANily.com to see what we’re doing over there. Can’t wait to hear what you think! See you at the SPANily home!

Narcissists Control You With Money: Financial Abuse in Toxic Relationships

Narcissists Control You With Money: Financial Abuse in Toxic Relationships


Narcissists Control You With Money: Financial Abuse in Toxic Relationships

In this video, I’m sharing the truth about narcissists and how they try to control you with money.

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