Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
Honeymooning and weight-loss willpower are kind of synonymous when it comes to getting in shape.
In the beginning I felt like I’m was in the “honeymoon” phase of my lifestyle change.
I was loving it, I was seeing it through rose colored glasses, I was like a kid on Christmas morning who just ripped open a toy store full of gifts and wanted to play with every single one at once.
Right now (still honeymooning) all is good, I’m right minded for the most part and I’m feeling positive. The workouts are fantastic and fun and I’m actually looking forward to doing them. I’m honeymooning with my lifestyle change.
Similarly, willpower gives me that “warm fuzzy feeling”. I can wake up and know I’m going to make good choices.
Honeymooning (aka Weight-Loss Will Power)
I have the will power to tell my colleague “no thanks, I don’t want that brownie” all three times she tries to shove them down my throat. Willpower gives me that spring in my step when I walk past the cafeteria and sit down with my prepacked lunch instead. Willpower is and can be a very positive thing.
Eventually the honeymoon is over and you have to get back to reality and normal life. Those new workout videos don’t stay new forever. Those brownies may not always take “no” for answer if you’re depending on willpower to get you through it.
The elliptical machine is now another piece of gym equipment, not the knight in shining armor it presented itself as in the beginning. So what do you do then? What do you do when you’re on the flight back home from your honeymoon? What do you do when willpower has petered out and it’s just you in the battle?
You get a plan.
You make a solid plan and you put it into action.
You figure out how you’re going to deal with it once the lifestyle change starts farting and leaving its dirty socks in the middle of the floor, 3 feet away from the laundry hamper.
You have it not only in your head, but in your direct line of vision where you can see it, read it, know it and do it.
When willpower is sitting in the recliner, hogging the remote, tempting you with just one more hour of “reality” you have a plan for yourself.
My plan of action is in the form of a list of ten things I could do instead of sitting and watching television, which sucks you in like a vacuum. They include things like walking the dog, painting my nails, doing a load of laundry, reading a book, writing an email, putting in an exercise game on the Wii and going to town.
My plan includes setting myself up for success by keeping foods that are temptresses where they belong, on the shelf in the grocery store and not in my cupboard.
My plan includes setting small goals for myself and keeping a chart of the ones I achieve.
Small Goals, Big Successes
Some small goals I like to give myself stickers for (yeah, I still get excited by the gold star system) are things like taking the stairs at work, eating fish at least three times a week, drinking water throughout the day and keeping myself down to one diet coke a day. Setting these small little goals and watching myself earn those stars can be very motivating!
Now I’m curious to hear about your plan of actions.
What are your “tricks of the trade”. How do you get up when weight-loss willpower has you down? How do you get yourself back into that honeymoon spirit? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section, below!