How to Deal with Narcissists

How to Deal with Narcissists


How to Deal with Narcissists Who Gaslight, Manipulate, and Verbally Abuse You – So, you’ve figured out that you’re involved in a toxic relationship with a narcissist. And you want to know exactly what you need to look for when it comes to being relentlessly mentally and emotionally tortured by the narcissist – you need to know how to deal with gaslighting. Knowledge is power, and understanding what you’re dealing with can even the playing field when it comes to dealing with a narcissist.

Whether you’re married to a narcissist, you’re employed by one or you’re otherwise related to one, any sort of involvement with a narcissist or a person with narcissistic personality disorder can become incredibly toxic and overwhelming for the people who are in the position of being a narcissistic supply.

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Emotional Mastery for Happiness

Emotional Mastery for Happiness

Emotions control much of what happens throughout both our individual lives and in the world. Entire wars have begun as a result of human emotions. We make decisions about whether to get married or divorced based on our emotions. Ideas and inventions, passions, and hobbies are all driven by emotion, part of our internal drive to change the way we feel.

Emotional states affect our daily attitudes, thoughts, and behaviors. If we don’t take control of our emotional states, many other aspects of our lives will be out of control as well.

Mastering your emotional state is an essential element to achieving success, contentment, fulfillment, and happiness.

Learn how you can master your emotional states with the easy strategies in this guide.

Change Your Story

Everyone has one. Even you.

There are individual differences in what people decide to do with their story. What enables one person to experience personal trauma and tragedy and then decide to use it to their advantage in life, while that same situation makes another person feel like life is not worth living?

Some of the most incredible, happy people have experienced great personal tragedies.

On the flip side, people with every advantage in the world sometimes squander it and spend their days in addiction rehab centers as a result of drugs and/or alcohol.

What story are you telling yourself?

Ask yourself these questions:

  • Is the status quo in your life just the way it’s always been and there’s nothing that can change it?
  • Or, on the other hand, is there some way that you can you use your experiences to propel you forward toward greater success and happiness? How?

If your current story doesn’t serve you, then change it!

Beginning to change your story involves figuring out the meaning of events and issues in your life. It also means challenging the current story you have in your head and figuring out your life’s purpose.

Let your story encourage you to take action to make your dreams come true. When you’re living your life’s purpose, you’ll find greater contentment as you pursue your passions and arrange your life around what’s most important to you.

Practice Self-Awareness

Changing your story requires you to look back into your past. But what about the present? How do you control your emotions on a daily basis in your regular routines? For this part of your emotional mastery, practice self-awareness.

There are certain automatic thoughts that all people have that go a long way in dictating their emotional states.

For example, how do you feel when someone cuts you off on the highway? Do you allow yourself to become angry and upset? What about when you get a flat tire or you don’t get that promotion at work?

Use these strategies to become more self-aware and take charge of your thoughts:

  1. Notice what you’re thinking. Monitoring your automatic thoughts and becoming aware of when these thoughts begin is critical to begin changing them.
  2. Assign a different meaning to things that bring on negative thoughts.
    • For example, what does it mean when someone cuts you off on the highway?
    • Instead of being angry, one way you can think about it is by reminding yourself that not all drivers are courteous as you think they should be. Plus, realize that you don’t know their situation. Perhaps they have an emergency.
    • These new thoughts diffuse your anger so you can let it go and move on.

 When you control what’s going through your mind at any given moment, you’ve put yourself back in charge of your emotions.

Just as you can adjust your story to support you, by practicing self-awareness you can alter your current thoughts to support you, too!

Practice Gratefulness

Research has shown that gratitude goes a long way towards achieving a state of happiness. In fact, it’s hard not to be happy when you’re feeling grateful.

When you live in a state of gratitude, you’re also more likely to show prosocial, helping behaviors. Others tend to reciprocate such behaviors, and you end up with a circle of greater happiness for everyone involved!

You can practice gratefulness in many different ways.

Consider these methods:

  1. Spend five to ten minutes in quiet meditation and focus on the different things you’re grateful for in your life.
  2. Uplift someone. Another is by going out of your way each day to compliment or thank someone, without expecting any recognition in return.
  3. Help others. Spend time volunteering at food pantries or homeless shelters.

When we start taking small steps on a regular, daily basis to take control of our emotional states, we become more skilled in emotional fitness. Emotional fitness and awareness cultivates maturity, astuteness, and success, and can make a positive difference in your overall quality of life.

When Narcissists Use Flying Monkeys to Facilitate Smear Campaigns (Featuring Richard Grannon)

When Narcissists Use Flying Monkeys to Facilitate Smear Campaigns (Featuring Richard Grannon)


Richard Grannon and Angie give their thoughts on why narcissists use flying monkeys for their smear campaigns – plus how you can deal with painful smear campaigns that narcissists use against you to humiliate and further abuse you.

A quick and dirty definition of a narcissist’s “flying monkey” is a person who does the narcissist’s bidding for them. Sometimes, these flying monkeys are unaware of their role in the narcissist’s puppet show – you know, the stage they set for their gaslighting manipulation and preferred state of drama. Other times, they’re “in on it” with them.

When Narcissists Attack You for Being Upset By Their Abuse

When Narcissists Attack You for Being Upset By Their Abuse

Ever have a narcissist attack you for feeling upset by their abuse, or for not being over it fast enough? This is how you navigate that situation and outsmart the narcissist.

Ever have a narcissist do something that righteously angered you, hurt your feelings or otherwise upset you, and then get angry at you for your feelings? In this video, I’ll explain what this is and how to navigate the “get over it” trap.

You might see narcissistic rage, narcissistic injury and the poor me act, intermingled with gaslighting and other forms of manipulation, but never, ever will you catch a narcissist actually taking responsibility for their behavior and validating your feelings. Plus, I’ll teach you how to literally outsmart the narcissist.

Let Bygones Be Bygones RIGHT NOW! When Narcissists Attack You for Righteous Anger & Feeling Hurt

How to Avoid Relapsing on No Contact: 7 Ways to Ensure You Stick It Out

How to Avoid Relapsing on No Contact: 7 Ways to Ensure You Stick It Out

How can you ensure that you don’t break no contact? Here are my best tips and some free resources that can help.

1. Make sure you tell someone you’re going no contact, and that you touch base with them each day. Accountability is intensely helpful – consider this person sort of your “no contact” buddy. If you don’t have a friend or family member you can trust, join an online support group like SPAN and report your success daily! Join SPAN at QueenBeeing.com/SPAN

2. Make a list of all the reasons you’re going no contact, and put it somewhere you can easily access it for those tough moments. Pull it out anytime you feel weak and remind yourself why you’re doing this! Consider having a copy of it on your phone, too – just in case you need it when you’re not at home.

3. Go to QueenBeeing.com/60days and download your free no-contact calendar. The calendar is filled with activities to keep you on track during the early days of no-contact.

4. Take your time and allow your emotions to flow – but not forever. I suggest setting an end-date on your mourning. Choose any day you like, but never longer than 30 days. I suggest anywhere from a weekend to a month, depending on the length and nature of the relationship. When the “mourning phase” is done, decide that it’s time to start your life over again – and really do it!

5. Start focusing on yourself. Consider getting a new look, and start focusing on your passion. Not sure what that is, exactly? Visit QueenBeeing.com/passion and download your free Passion Finder.

6. Get out of the house! When you’re ready, get out and do something different. Check out meetup.com and find a group that shares an interest you have – and be social. It’ll feel weird at first, but even casual contact with the outside world can be so healthy for you. If you need it, there’s an online course at Life Makeover Academy you can take to revamp your social life. Take the course, right here.  Or, try this 3-pack of courses to help you get through it – this one includes a 30-day empowerment bootcamp that you can do in the comfort of your home. 

7. Remember that going no contact opens your life for new and better relationships, once you’ve healed. None of us are getting any younger – and don’t you deserve to be happy? Keep your end goals in mind. Even though it feels easier sometimes to go back to what you know, in the long run, you will be glad you stayed no contact. Trust me.

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