Don’t get sucked back in by a narcissist this Valentine’s Day! Avoid Getting Hoovered on Valentine’s Day: Narcissistic Hoovering Video Compilation & Booster Shot
Narcissists are sneaky, but they’re human too (as far as we can tell!). And like most people, they tend to think about their exes on Valentine’s day – and that often includes making attempts to get back together, even if only for a short time.
This year, I suggest that you avoid getting sucked back in! If you really want to take your life back, you’ve got to start by holding on to your independence, even when you feel weak.
Since Valentine’s day with a narcissist (or without one) can be so painful, it’s time to take back this day! This year, watch this compilation video and remind yourself WHY YOU DON”T WANT THAT NARCISSIST BACK!
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But one population is being nearly ignored by so many in society that it’s shocking – and I’m talking about gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people who are in toxic relationships with abusive narcissists – and apparently, this happens more often than we know.
I’ve learned a lot so far, and I’m planning to learn more – so today, I’m announcing a new campaign for QueenBeeing.com – an LGBT Outreach and Awareness program.
Where this started, who I’m working with and how it all came to be:
A member of SPAN, Sue B., reached out to me and asked if I’d be interested in covering toxic narcissistic abuse in gay and lesbian relationships – and when she offered to help, I jumped at the opportunity to work with her on this.
It’s time to tear the masks off our eyes, people. It is absolutely unacceptable that so many people in the LGBT community are being ignored and under-served when they are in narcissistic abuse situations and toxic relationships that are destroying them, bit by bit.
Every human on the planet, regardless of race, culture, creed, sex, income, weight or zip code deserves to come home to a place where they are treated with respect – and where they’re not subjected to constant mental and emotional torture.
In this video, I’ll share Sue’s thoughts with you on how being in a lesbian relationship is different than a straight relationship and what that looks like. Plus , I’ll share her thoughts on career lesbians who “you could spot “based on their ambitions,” and lesbians like Sue, who she says, wanted kids – and due to her own narcissistic abuse survivor issues – married men. We’ll also touch on lesbians who Sue says probably never wanted kids because it was never presented as an option or it would interfere with their lesbian identity.
“I have met a lot of women who are similar who could not come out till they felt safe,” Sue says. “Being a lesbian or queer means you always have a vulnerability. And in some cases a secret because you are not the ‘norm’ but also because you never know when someone is going to misquote the Bible to you while they discriminate against you.”
Have you ever been to a strip club? I have, once. It was a decade ago during my bachelorette party.
And to be honest, it wasn’t my cuppa tea. It was an experience that left me well-aware of the differences between men and women when it comes to visual stimulus.
I saw both male and female strippers that night and somehow left the club feeling sorry for the ladies.
Even though the men were doing essentially the same thing, there seemed to be an almost sad energy around the ladies, almost one of numbness countered by desperation.
As you might have guessed, many female exotic dancers suffer from low self-esteem. According to researchers, this is at least in part due to the fact that theit jobs carry such a big stigma.
Recently, new researh was published by Maren Scull, an instructor of Sociology in the CU Denver College of Liberal Arts and Sciences.
Scull has conducted research on the motivation behind male strippers commitment to stripping and the effect their occupation has on the way they view themselves. And her results were kind of shocking.
“Because stripping is a stigmatizing occupation, it has the capacity to negatively affect exotic dancers’ self-definitions,” Scull said in a press release. “I looked into what motivates men to continue dancing and found that stripping led to feelings of mattering, mastery and enhanced self-esteem.”
After spending two years studying male strippers, Scull realized something profound: though female strippers are most likely to continue their work for the money, it’s all about the confidence boost for the guys, who reportedly earn much less per shift than their female counterparts.
“Initially women who dance for men may experience a boost in self-esteem, but after time they suffer from a diminished self-concept,” Scull said. “My research finds that men who dance for women generally experience positive feelings of self-worth. So much so, that men will continue to strip even when it is no longer financially lucrative.”
She added that this could be due to the fact that men and women typically have different feelings about being objectified as sex objects. Men like it and take it as a compliment while women find it oppressive or stressful.
Shocked or not? Tell me in the comments section below. Let’s discuss.