“Most people are so busy knocking themselves out trying to do everything they think they should do, they never get around to what they want to do.” –Kathleen Winsor
It’s no secret–today’s women are all about multi-tasking, which, as it turns out, is a big huge myth–in fact, the “multi-tasking myth” is a well-known thing these days. Some would call the idea of multi-tasking complete bullshit.
Whether we’re work-at-home moms, stay-at-home moms, corporate career girls or retail clerks (or any number of acceptable roles we might choose), we’re all doing about 50 things at any given time, am I right?
But as we all know all too well–distractions get in the way of progress! Too often, even the slightest distractions end up being the difference between achieving your goals and missing the mark.
It’s important to remember that it doesn’t make you BAD–just unfocused. And hey, it’s natural for various emotions and events to cause your mind to stray. For example, I just moved out of the home I’ve lived in with my family for the past 11 years and into our dream home–and that’s been keeping me very busy for about a month now. But it’s important to avoid getting sidetracked for too long–for me and for you–because if you (and I) don’t, we’ll never get anything productive done. Well, not everything we need to get done, anyway.
Get Past the Multi-Tasking Myth: How to Really Get Stuff Done
Avoid Distractions to Achieve Your Goals
Take these steps to discipline your senses and give yourself the focus necessary to succeed:
Listen to music. As strange as it sounds, music can boost your ability to avoid distractions. But how does noise help you concentrate?
Studies have shown that classical music enhances visual attention. Subjects apparently focus better with classical music playing than they do in silence.
Listening to music also helps you make the most out of your workout. The music you listen to at the gym is really useful. It helps you focus on working out by taking your attention away from the discomfort.
Focus on one thing at a time. This step is a work in progress because we live in a world where multitasking is the norm. It’s easy to get caught up with doing more than one thing.
Your efforts to accomplish several things at the same time may be breaking your focus.
For the next few weeks, try to keep your tasks simple and one-dimensional. Aim to complete one thing before moving on to the other. Even if you feel underutilized in the process, try to stick to it.
By allowing your mind and senses to focus on only one thing, you’ll be able to give it your undivided attention. Then, you’ll be able to successfully complete the task.
Avoid distracting situations. When you’re surrounded by things or people whose appeal you would rather explore than focusing on what you’re currently doing, you’re setting yourself up for distractions.
A great example is studying in front of the television. In this situation, many of your senses are engaged in what you’re watching on TV, rather than on your studies. Find a quiet place to study, instead.
Let’s say you have a deadline for work. Develop the discipline to tell your friends that partying is out of the question tonight. Learn to say “no” to distractions.
Consider the repercussions. A little conscious thinking is all it takes to maintain focus. Have you ever stopped to consider the repercussions of allowing distractions to take over? Surely you would be less than thrilled if great opportunities passed you by!
Learning how to balance your priorities will benefit you. How useful is that particular distraction going to be to you a few hours, days, or months from now? Probably useless. Focusing on what’s important gives you lasting satisfaction.
Allowing distractions to consume your mind also leaves you open to other issues that can interfere with achieving your goals. It’s possible that your mind can become lazy, impatient, and sometimes angry.
Great things are in store for you once you allow yourself to focus on your goals. Remember that your ultimate satisfaction comes from reaching your goals. If you maintain focus, success is sure to come your way!
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If you’ve ever felt frustrated because you struggled to complete a task or achieve a goal, you understand the importance of self-discipline. Working to improve your self-discipline is a challenge that will take a bit of effort, but the results will be well worth your time.
Having self-discipline means not requiring anyone else to know about what you’re doing or why. All you need is to know within yourself that you want something badly enough to achieve it, no matter what.
Try these tips to increase your self-discipline:
Whether you’re striving toward a career goal or working to finish a project at home, be sure about what you want to do.
Rather than saying, “I’ll try to lose some weight,” say instead, “I will lose 10 pounds in 3 months.”
Semantics are important here. Taking the attitude, “I will” shows much more self-discipline than “I’ll try.”
Set yourself up for success by making a firm decision to accomplish your goal.
Self-discipline requires a certain degree of focus. What you plan to do or want to do must be so important that it stays in the forefront of your mind until you achieve it.
Leave yourself a sticky note so you remember what you’re doing.
Tape it to your bathroom mirror or your computer.
Visualize what reaching your goal will look and feel like.
Expect to fail once in a while.
One of the best ways to learn about self-discipline is to flounder at least once. This way, you experience the gravity of not getting or accomplishing whatever it is that you want.
Most importantly, don’t beat yourself up.
Tell yourself, “Okay, this is just a slip and it’s normal. Now, I’m really going to go for it and do what I’ve set out to do.”
Use failure productively by telling yourself you’ll work even harder to increase your self-discipline.
Record milestones, both projected and achieved.
Keep track of your tasks and projects that contribute to your goals and celebrate your achievements along the way.
Achieving milestones and taking special notice of them will provide impetus to move you forward.
Hang out with people you admire.
One of the best ways to learn how to improve in some area of your life is to gravitate toward people that do well in that area. Make friends with people you admire for their self-discipline, follow-through, and ability to accomplish goals.
Apply your keen observation skills to see how they do it. Ask questions. Compliment them. Then, strive even harder to achieve what you set out to do.
Let yourself be inspired to develop more self-discipline by people who are living their dreams.
Increasing your self-discipline is definitely possible, but results may not come overnight. Avoid letting failure deter you in your quest to develop self-discipline. Instead, use it to motivate yourself to try harder.
Picking yourself up after a fall is the heart of self-discipline. Try these tips and before you know it, you’ll have developed this critical skill, which you can apply to anything in your life.
“I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” ~Bill Cosby
What does success mean to you?
You might define it as having a stable job in a large company where there’s opportunity for growth, or owning a home. Or maybe your vision of success includes owning your own business or backpacking through Europe every five years. Your personal success goals most likely also include spiritual, relationship, and other life aspirations.
Whatever your perspective may be, one of your primary tasks in life is to cultivate your own good fortune. What will you do to welcome success into your life?
Try these ideas for cultivating the success you seek:
1. Tell yourself you’re worthy of success. What you say to yourself every day contributes greatly to the type of life you live. So, say to yourself that you’re worth whatever it takes to be successful. You know you deserve it.
2. Be very certain about what you want. When you’re confident about exactly what you seek in life, you’re better able to stay focused and keep your eyes on the prize.
3. Visualize your goals. Imagine what success will feel like – but bring it into your present, like you’ve already attained what you want. Picture in your mind having achieved your goals and the emotions that go along with your victories. While you’re working to achieve success, consider how your life will look at each step of your journey.
For example, you might live in your apartment two more years before you begin shopping for your own home. Your new place will have an extra bedroom you use as your office. When you have your own office at home, you’ll be able to expand your business, which will make you more money and lead to greater financial security.
4. Prioritize your goals for success. Make your objectives an important part of your life. Think about your goals each day. Talk about your intentions with your friends and family. When you do, the plans you make will become real, tangible, and believable.
5. Do at least one thing per day related to your goals. Incorporate working toward your goals into your daily life. Whether you make a phone call or research something on the internet, contribute to your goals each day by doing something. You’ll feel more actively engaged with your own path to success.
6. Hang out with successful people. Soak up all the knowledge you can from those who live the life you dream about. Watch what they’re doing and then learn from it. Can you apply those same things to your own life? Find inspiration when you hang out with people you deem successful.
7. Think of yourself as already successful. Point out to yourself daily what you’ve done recently to achieve a goal. View yourself as a person who’s already achieved success in his own right and in his own ways. Believe that you’re successful.
8. Shift gears when you need to. In your life journey, you’ll naturally change your goals a bit or add new goals. Cultivating success means you’ll sometimes need to change your course of action or begin making different decisions that are in alignment with your new goals.
There are plenty of methods for cultivating success. When you engage in these strategies, you can achieve your goals. You can begin creating your desired life today!
How will you cultivate success in your life today? Share your thoughts, experiences and ideas in the comments section below.
“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” -Tony Robbins
Today is the very first day of the rest of your life. Today, you get to decide exactly who you are, what you’ll accept and how your day will go. You are powerful and you are in charge. Now, let’s do this.
Create Rules For Your Life That Serve You Well
Having rules that govern your life, behavior, and choices might seem confining and restrictive. But there’s a profound freedom that comes from living by a set of rules that you’ve chosen for yourself. You can refrain from toiling over as many decisions.
It’s pretty easy, really.
You just follow your own rules.
For example, let’s say you had the rule that you’re never going to lie to your partner. Because that’s a rule, you never have to ask yourself whether you should tell the truth. And you don’t struggle to keep track of which lie you told him or her–fact is, you know what you said because you said what was true.
Bam–huge amount of stress–gone! When you follow the rules you make and never go rogue, you avoid the drama and the emotional drain. In the case of our example, you simply tell the truth and get on with life. Easy–simple–underrated.
How to Create Life Rules That Work FOR You
Develop your own set of rules for each aspect of your life. Rules provide the framework for having a more productive and stress-free life.
Need help creating a unique set of rules for your own life? Check out this example for some inspiration.
1. I always go to bed and get up at times that provide me with the opportunity to get a minimum of 8 hours of sleep.
2. I refrain from checking email before 10 AM or after 4 PM.
3. I refuse to answer the phone when I’m spending time with my family.
4. I tell everyone in my family that I love them at least once per day.
5. I accept full responsibility for all outcomes in my life, both good and bad.
6. I read a minimum of 30 minutes per day.
7. I speak to all of my friends at least once each month.
8. I meditate every night for 10 minutes before I go to sleep.
9. Before bed, I make a list of the most important items to complete the following day.
And so on.
Why You Need the Rules
Each week, we all make choices that result in guilty or remorseful feelings. But we also make tough decisions that we know are correct. Having a list of rules for your behavior makes it easier to make wise decisions with less mental turmoil.
Your rules can move you closer to your goals, as well as remove frustration from your life.
More Help: Tips to Flesh Out Your Life Rules
1. Make a list of your most important goals. It’s helpful to have goals related to your finances, health, family, and personal accomplishments. If you know your goals, you can develop rules that support them.
2. What are your values? When you’re behaving in a manner that’s congruent with your values, you’ll be much happier and more successful.
3. What obstacles stand in your way? How do you waste time? What are your weaknesses? Rules that eliminate or minimize the challenges in your life are worthwhile.
4. What example do you want to set for your children? If you have children, what do you want them to see when they watch you? They’re always watching, even if you think they aren’t.
Most of us are striving for a greater degree of freedom, and rules seem like a limit to freedom. However, you free up a lot of mental resources when you make important decisions beforehand. If your rule is to exercise every day, then you can avoid having to spend 20 minutes deciding whether or not to exercise. You just do it.
Assignment: Draft Your Personal Life Rules
Take the time to make your own set of rules. The number doesn’t matter. Start with a couple and add more as you see fit. Make some rules for yourself in order to set yourself free.
Take a few moments to come up with a working draft of your personal life rules.
Document the rules, either on paper on electronically.
Do this exercise in your personal journal (online or offline) and/or your blog.