Want to change something? Do it. It’s easy!

Want to change something? Do it. It’s easy!

You really can do anything you set your mind to – and that includes almost literally everything. 

Many of us have big dreams that we try not to think about. Some people want to be astronauts, some people want to be rock stars… but few people will admit that when asked at a party what they’re interested in.

Problem is, we feel a bit silly admitting to our ambitious dreams and hopes because we know they have a small chance of becoming real. We let a fear of failure prevent us from speaking about our aims – and even prevent us from acknowledging them!

But this is hugely misguided. The reality is actually that it is easy to achieve anything you want to achieve. And you can be whatever you want to be – just like the teachers told you at school. Read on and we’ll look at how and why this can be the case.

How to be a Rock Musician?

If you want to be a rock musician, what do you do?

The first step is simply to start playing rock. What you could do next though is to start recording that playing and maybe upload it to YouTube. Do this enough and eventually you’ll get a following as people start to add you and subscribe. Over the course of a few years, you could eventually end up with a list of subscribers that’s long enough to make you legitimately something of a minor celebrity…

Want to be a novelist? Then you can write a book and publish it on LuLu (a self publishing site) to be able to legitimately say you’re a ‘published author’.

The point is that it’s actually very easy to become the thing you want to be. Getting to the point where you’re professional is harder but you don’t need to make your job the thing that defines you. So in other words, if you want to say you’re a ‘writer’ all you have to do is to ‘write’.

Once you start looking at your goals and dreams like this, it allows you to completely forget the idea of failure. Failure is no longer an issue and so you can attack your goals with vigor. You can’t fail to ‘write regularly’ and this allows you to enjoy the thi8ngs you are passionate about without feeling the need to lie or to downplay your hopes and objectives.

You can be anything you want to be – and being good comes with time!

Juggling Act? 14 Steps to Goal Management

Juggling Act? 14 Steps to Goal Management

“I wake up every morning and I feel like I’m juggling glass balls. I live in Los Angeles, my business is run out of London, and most evenings I’m cuddled up in front of Skype, in my dressing gown, speaking with my studio in London. I travel a lot, my team travel a lot, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.” ~Victoria Beckham

Juggling Multiple Goals Made Easy

You probably think life would be so much simpler if you could just concentrate on helping your kids with their homework or running a faster mile.

The reality is that we all have to juggle a wide variety of goals.

A number of studies suggest that breaking goals down into specific action steps works when applied to a single goal. However, that approach tends to backfire when we have more going on. It seems we become more aware of the potential obstacles in our way.

So what do you do if you need to make progress on multiple fronts without getting overwhelmed? Consider these strategies.

Evaluate Your Current List of Goals

  1. Select three priorities. If you feel like you’re being pulled in all directions, take time to reflect on what matters most to you. You may decide that preparing simpler meals is an acceptable tradeoff for having more time to spend with your family. 
  2. Be realistic about time limits. We often underestimate how long it will take to complete routine tasks. Ensure you know how much time you really have to work with in a typical week.
  3. Decline requests tactfully. Learning to say no graciously will spare you from taking on excessive obligations. It’s okay if you want to skip a baby shower for a former coworker you lost touch with years ago. 
  4. Stay up to date. Our objectives shift at different stages in our lives. Go ahead and scale down your career ambitions if you’ve found greater meaning in your spiritual practices.

How to Successfully Juggle the Goals You Want to Keep 

  1. Select role models. Interestingly, researchers have found that we’re more optimistic about handling multiple goals if we think the people around us are busier than we are. Get inspired by a neighbor who’s training for the Olympics and finishing law school.
  2. Define your success. Figure out how to grade yourself. Maybe you want to excel at parenting, but you’re satisfied with getting your car washed once a month.
  3. Merge projects into one. Just spotting the connections between one concern and another may make your life easier. Focus on being healthy rather than counting every calorie.
  4. Resist rushing. Slow down. Chronic stress undermines your performance across the board.
  5. Segment your time. Break your day up into broad time slots. Budget an hour to spend on writing a report. Devote the next half hour to walking through the park. Switching between activities will keep your mind fresh.
  6. Master logistics. Organization helps you get things done more quickly. Calculate the best route for completing all your errands in one trip instead of making separate outings to pick up the dry cleaning and drop the dog off at the groomer.
  7. Work as a team. Encourage a spirit of community and cooperation. Thank your kids for pitching in with age appropriate household tasks. Take turns cleaning the office refrigerator.
  8. Seek expert help. Shorten your learning curve by consulting those who already know the ropes. Financial planning is one key area where professionals can help you understand how to balance different needs.
  9. Know your best time of day. Schedule your most challenging demands for the times when you’re at your peak. If you’re an early bird, study foreign languages over breakfast. Night owls can review their finances after dinner.  
  10. Stay fit. Protect your ability to pull off everything you want to do in life. Make sure your goals include staying in top physical and mental condition. 

Pare down your to do list and coordinate your efforts around the goals that are most important to you. You’ll worry less and get more accomplished.

The Multi-Tasking Myth: How to Really Get Stuff Done

The Multi-Tasking Myth: How to Really Get Stuff Done

“Most people are so busy knocking themselves out trying to do everything they think they should do, they never get around to what they want to do.”
–Kathleen Winsor

stressed-multitasking-womanIt’s no secret–today’s women are all about multi-tasking, which, as it turns out, is a big huge myth–in fact, the “multi-tasking myth” is a well-known thing these days. Some would call the idea of multi-tasking complete bullshit.

Whether we’re work-at-home moms, stay-at-home moms, corporate career girls or  retail clerks (or any number of acceptable roles we might choose), we’re all doing about 50 things at any given time, am I right?

But as we all know all too well–distractions get in the way of progress! Too often, even the slightest distractions end up being the difference between achieving your goals and missing the mark.

It’s important to remember that it doesn’t make you BAD–just unfocused. And hey, it’s natural for various emotions and events to cause your mind to stray. For example, I just moved out of the home I’ve lived in with my family for the past 11 years and into our dream home–and that’s been keeping me very busy for about a month now. But it’s important to avoid getting sidetracked for too long–for me and for you–because if you (and I) don’t, we’ll never get anything productive done. Well, not everything we need to get done, anyway.

Get Past the Multi-Tasking Myth: How to Really Get Stuff Done

Avoid Distractions to Achieve Your Goals

Take these steps to discipline your senses and give yourself the focus necessary to succeed:

 Listen to music. As strange as it sounds, music can boost your ability to avoid distractions. But how does noise help you concentrate?

  • Studies have shown that classical music enhances visual attention. Subjects apparently focus better with classical music playing than they do in silence.
  • Listening to music also helps you make the most out of your workout. The music you listen to at the gym is really useful. It helps you focus on working out by taking your attention away from the discomfort.

Focus on one thing at a time. This step is a work in progress because we live in a world where multitasking is the norm. It’s easy to get caught up with doing more than one thing.

  •  Your efforts to accomplish several things at the same time may be breaking your focus.
  • For the next few weeks, try to keep your tasks simple and one-dimensional. Aim to complete one thing before moving on to the other. Even if you feel underutilized in the process, try to stick to it.
  • By allowing your mind and senses to focus on only one thing, you’ll be able to give it your undivided attention. Then, you’ll be able to successfully complete the task.

Avoid distracting situations. When you’re surrounded by things or people whose appeal you would rather explore than focusing on what you’re currently doing, you’re setting yourself up for distractions.

  • A great example is studying in front of the television. In this situation, many of your senses are engaged in what you’re watching on TV, rather than on your studies. Find a quiet place to study, instead.
  • Let’s say you have a deadline for work. Develop the discipline to tell your friends that partying is out of the question tonight. Learn to say “no” to distractions.

Consider the repercussions. A little conscious thinking is all it takes to maintain focus. Have you ever stopped to consider the repercussions of allowing distractions to take over? Surely you would be less than thrilled if great opportunities passed you by!

  • Learning how to balance your priorities will benefit you. How useful is that particular distraction going to be to you a few hours, days, or months from now? Probably useless. Focusing on what’s important gives you lasting satisfaction.
  • Allowing distractions to consume your mind also leaves you open to other issues that can interfere with achieving your goals. It’s possible that your mind can become lazy, impatient, and sometimes angry.

Great things are in store for you once you allow yourself to focus on your goals. Remember that your ultimate satisfaction comes from reaching your goals. If you maintain focus, success is sure to come your way!

 

 

Affirmations & Reflections: On Being Focused

Affirmations & Reflections: On Being Focused

Motivation

I give thanks daily for my focus in life.

I am confident in my ability to achieve my goals. Each day, I live with presence and conviction and, therefore, make good on my dreams. For this, I am intensely grateful.

I know that I can have what I want! All I need to do is focus. I put forth my intention and my dreams and desires are made manifest.

Focus is the biggest secret to my success. I pay close attention to what I want and then devote my energy to accomplishing my dreams.

Sometimes, achieving my goals requires greater effort than at other times. When this is the case, I am particularly thankful for my focus. Sustained effort requires motivation and motivation requires remembering why I am willing to put in some hard work. But when I focus on my goals, motivation comes easily.

If I feel distracted or scattered, I take a few moments to close my eyes and just breathe. I notice the sensations of my feet on the floor and my hands resting on my lap.

This simple exercise renews my focus by bringing me into the present moment. And when I am fully present, I feel gratitude for where I am and how far I have come.

Today, I make time to contemplate my many accomplishments. I am thankful for my focus in life, which enables me to have all that I want.

I seek out opportunities to cultivate this gratitude by paying attention to my deepest desires and pursuing them devotedly.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What are some of the things I have accomplished in the last year?
2. To what do I attribute these successes?
3. Are there aspects of my life that could benefit from greater focus?

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