Want to make your whole life better, but you’re not where to start?
It all seems simple enough. Focus first on the parts that need attention the most and work your way down, right?
Sounds easy, but what if you aren’t sure how to prioritize the changes you want to make?
If you’re you’re a fan of flowcharts and visual aids, the “perfect 10” strategy might be just what you need to get started on creating the life you want.
Maybe you’ve already tried rating the different areas of your life. And even when the lower-rated areas of your life were improved, maybe they only got as good as a six or a seven at best.
But guess what? You’re not stuck. You can still reach that “perfect 10.” Try these strategies to help you get started.
Analyze Your Approach
When parts of your life get stuck, it might be time to change your approach. Any strategy has a maximum result, and the techniques that draw most people will never get them above a five-to-seven range.
For example, strict adherence to a 10-minutes-a-day exercise program won’t get you to swimsuit model status.
No matter how perfectly the strategy is implemented, your results from that strategy can only take you to a certain level. You must be ever-evolving.
Sometimes, you’ve just got to start fresh.
I hear that professional golfers occasionally get stuck in their progress and completely redesign their swings. For a while, they’re stuck at what they consider to be a two-three level, but frequently they are then able to push through and finally reach a 10 with a new strategy.
Even with a more effective strategy, you might feel that it will take too long to get to a ten from a six. Yes, it can take some time, but the time is going to pass anyway, so you might as well spend it making your life better. You can keep growing, and keep seeing new levels of satisfaction in what you can become.
What is a ten?
You have to define it to find it. The first step is to consider what a ten actually is–what does it look like to you? If you’re talking income, is it $200,000 a year? Is it $1 million a year with less than 20 hours of work a week? You’ll only get where you’re going if you know your destination.
Set goals to move toward that perfect ten.
Now that you know where you’re going, get started on the journey. Be aggressive but smart. As long as you keep moving forward, it’s impossible to fail. You only fail when you stop trying–think of setbacks as a blessing. Now you now what NOT to do to succeed.
Evaluate your progress.
It’s important to take a hard look at the progress you’re making toward that goal. If your path isn’t working, do something else–it’s that simple. Just try a different strategy. Don’t waste your time sticking to something that isn’t giving you the results you need.
And when things are working, keep going.
What Happens When You Reach Your Ten?
When you reach your ten, you’ll realize that your original six was actually a three or a four, based on your new perspective.
Realizing how big a ten really is shows you how much higher you can go as you reach each milestone.
Truth is, you’re far more capable than you may have imagined–and it never ends.
A billionaire, for example, has far more money than he could spend in ten lifetimes, but he still feels the need to see if he’s capable of more. Being fixed in one spot is never satisfying for long. The pleasure is in the progress and experience, not in hitting some milestone.
It’s all about evolving–ever-evolving.
Ultimately, the amount of fulfillment you feel can be proportional to the amount of action you’re taking.
So get out there and do as much as you can to meet your goals. A perfect 10 is within your reach.
What “perfect 10” are you working on right now? Share your thoughts in the comments section, below!
Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse here at QueenBeeing.com and at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.