I gotta tell you, I love the holidays. I really do. It’s so much fun to see the kids opening their gifts, and I love spending time with the extended families and catching up with everyone.
All that fun (and gift wrapping…and travel…and cooking…etc) can be exhausting and can certainly throw one off track. I know that I have found myself out of my routine and feeling blocked for the last couple of days, so I thought it would be a good idea to figure out how to get focused again.
Whether you’re struggling with post-holiday let down, or just general scattered-ness (like me), finding one’s groove again is a pretty common challenge after the holidays. That said, allow me to offer a few suggestions to help you (and me) get back on track!
1. Do your affirmations. Whether you have a daily set or you just affirm as needed, get back into the groove of it. Maybe add one to your list like this: “I am grounded, centered, and focused.”
2. Meditate. I found this little technique online (here). It’s particularly simple and quite helpful: Four-Corner Breathing How-To
1. Find an object nearby that has four corners — a box, your monitor, or even this page.
2. Start at the upper-left-hand corner and inhale for 4 counts.
3. Turn your gaze to the upper-right-hand corner and hold your breath for 4 counts.
4. Move to the lower-right-hand corner. Exhale for 4.
5. Now shift your attention to the lower-left-hand corner. Tell yourself to relax and smile. Repeat 3 to 5 times, or as often as you like.
3. Get off your butt. Thaaat’s right, I said it. Get some exercise, get your blood flowing. You don’t have to make yourself sore, just move your body a little. Take a walk, dance with your kids, whatever. It will perk you right up.
4. Clean something. De-holiday your house, or just dust the knick-knacks. Whatever works for you. Sometimes cleaning up around the house seems to translate into cleaning up the clutter in your head. At least it does for me.
5. Just do it. You know, like those Nike people always say. Try going through the motions a little. For example, if you’re…say… a freelance writer (like me), you could…I don’t know…write a blog about ways to get focused again. I’m just saying, it might help. 🙂 Blog about it, journal about it…draw a picture…whatever gets you going.
6. Think happy thoughts, happy thoughts. My final tip of the day is to keep your chin up. Don’t let life overwhelm you. Take it one step at a time, and remember that everything will be okay, even if it takes you another day or two to get your groove back. Keep an eye on your perspective, and if you find yourself feeling stressed, start counting your blessings. Remembering the good things we have and feeling grateful for them is one way to stay focused on the best parts of our lives, which invites more good.
So my challenge to you today is simple. Get back on track, whatever that means for you, and remember to keep smiling!
Do you find yourself struggling to regain focus after the holidays? How do you handle it? Will that change this year? Share your thoughts in the comments section, below!
Every man should be born again on the first day of January. Start with a fresh page. Take up one hole more in the buckle if necessary, or let down one, according to circumstances; but on the first of January let every man gird himself once more, with his face to the front, and take no interest in the things that were and are past. ~Henry Ward Beecher
Happy new year (Photo credit: Amodiovalerio Verde)
2012 was a pretty eventful year for me. I grew my career. I got closer to some people in my life, and I redefined some relationships. I made some really difficult choices, and I learned a lot about myself.
I took a step back and looked at my life with fresh eyes, a new perspective provided by the choices I made, and I came to understand many things on a profound new level.
In the end, I am calling 2012 a success and I’m so grateful for all of the wonderful people, things and situations in my life. I love my life and I’m very blessed to have everything I could ever want or need to be happy. 🙂
But back in 2010, I started this new thing, and I had to share it with you–because it changed my world.
Instead of coming up with a bunch of traditional “New Year’s Resolutions,” I’m going with “New Year’s Intentions.”
As far as I’m concerned, resolutions are sort of a recipe for negativity. Statistically speaking, most people don’t follow through with most resolutions–and they’re left feeling like they’ve failed. This can begin a cycle of negativity that can spin out of control.
I’m starting out 2013 by feeling good. I’ve lost a significant amount of weight, I’m feeling happy and healthy and I am generally doing better than I’ve ever done on many levels.
I’ve said it a thousand times, and I’ll say it again: when we feel good, we bring more reasons to feel good into our lives.
What we think about, we bring about. If we focus on our problems, we attract more problems into our lives.
When we think about things or situations or people that we find unpleasant–guess what? We are actively attracting them into our lives.
So this year, instead of promising myself I am going to Become A Whole New Person, I am promising myself that I will be happy with who I am, right now.
I will define myself, instead of letting someone else define me. I am promising myself to focus on positive thoughts, actions, people, places, things.
I am promising myself that I will focus on what I want–not what I don’t want.
Instead of worrying about the size of my jeans, I’m going to focus on the fact that my body is an amazing machine that helps me do what I want and need to do every day.
Instead of focusing on the dust on my shelves, I’m going to focus on being grateful for the home that those dusty shelves (and I) live in.
Instead of worrying about mean people and icky situations, I’m going to focus on love–love for my family and friends, love for my career, love for myself.
You get the idea–like the old song goes, I’m going to accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative.
Instead of focusing on what other people think about me and want from me, I’m going to focus on what I think and what I want for me.
If I feel stressed or anxious, I am going to change my mind, and focus on the things for which I’m grateful instead. I’m not going to beat myself up if something doesn’t go my way–I’m going to realize that another opportunity is on the way and stay positive in anticipation of it.
It’s all in my head. And that’s where it all starts, for each and every one of us. It’s good to think big–just remember to focus on your own vision and not what you think you’re supposed to want.