Are you tired of being the victim of narcissistic abuse? Fully over being drained by energy vampires? Are you done with feeling as if your confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth have been slashed to pieces by someone who was supposed to love you? Do you want to reclaim your power, heal from the pain, and gain the tools you need to move on into a healthier life?
Understanding the Trauma of Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic abuse is a traumatic experience that can leave you feeling like your life has been upended, to put it very mildly. You may feel alone, misunderstood, and like you’ll never be the same again. It can be very painful and it will feel nearly impossible to carry on.
It’s packed with simple tools and tips on how to recover from narcissistic abuse and take back your life. You’ll learn how to recognize the signs of narcissism, what it means to be gaslit, and how to move on once you’ve been gaslit by a narcissist.
Even better, I built an entire online narcissistic abuse recovery support system meant to help you heal from narcissistic abuse by giving you tools and techniques to overcome the damaging effects of neglect, abandonment, and/or abuse at the hands of someone you trusted to protect you. It offers a virtual roadmap to recovery from narcissistic abuse and you’ll have a guided experience at no cost to you when you simply sign up for email service.
Speed up your narcissistic recovery now.
One of the most effective, low-cost tools I’ve created has already helped hundreds of people just like you and me to take back their lives – and it comes with a free year of online (but OFF social media) support from a private support group and narcissistic abuse recovery coaches and experts.
I call it Positively Profound Personal Transformation After Narcissistic Abuse – and it will help you do exactly what it says: profoundly transform yourself into the person you truly want and deserve to be.
You’ll stop being a victim and start being a survivor. You’ll learn to fend off the “energy vampires” in your life, and you’ll find a way to rise above the negative, toxic people who have effectively destroyed you.
Plus: you’ll be able to become the most powerful version of yourself as you heal and learn to use new tools to deal with the narcissist in your life, however that looks for you.
SPANily Home is an independent online community that offers support to survivors through peer support, online workshops, and more. It does not rely on Facebook or any other social media site.
Plus: optional guided group coaching sessions and one-on-one mentoring with international experts in narcissistic abuse recovery and personal transformation, occasional guest experts in the field of narcissistic abuse, and educational materials such as books and videos that will aid in healing.
All of that being said, don’t feel pressured to purchase this particular deal. There are tons of free and cheap services and tools you can use at QueenBeeing.com – and if you’d prefer more personal or direct support, I invite you to check our Zoom group coaching and/or one-on-one coaching.
Start Getting Help with Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Today
I’m so excited to share my newest narcissistic abuse recovery coaching program – this one is a personalized, one-on-one Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coaching Program that I’m calling Clear the Slate.
Not only will it save you $278 total in appointment discounts and services discounts, but it’ll also offer you tons of additional help and content, which you can keep forever to help you as you go forward.
The goal: Clear the Slate and Get Your Feet on Solid Ground: Stop Spinning Your Wheels (A 6-Week Personalized Program to Help You Find Center and Start Living Again)
Are you dealing with narcissistic abuse in a relationship, or have you dealt with it in the past? If so, you might be a candidate for this program.
As you’re going through this recovery and growth process of recognizing and getting through narcissistic abuse, or of getting over a narcissistic relationship (not to mention the mental damage done by it), you might start to feel like you’re not quite connected like you should be – or like you want to be.
Let me ask you: do you ever feel like there’s a sort of barrier or bubble around you that prevents you from actually experiencing life?
Or maybe you can’t quite “feel” the world around you? Or, is it kind of like like you’re looking at people through a fog or screen, or maybe like you just have no emotions at all?
If you’re feeling scattered, forgetting things and generally dissociating from yourself and your life as you work to heal from the abuse you endured during your narcissistic relationship, you’re not alone.
In fact, you might also be feeling a variety of PTSD-related symptoms as you go through this process, and that’s because you’ve been through an emotional hell, or you may still be going through it.
Here’s What’s In It for You
As we work together, you will learn how to stop spinning and put your feet on solid, level ground. By the time we’re finished, you’ll be ready to really start your new life and to begin creating the life and self you truly want and deserve.
This means you’ll learn:
To discover the exact reason and to let go of whatever brought you to this broken place in your life – and exactly how and why you should.
Why and how dissociation and other PTSD-related symptoms have literally saved your sanity and maybe even your life in the past, and why it’s so hard to let go of them.
How you can stop dissociating find center again.
Coping tactics for the weeks and months ahead as you go through your self-rediscovery process and get through the narcissistic abuse aftershocks.
How and why you’ve got to live in the moment.
Self-care affirmations, plans and daily routines to help you learn to love yourself, in a way that you never could before.
Included are the Following Weekly 45-Minute, One-on-One Coaching Sessions, Each Customized to Your Specific Situation and Needs
Week One: Push the ‘Restart Button’ On Your Life
Week Two: Letting Go of Old Baggage
Week Three: Managing Dissociation and PTSD 101
Week Four: How and Why to Start Living in the Moment
Week Five: Something to Anchor You
Week Six: Freedom and Self-Love: Developing Your Personal Passion Plan
And: Weekly Self-Discovery and Personal Development Missions:
Week One: Jumpstart Guide to Your Brand New Life
Week Two: Personal Baggage Inventory Tool: Figuring Out What You Can Leave at the “Station”
Week Three: Coping Tactics & Tools
Week Four: Tools for Development: Mantras for Moving Forward
Week Five: Anchoring Yourself: Your Personal Sign of Self-Actualization
Week Six: Your Passion Plan Building Kit
Plus: Tools to Help You Move Forward and Reclaim Your Life, Including:
Access to Coaching via App During the 6 Weeks and for 2 Weeks Afterward (Learn more at DailyCoach.App)
Daily & Weekly Reminders, Checklists and Related Reading Materials
Daily Affirmations, Journal Prompts, Exercises and Reflections sent to your private coaching inbox during the 6-week program.
“It took me realizing that a broken heart has never actually killed anyone to find the courage to ask for what I want, in just about every situation. That was part of my own growing up.” ~Ginnifer Goodwin
If you’ve experienced narcissistic abuse in a toxic relationship, you might be feeling like your heart is breaking when the relationship ends – even if you’re the one who ended it. But the journey, as painful it can feel, is a worthy one. And, if you want to leave it behind you and move forward, it’s a necessary one.
Emotional Healing for a Broken Heart
Isn’t it true that your emotions really take a hit when your heart is aching? Sometimes it feels like the day of healing is a million miles away. The difficult time you encountered in the past can take a while to be purged from your system. It’s definitely healthy to experience a range of emotions. However, it’s unwise to have the negative ones consume your existence. You’re better off working towards healing the hurt. That way, you can start to experience joy and happiness again. Emotional healing is possible if you work at repairing the source of the hurt. As you’ll see, that may mean making some tough decisions.
Try these narcissistic abuse recovery meditations.
If you’re honest with yourself, you’ll realize something important. Some of the negative influences may very well be the people closest to you! It’s going to be a challenge separating from them. But your emotional health is more important than maintaining those relationships. This is especially true when you’re dealing with narcissistic abuse – when someone you love is actively abusing you psychologically, emotionally, or even physically. This is when you’re going to want to consider going no contact in order to preserve your own sanity and to begin your healing on solid ground.
Are any of your friends guilty of adding fuel to the fire? Can you identify times when they’ve encouraged you to avoid forgiving someone who offended you? You can very quickly identify people whose advice is riddled with negativity. Avoid allowing the years of friendship to cloud your judgment. You can almost guarantee continued misery if you keep them in your life. Here’s a video on how to handle going no contact with someone who is toxic for you.
Learn to set and uphold your boundaries.
Most codependents and survivors of narcissistic abuse have trouble with setting boundaries. This might be due to the fact that they were never actually taught to do so in the first place, thanks to the fact that so many of us were raised by people who didn’t allow us to have boundaries at all. Or, it could be related to the ongoing abuse we have endured in our toxic relationships. If you’re struggling to set appropriate boundaries, this video will help you learn how to not only set those boundaries but also to uphold them as necessary.
Accept responsibility for your part in the relationship.
It’s pretty hard to look in the mirror, right? Deep down, you worry that everything is all your fault – and that’s understandable, given that the narcissist in your life made sure you believed it. But it’s difficult to accept that idea – and even more difficult to imagine that you might have been reacting to the narcissistic abuse. And at times, we feel angry at ourselves rather than the abuser, partially because we feel like we should’ve seen who they were much sooner, or because we think we are weak for tolerating it. In any case, if you’re struggling to see what really happened or what your part in the relationship really was, it can be a good idea to dig in and figure out exactly what your responsibility should be. Confront yourself – what could you have done better or differently, if anything? Maybe you just needed to be less accepting of the abuse. Maybe you struggled with depression and anxiety as a result of it. Either way, recognize what happened and work through it. Be courageous enough to accept responsibility for your part in the relationship so that you can move forward and heal – and avoid these toxic types of people in the future.
There is also something we call “reactive abuse,” which means that victims of narcissistic abuse will sometimes react to this ongoing torture and manipulation in verbally aggressive and in some cases, physically aggressive behavior. It isn’t okay, but it is understandable given the level to which narcissists will pressure and psychologically manipulate you.
You likely have a set of morals to live by. And while you know they exist, you may sometimes avoid them when making decisions. Abandoning morals is the easiest way to make missteps in life. Go back to your roots. Take a hard look at what really matters to you. Start to embrace those morals one by one. Start to repair how you approach situations. If making a decision means abandoning your moral compass, take another route.
Just like any other compass, your moral compass keeps you on track. It’s the best way to avoid getting lost in the sea of emotional decision-making.
Commit to daily renewal.
The road to emotional healing is long and winding. It’s something that usually takes quite a bit of time to achieve. But it can be done! All you need to do is recommit to the cause every morning when you wake up.
Daily renewal is the best way to turn your healing into a habit. When you go for days without that renewal, it’s easy to slip back into the heartache. Be fair to yourself. Remember you deserve the healing. At the end of each positive day, celebrate your progress. Congratulate yourself for completing one more day of healing and positive living. You’ll find that you rest more soundly at night.
Achieving emotional healing isn’t an automatic process, especially when you consider the pervasive and consuming nature of narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships. It takes time, patience with yourself, and a lot of attention to your own needs. This can feel really hard when you’ve been focused on someone else for so long, but now is the time to really take care of yourself. Focus on what you need and block out the noise around you. But don’t self-isolate and stay stuck forever. Here’s one more quick healing tip for you.